Robin Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 What questions or misconceptions about the aro spec do you hear? This may be useful for future FAQ sections on flyers, websites and such. Does that mean you don't love anyone, not even your family? Don't you mean asexuality? You probably just came out of a bad relationship. How can you tell if you haven't dated? 41 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peridotty Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Do you (still) have sex? (When) will you get married? You're probably just bitter (because of x breakup or x friends in relationships or whatever) 29 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
46odnetnin Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I thought that was a thing when flowers smell good? So like does that mean you love yourself more than anyone else? and the worst by far: Oh I'm so sorry for you THERE'S NOTHING WRONG 41 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 You had a crush on someone, though! (As lots of aros make up crushes or were just simply confusing them with squishes like me) But you watched a rom com the other day/romantic book etc. 48 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mikasa Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Maybe you have commitment issues? Perhaps your standards are too high, just give people a chance! 39 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vega Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 - "Do you want to be alone for your entire life?" As if my aromanticism was a choice I'd made, instead of the way my brain happened to work. - "Well it's probably because you have emotional issues." - "Or daddy issues" 1 hour ago, 46odnetnin said: Oh I'm so sorry for you I think my favorite is "I would rather tear my own skin off than live life without feeling love!!1!" Which was so overdramatic it turned hilarious. 33 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Confirmed Bachelor Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 It's just a fancy made-up word for being single because no one wants to date you and you're just trying to make yourself sound special. 35 1 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peridotty Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 just thought of another few that really bother me: "but you're so emotional!" that has nothing to do with it "don't sell yourself short!" im not "if you keep that up, you'll never get [significant other of the ~opposite gender~]" thats the point 37 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 How do you know you haven't met "the one"? 36 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spud Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 You're too young to know that! Give yourself some time (or) Just wait until college/some other arbitrary threshold. You'll definitely start to feel something by (insert arbitrary point when you are considered "mature")! You're just gay and closeted! 35 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 1 hour ago, Spud said: You're just gay and closeted! And alternatively, "you're just straight and confused!" 23 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
breaddd Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 My friend keeps getting confused and thinks that I'm asexual It's an every day struggle man. Most other people just thinking I don't want a relationship right now but I'll change my mind when I find the perfect person to blow me away. I'm just pretending or something to seem cool. (?) 25 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DannyFenton123 Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Also, aromantic does not equal sociopath. I've seen that one enough times on the lovely internet 31 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
breaddd Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 1 hour ago, Spud said: You're too young to know that! Give yourself some time (or) Just wait until college/some other arbitrary threshold. You'll definitely start to feel something by (insert arbitrary point when you are considered "mature")! It annoys me to no end when people assume that you can't think for yourself because you're not older than 20. 24 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassiopeia Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 "is it something I did wrong when you were younger?" (@my mum) - seriously, mum, we had this exact same conversation when I came out to you as a lesbian five years ago, its still.not.a.childhood.trauma. please chill "but if you'd fall in love sometime in the future, you would try to be in a relationship with them, right? You are not giving it up right? There is hope" (@my mum) - Yeah. Sure. And If I were a dog, I'd probably chase my tail all day like dogs do. But I am not, , and I am also not alloromantic, so why are we even talking about this? I'm not giving up romantic love. I just don't have it in the first place. "how can one be LGBTQ+ AND aromantic? Omg, you are oppressing the LGBTQ+ people by dragging arospec people into the same group?! You are straight and just wanna be in the ⁓special queer club⁓" (@some confused and furious alloromantic lesbian online) - oh girl, do you seriously think I'm so bored that I'd be playing oppression olympics online? seriously? I have loads of ideas about what to do with my sparse free time, I don't have time for your gate keeping nonsense "you are just a heartbreaker and/or unfaithful and/or cold hearted &@#?!, I hope karma will finally find you and then you will learn." (@some online troll) - I have no idea who hurt you, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't me. I don't go around lying to about my identity to "trick" people. what do you think I am??? but you did look like you were soooo in love with your ex. (@ my friend) - ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) wut? you could get therapy, you know. I know this shrink... (@ some acquaintance) - just out of curiosity, should I like, also pray the gay away while I'm at it? will you also recommend a 2 in 1 deal at some white trash faith healer? o___0 42 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zema Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 One specific person i told about my aromanticism just flat out didn't believe that it was real, telling me that everyone has to experience romantic love . 18 4 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
breaddd Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 54 minutes ago, Cassiopeia said: "is it something I did wrong when you were younger?" (@my mum) - seriously, mum, we had this exact same conversation when I came out to you as a lesbian five years ago, its still.not.a.childhood.trauma. please chill My mom thinks the same way...please, I am the way I am because I'm the way I am. It's not the result of something traumatic that happened. 16 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
omitef Posted April 14, 2016 Share Posted April 14, 2016 On 4/11/2016 at 10:36 AM, eddie said: It's just a fancy made-up word for being single because no one wants to date you and you're just trying to make yourself sound special. Y'know for the longest time I refused to consider I could've been arospec, because I thought I was just insecure and self-sabotaged all my romantic relationships because I felt like I didn't deserve anyone. Nah, I self-sabotaged because dating felt icky. "Oh, so you mean you like to play hard-to-get." 27 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tal Shi'ar Posted April 14, 2016 Share Posted April 14, 2016 Oh, you'll find someone/fall in love one day I had one or two others, but I forgot them, for now. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lume Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 Since many people do not even know asexuality, and think that being asexual means not wanting a relationship, I lead them to believe that usually. Others, whether confronted with the term "aromantic" or not, responded something like: "Oh, that is so sad, you miss the most beautiful thing in life!" (an asexual person, btw) "When the right man (!) comes along....." (I grow fed up with telling people that if there was a right person, their rightness would consist in not even wanting to be in a relationship with me) "I know exactly how you feel, there were times when I didn't want a relationship either and I really enjoyed being single!" (Glad for you, happily married! Still, that's not what I mean) "Is this your latest quirk?" (No comment) 26 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PerformativeSurprise Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 "You say that now, but what if you meet the most perfect guy? *gives knowing look* Bet you'll change your mind then " 5 hours ago, Lume said: "I know exactly how you feel, there were times when I didn't want a relationship either and I really enjoyed being single!" (Glad for you, happily married! Still, that's not what I mean) Ah yes, I've gotten this one before too. It was nice that they were trying to relate, but they definitely missed the point. 17 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Posted April 16, 2016 Share Posted April 16, 2016 On 11/04/2016 at 9:25 PM, Spud said: You're too young to know that! Give yourself some time (or) Just wait until college/some other arbitrary threshold. You'll definitely start to feel something by (insert arbitrary point when you are considered "mature")! Possibly you could get "OK, you were right all along!" as an epitaph. So you don't want (a) relationship or "emotional connection" with anyone. But everyone wants that... 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Syao Posted April 16, 2016 Share Posted April 16, 2016 Apologies for derogatory terms/names "Oh you are just a slut." - um, like no? So what if I still like sex/feel sexual attraction doesn't mean I'm a slut, literally stop slut shaming people especially aromantic people. "Wow such a cold hearted bitch." - just because I don't want to date or get into a romantic relationship with you or anyone else, doesn't make me cold hearted. Someone sounds bitter and it isn't me. "So what, your like a robot?" - Ah yes, you have found out my secret, I am a robot hiding in a flesh body, incapable of any feeling or emotion because romantic emotion is the only emotion any human being is capable of. "But romance is what makes us human!" - As an anthropology major, I can tell you what makes us human is not romance. It is actually our bipedalism, culture (though this topic is highly argued), laguage and our thirst for knowledge. Other animals are highly romantic and is not a determined factor that makes humans human. 41 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Confirmed Bachelor Posted April 16, 2016 Share Posted April 16, 2016 @Syao sometimes I'd rather people think I'm a robot rather than a human. Have you met humans? 26 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
46odnetnin Posted April 17, 2016 Share Posted April 17, 2016 3 hours ago, eddie said: @Syao sometimes I'd rather people think I'm a robot rather than a human. Have you met humans? Same, whenever we manage to transfer concousness into a robot body I'm down for volunteering. 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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