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  1. Some girl with whom I only exchanged stares on the corridor just confessed to me that she has a crush on me. I only know her name and what lectures she attended last year (I am in college), we talked only like "hi, how are you?" and that's all. When I gently told her that unfortunately I can't reciprocate her romantic feelings and apologized to her, she started crying and spitting out things like "why? are you gay?", "am I ugly?", "you don't like me? but you were so nice to me!", "can't you just give me a chance? please, I'll do everything" etc. So I held her hands and I told her "I'm afraid it's literally impossible, I'm really, really sorry". I started to search for tissues in my bag and I wanted to give them to her so she could wipe her tears. She took them but just clenched them in hands instead of using them. She looked really sad so I touched her shoulder and apologized again, then I wanted to go home but she told me to stop and tell her why is it impossible for me to even try dating her, then she will leave and never talk to me again. I was tired so I said "I'm aromantic". She asked me what is that so I explained "I can't fall in love with anyone because I'm not romantically attracted to any gender, but I don't want you to feel sad and disappointed... So I guess we could become friends instead?". She got angry all of sudden and screamed at me "I don't want to be your friend! I wanted a boyfriend, not a friend! You aromantic people are so selfish, destructive and heartless, especially guys, like you! People want their love to be reciprocated, damn it!". Then she threw at me the pack of tissues I gave her before and ran away. I understand that for alloromantic people it's probably hard to get rejected from their crush, but still... What she said was just mean and not true at all. I literally tried to calm her down and explain everything as good as I could, I apologized a few times but it still wasn't enough. Why couldn't she just understand that I'm not attracted to her and I will never be? This situation really screwed up my frame of mind in general. So can some of you try to comfort me? Or at least explain why was she so harsh on me? I want to understand what I did wrong... Who made a mistake? Me, her, neither or both of us? I'm really, really confused.
    7 points
  2. Hey all. Just a bit of a ramble and inquiry into if anyone else has felt this. But basically I'm at the life stage where all my friends are getting serious long term partners to move in with or married to. Obviously I'm aro and have no interest in this and very happily live with my Mom who I have a wonderful relationship with. We keep each other company plus I couldn't afford to live by myself anyways. I'm quite happy to love with her as long as she's on this earth. But it seems to me that alloromantics see this as a sign of immaturity or arrested development, whether subconsciously or not. As if wishing to have different living arrangements and having no interest in domestic partnership means you can never take that final step into true adulthood. It's very alienating being the only person in my life who sees things this way, and I can tell my friends don't really understand the concept of truly being content without any type of partner. Or they just seem to pity me which might actually be worse. Smh. Anyways wonder if anyone else can relate or has feelings around aro adults not getting taken seriously. Thanks ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿน
    6 points
  3. I love how she had no idea what aromanticism was and then immediately went and complained about aros like she's met a ton of them lmao... ok Sounds like she needs to get it together, cause if her emotional state is that dependent on someone she's barely talked to dating her or not... That's not healthy. And either way it sure the fuck ain't your problem. To her I say, get well soon asshole ๐Ÿ‘‹
    6 points
  4. Alright, listen. Ya gotta learn to assert yourself. I've seen a lot of shit in my 23 years as a neurodivergent aro, and the biggest thing I've learned is that you have to speak up for yourself, because keeping quiet when something's bothering you just creates a festering wound that won't get better. Assert your boundaries. Nobody will stop doing something that makes you uncomfortable if they don't know that it does- And if they suspect, they still probably won't until you explicitly tell them to stop. If your friend's behavior makes you uncomfortable, TELL HIM. Tell xem in no uncertain terms, "Hey, I'm sorry but I really don't want a QPR myself, and it makes me uncomfortable when you say these sorts of things" etc., or however you want to communicate your feelings, you know. Just be up front with it. If they still don't stop? Ditch 'em. Good friends respect their friends' boundaries when they've been established, and if this pal of yours won't, then he's a bad friend, plain and simple.
    5 points
  5. I don't think it is wrong you feel weird about it. For what you say, it is possible your friend has a crush on you and had trouble accepting your identity because of that, and now wants a QPR because romantic isn't an option. At least that's what I get from the story, I could be wrong, I don't know your friend after all. But your friend kinda seem to force on the QPR idea and I think talking about it with him could be a good idea, even if it is to say that you are not interested.
    5 points
  6. Yup, this is definitely a common perception unfortunately. In general society and in many different settings. I work in mental healthcare and marriage/partnerships are often considered signs of proper functioning. And if you're an adult who has a never had a romantic relationship, then yeah, this might indeed be seen as a sign of arrested development or immaturity. Luckily people in my inner circle don't view it that way, but I do have family members who don't take me as seriously because I'm still unmarried and without children. It can be frustrating for sure, but I also don't need to prove myself to them. I do sometimes feel it myself that I'm not a "real" adult when I really think about how my friends are getting married, starting to think about children, and looking into buying homes. It's annoying, but then I remind myself that these are arbitrary markers of adulthood and maturity. There are many other ways to be mature. At the end of the day, you can decide your life, and I think that's a pretty grown-up thing to do. It's great that you can live with your mom and are happy with it :) It's sad that living with parents after a certain age is viewed as immature (in certain cultures). If you have a good relationship with them, then why not?
    5 points
  7. That's me baybeeeeee!! No romo yes homo! I'm sexually attracted to any gender, but romantically attracted to none.
    5 points
  8. YMBAI your relationship advice can be summed up as spinning a big wheel with the words 'talk you morons' and 'run away' written on it.
    5 points
  9. Helloo ~~~ Lately I have been thinking about the word "queer" and how many/ if aromantic or/and asexual people identify with the label. Personally, I have always felt comfortable labeling myself queer despite the fact that I y know, dont really feel attraction to anyone. I have never felt that I fit into the heteronormative world (which I quite literally do not) and always felt outside of the "ordinary" or "normality" in relation to my creative and gender expression (btw fuck gender roles). Having interest in goth and alternative culture as well as being non-binary have me developed a loving view of the label queer. Do anyone else here identify as queer? Why or why not? Would especially be interested in hearing from cis aro people or if anyone have a similar relationship to the word "queer" as I do :) ps, follow me on instagram "sofia_littorin" if you like art and makeup I guess. Looking to get to know more people there :)
    4 points
  10. There are much talk about aromantic food and aromantic mascot. But there are so many other types of thing we could have as symbol. Like flower, clothing, fish etc. (In my country each county has its county fish). So pick any category and determine which thing is ours. For example for sport it's off course archery.
    4 points
  11. So I'm an asexual who is not aromantic here to support aromantic people and to celebrate relationships that are not romantic with them. Not to mention criticize the overrated area that society has put romance in. It is messed up how friendships are not valued enough in culture. One thing that helped me grow to understand this is growing up being taught the value of good friendships and only being surrounded by peers around my age of the gender that I am not attracted to on a romantic level. I knew few to no boys as a child and teen, but was surrounded by girls and developed very close friendships with quite a few of them. I had best friends over the years and I was heartbroken over when I lost them and still haven't gotten over all of them to this day. In college, I almost got into a QPR with the closest BFF I had in early college, but we went separate ways because she as a lesbian didn't want potential girlfriends to think that I was her girlfriend or that she liked me in any way other than platonic. I have a loving boyfriend now, but I don't see my relationships with my family members now or friends in the past as less than or not as important. I love my man very much, but he isn't the end all be all of my life or above all others in it.
    4 points
  12. Yeah, mental health care isn't immune to the influence of larger society structures, so I'd definitely say that amatonormativity is incorporated into it. Diagnostics and what is considered "normal" behavior is also largely socially constructed. So with normative idea is that engaging in romance is normal and the idea that being able to love is a sign of humanity and "normal" emotional functioning, then you get this kind of perception in mental health care. There is a whole personality disorder with criteria of having little interest in close relationships and sex.
    4 points
  13. Feelings are never wrong. Only actions can be wrong.
    4 points
  14. I hadnt even noticed it until someone pointed it out for me but YMBAI when you thought about the future as a 14 year old you planned your career as the central piece of it and when you thought about the romance bit you just: My brain is what makes love happens. Brain is not fully developed until 21 more or less. So, dating is going to wait until after that. And you were super happy and in peace with that future Also, YMBAI if when you thought about relationships, you thought: "I am going to start dating. Get my heart broken some times. Date some more. Find someone to marry and then divorce them later on."
    4 points
  15. Welcome! Yes you can. And the first thing I would like to say is that what you feel is what you feel. Saying "it is impossible to feel like that" makes no sense. Humans are varied, and labels are used by us to describe what we feel. They're not some inherent truth of the universe we must abide by. I get that it can feel confusing, since outside of the asexual and aromantic communities people don't generally differentiate between sexual and romantic attraction. So in most contexts 'bisexual' (or any sexuality really) will refer to both sexual and romantic feelings, because to most people they go hand in hand. Once you come here though, it gets increasingly common that someone might feel just one or the other. Plenty of asexuals want romantic relationships just without the sexual aspect. Similarly, there are aros who still want to have sex, just not romantic relationships. (Those of us who want neither are called 'asexual aromantics'. The fact that both terms are used suggest that this is not everyone, or even the standard in these communities) So yes, someone might absolutely be bisexual as in meaning being sexually attracted to multiple genders, and aromantic, meaning not wanting romantic a romantic relationships. You've come to the right place^^
    4 points
  16. You did nothing wrong. In fact you were really calmand nice in my opinion. You even give her an explanation when you didn't have to. I don't know her but from what you say it seems she has some issue. I don't think it is a normal way to react even for an alloromantic. It was very excessive. Really I think it came from her, not from you. And as @Jot-Aro Kujosaid it is ironic that she didn't know what aro meant but then talked as if she met so much aros that she can tell you that guys are the worst. She clearly didn't know what she is talking about and was just mean. I know it is an easy thing to say but you shouldn't bother about someone who were so unfair to you.
    4 points
  17. YMBAI when you did want a romantic relationship, whenever you picture one in your head it was basically just platonic, sexual, or boring and empty like you were arranged to be there.
    4 points
  18. For flowers, I'd say the yellow rose because it a symbol of friendship.
    4 points
  19. For animals, I think it should be frogs (maybe toads too, what do you all think?).
    4 points
  20. We are currently working on an aro/ace focused app where you can find people looking for non-romantic/non-sexual relationships (or like minded aro/ace friends ofcourse!) For anyone thats interested in either testing it once we release a beta or wants to help out we have a discord you can find here: https://discord.gg/9xW5CtP2HH Hope to see some of you there :)
    4 points
  21. Sunday 25th July 1PM (UK) meet.google.com/qum-mmnd-xkw Topic: "The Pride Conspiracy", "Abrasive", and "The Complexity of Human Decency" in the Book "Bones of Green and Hearts of Gold" which can be found at https://aroworlds.files.wordpress.com/2020/11/bones-of-green-and-hearts-of-gold-k.-a.-cook.pdf or https://www.patreon.com/posts/43665225 for the kindle or epub version. Feel free to make notes and questions of anything you'd like to discuss as you read them.
    4 points
  22. Like roboticanary said, why would you want to in the first place? It might put both of you at a mental disadvantage. But to answer your question, If I were in their situation, I'd expect you to confess calmly, not making a fuss about it. Do not pressure them, or say how you wish they weren't aroace. If you're comfortable with it, you can tell them you may be/stay friends (don't if you feel like you might end up frustrated!). And please, PLEASE, listen to what they say. Do not think you'll change them, make them "believe" in love or other bullshit.
    4 points
  23. You might be aro if you mistook sexual, aesthetic or sensual attraction for a crush. You might be aro if you thought romantic feelings described by others must be exaggerated. You might be aro if you never notice when someone has a crush on you, unless someone points it out to you. You might be aro if you broke somebody's heart by accident, even without realizing it, simply because you underestimated the intensity of their feelings. You might be aro if you felt suffocated and overwhelmed in a romantic relationship. You might be aro if the pet names people gave to their partners, always felt artificial and ridiculous to you.
    4 points
  24. The next topic I suggest is "Thoughts on Aromantic Manifesto", which can be found here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/158QOrwOUri07DxwkwbQQddFwDRJbq0iK/view It could be an interesting discussion! It will be at the usual Google Meet link. I suggest the weekend of Saturday 14th / Sunday 15th at 1PM UK time - if you have any urgent preferences of date please let me know! Though I don't know how much later in the day I can make it because there's a regular attendee based in Japan.
    3 points
  25. I'm a pan-oriented aroace and I don't see how would this term divide aroace people. Not every aroace person experiences terriary attractions, but many do. Some people experience all of them, some only one or two, others none. And all of those people are valid. It's just that some people are happy with just one or a few labels, and others want to have a lot of specific labels because it makes them feel better with themselves. And I fall into that last category. You should use labels which make you feel comfortable with your own identity! Or maybe you don't want to use any labels besides "queer" but you know you're aspec? That's cool too. You do you, and I'll do me, but we won't do eachother, probably. It's just that for some aroace folks terriary attractions are an important part of their identity so they choose to identify with the term "oriented aroace", and other don't care about it at all so they choose not to label themselves in that category. But in both cases, those people are both aroace and valid! More specific labels don't divide our community, they just give more options for people who like using more specific labels. Oriented or not, you're not any less of an aroace! I hope you understand what I mean. I'm pan-oriented, which means I experience all of terriary attractions towards other people regardless of their gender. What is there to be oriented for? QPR, for example. I'm a pan-oriented aroace happily in a QPR with a nonbinary person. I don't experience sexual and romantic attraction, but I still have queerplatonic attraction. And I still want a committed, intimate relationship, just not romantic or sexual in nature. I hope I answered your question right.
    3 points
  26. Believe it or not, we all do, in a very legal sense. Aromantics are NOT protected under the Equality Act due to its phrasing, and it can be extra difficult to get housing, etc. without a partner. Plus you can't share insurance benefits or certain medical rights with people who aren't your married partner. And asexuality is still considered a mental illness in some places, with some people even being subjected to conversion therapy because of it. Even if people might not walk around calling aspecs slurs on the street, the system is rigged against us and we have no legal protections. At least here in the U.S., anyway.
    3 points
  27. What about cactus? Or cacti Somehow I've seen it be associated with the aro world and I really like the idea!
    3 points
  28. Don't mind me, just over here hiding from the definition drama on Aven.
    3 points
  29. I've just gotten my heart broken. It shattered in so many pieces. Thousands of them. It hurts. It really does. You know those scenes in movies where the protagonist loved one person, but got their heart so broken by a simple non-existent reciprocation of their feelings? Yeah, that one that makes no sense just why would a person cry and make such a huge fuss about the end of a not even real romantic relationship. That one that always bugged me as to how and why, because that just all felt so fake and weird. It happened. Not the romantic bit, as I am aro. But that shattered character feeling a mix of extreme anger and a helplessness so strong, that you beg and beg for the other person to come back, to feel the same as you do. Logically, you can't force someone feel things they aren't capable of. But it hurts. It hurts again and again and there's nothing I can do besides beg to any listening angel that my wish would be heard and answered. Alas, miracles don't happen here. But the thing is, my heart wasn't broken by a girlfriend or even a person I wanted to date. My heart was broken by the closest and most important person in my life, my best friend. They said I feel too much. They said they didn't- they couldn't- feel the same way as me. And it hurts, you know? To be told you overwhelm the very same person you want to just glue yourself to. It hurts so much more than any romantic movie could ever show. You're told you are too much, too intense. They ask for you to back off, but that just breaks you even more. You want to respect them, to respect their wishes and desires. That is what you want the most. But what about you? What about your need to be by their side? What about your own love? They cant disappear from one minute to another. They cant just vanish and leave you as you please. So you're thorn between hurting yourself and hurting them. All that does not stop the voices from your head to take control of you, of your actions. They scream to get out, to be put in paper, in art. So much so that one day you become an cage made out of flesh and bones containing and explosion just about to burst, but you can't allow them get out. You couldn't possibly burden someone else with those ugly thoughts and feelings. And even if you know that your happiness can't depend on other people, you let it become more and more dependent, living with the hope that this will last forever. It wont. And you will break even more, because you don't know what to do. It is not like you can go out there and have an one night stand or some hook-up section with some random person or even try to find another date for that even you have to attend. You don't know what to do because you never once was taught that you could have your life broken by your own best friend. So why aren't there more people talking about just how important a friendship is, just how precious your heart becomes when you enter one, just how fragile everything is when you are deep in one. So sorry if this was the wrong place to post this. It is just that now I am completely alone and making new friends is something really difficult and rare to happen with me well, alone as you can be within this place. I hope you have a good day! (Or night too!) Toodles!
    3 points
  30. Same feeling. Its also frustrating that Those milestones seem to count for maturity even when it seems clear that they aren't working or that patience would be a better idea. So so many people seem to rush for these milestones because thats just what you do. I certainly know people who got into some bad relationships, who tried to set up a family when it just wasn't working and I had to sit around while people I know cheer and applaud. You can't be the grumpy guy in the corner when that happens.
    3 points
  31. Hello fellow aros!! :)) My name is Sofia and im a acearo person from Sweden. For a long time I have struggled with my own self identity, both when it comes too gender and sexuality, and it was only quite recently that I found comfort in labeling myself ace and aro. The reason it took so long to figure it out was because I actually do feel sensual attractions towards people, pretty intense also when it happens, and I had a hard time decipher if what I was feeling was romantic attraction or u now, sensual. Maybe a lot of u can relate to not really understanding what romantic attractions is and feels like lmao. Currently in the closet which is not really fun and I wish had the courage to come out to my friends and family... Anywho I hope to make some friends because right now I know 0 other ace or aro people and it doesnt help that sweden is a small country lol. Heavily into drag and doing creative stuff like drawing, makeup and photography. I also like videogames :^))
    3 points
  32. hellooooo!!!! that would be me!! I'm sexually attracted to any gender, but just have never felt romantic feelings for anyone. Never had a crush or anything like that.
    3 points
  33. Check out the concept split attraction model
    3 points
  34. uhm, maybe you're right. I just couldn't help but to feel guilty. I mean, someone cried because of me. but she probably could handle it a little bit better and be less rude... oh... that's kinda sad. that's why I hate amatonormativity. and thank you. I was just confused and felt kind of down because of this little incident. thanks for kind words (: thank you. I'm really sorry if me not reciprocating her feelings somehow reminded her of past trauma or something... but there was no possible way I knew about it. I hope she will forget about it soon and find someone better who can love her back so she could be happy. but I don't think I even want to try and talk to her again after this happened so I guess you're right. I was never mad at her, I just couldn't understand her reaction. well, yeah... I'm not happy about her blaming aromantic people just because I couldn't love her back. that was just mean. I really tried to handle it as best as I could, so thank you for noticing it.
    3 points
  35. I'm sorry you experienced this, not a nice situation. Like the others, I agree that you didn't do anything wrong. It seems like you handled the situation decently. Her reaction is a reflection of her own issues rather than of you. It's just this unfortunate idea that people who don't reciprocate feelings are "heartless" or "being a jerk" or whatnot; the amatonormativity that makes people feel entitled to their romantic feelings for others. Sending you warm vibes, I hope you feel a bit better!
    3 points
  36. To me, it sounds like this person has some sort of internalized trauma that they need to heal. Perhaps they have self-worth issues. Regardless, this issue is theirs, not yours. I wouldn't associate with this person anymore. I'd send them forgiveness from afar. Stay strong, my friend!
    3 points
  37. Hi everyone, I am also new to this site (and AVEN & Acebook). I finally decided to figure out which labels matched with who I am and on AVEN I found a link to this forum so now I'm here. So, I identify as grey aroace. This because due to a lack of crushes/squishes I have no clue if am am demi or cupio, so I decided to stick with grey for now. It would be nice to get to know similar people, both international and fellow Dutch people.
    3 points
  38. Hi everyone! I found this place through twitter and I can't express how happy I am to see such an amazing community, full of people that feel similar to me. A few words about me - I think I might be aromantic? It's quite difficult for me to be 100% sure. I'm in my mid-20s and I have never been in a relationship (unless you count 24h in 2nd grade, when I told a boy I loved him on a dare from a friend). I went on a date once, found a guy on twitter that I had similar interests with. We talked for a few hours but I didn't feel anything there. My only thoughts were "hey, it would be nice to be frinds with him". That was a big clue that there was something "wrong" with me. Now, I don't think that anymore, but that is after a couple years of on-off research into the subect. I also don't think I'm asexual, even though I never tried that. I'm a generally shy and introverted person, so it's pretty much impossible for me to walk up to someone in a bar and flirt with them or something. Anyway, I hope to fit in here, and maybe find some support and advice about these kinds of things :)
    3 points
  39. Shoes could be clogs, the least romantic shoe ๐Ÿ˜„
    3 points
  40. Currently making the rule board. I don't want to forget anything important ๐Ÿ˜– Any rules that y'all think I should add? Or any rules I have up here that I should modify?
    3 points
  41. Okay! Does anybody ever just keeps going back and forth between being proud of being aro and just thinking: "It can't be! I must feel romantic attraction... You just think you are because you are yet to date anybody"? Because it is so...tiring, I guess Some days I wake up and I am like: BEING ARO ROCKS AND I AM GOING TO HAVE A BEAUTIFUL LIFE JOURNEY WITH MY FRIENDS AND JOB AND THE CHILD I WILL ADOPT!" But like, for most of the days I am just like: I will be their second choice all my life... What if we fall apart and what then? Wouldn't you be alone? Why dot you just date and forget this nonsense of being aro. You are just using that label because you find it cool and it is the only place romance is not being puked on you. You are not aro. You are just too much inexperienced and overthinking. ... It doesn't go away, does it? This of trying to convince yourself that you couldn't be, that you are just lying to yourself and not being who you really are. This of waking up proud and happy of being aro but minutes later being dragged into a depressing and endless questioning and saying you're not , you're not, you're not. You. Are. Not. You are just a freak, a broken toy. Someone who is going to live a sad life, overworking and being alone, without even a cat by your side. AND IT IS SO IRRITATING! turning the Tv on, or anything really on the internet and everything is like: ROMANCE! COUPLES! SHIPPING! HAPPILY EVER AFTER AND YOU NEED IT LIKE YOUR LIKE DEPENDS ON IT. YOUR SOLE PURPOSE IS TO FIND THE ONE AND MARRY THEM, HAVE CHILDREN AND DIE TOGETHER! But all I can get from that is: HERE;S SOMETHING YOU WILL NEVER GET TO EXPERIENCE! LOOK, YOU FREAK, JUST HOW HAPPY YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE. LOOK JUST HOW BROKEN YOU ARE. BUT MAYBE, IF YOU FIND THE ONE YOU WILL BE FIXED. YOU JUST NEED TO WAIT FOR THEM AND THEN YOU WONT BE BROKEN ANYMORE. EVERYTHING WILL JUST GO AWAY, ALL THE QUESTIONING, ALL THE SELF HATE, EVERTHING. JUST WAIT FROM THEM. And you see, I am fully aware that it is madness, the THE ONE thing. I am. But it is hard to not believe in a future, in a possibility, where I wouldnt be like this. In a future where I could just be like everyone else, at least in this point. Who wouldn't hang on that fine tread of hope even if you knew it was going- I guess it is human, isnt it? To be like this. And me so wishes I could just- *grabs internalized amatonormativity by its neck* - LISTEN HERE, YOU MAD BRAINWASH! I AM SO TIRED OF YOU, SO TIRED OF YOUR SCREAMS SAYING THAT I MUST FIND THE ONE AND BLAH BLAH BLAH. JUST STOP! DO YOU THINK YOU COULD DO THAT? I WOULD APPRICIATE SO MUCH. *internalized amatonormativity tries to shake its head in defiance and disagreement* - OH NO. OH HELL NO! YOU ARE AGREEING WITH ME AND EVERYTHING I AM TELLING YOU. YOU ARE TOXIC AND JUST A HAPPINESS GRIM RIPPER. YOU JSUT DESTROYS MY PEACE AND HAPPINESS AND DOESNT EVEN LET ME TRY TO CONVINCE YOU OTHERWISE. I AM SO DONE WITH YOU. I HAVE COME TO LEARN THAT YOU DO NOT, ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TOLERATE TOXIC PEOPLE, TOXIC BEHAVIORS AND JUST ANYTHING THAT SO BRUTALLY DESTROYS YOUR HAPPINESS AND MENTAL HEALTH. *internalized amatonormativity blinks* - NOW. IF YOU UNDERSTAND HOOW THINGS WORK, BECAUSE I AM THE MASTER OF MY OWN LIFE, YOU WILL REPEAT MY WORDS AND YOU WILL STICK TO THEM. GOT IT? *internalized amatonormativity tries to nod* - I, INTERNALIZED AMATONORMATIVITY, - i, internalized amatonormativity, -PROMISE ON THE COST OF MY OWN LIFE -promise on the cost of my own life -THAT I WONT EVER EVER AGAIN -that i wont ever ever again -PRODUCE ANOTHER WORD, JUDGMENT OR LOOK -produce another word, judgment or look -TO AND ABOUT THE PERSON RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME -to and about the person right in front of me -I WILL NOW LIVE THE REST OF MY DAYS IN SILENCE -i will now live the rest of my days in silence -AND WITH THAT I WILL WITHER AND DIE -and with that i will wither and die -WITHOUT EVER COMING BACK TO LIFE AGAIN -without ever coming back to life again *looks deeps in the eyes* -NOW, YOU DONT HAVE ANY RIGHTS TO CALL ME A MONSTER, TO SAY TO ME THAT I WONT EVER BE HAPPY. YOU DONT GET ANY RIGHTS TO DO THAT. YOU PROMISED. DONT BE MISTAKEN, JUST BECAUSE ONLY LAST MONTH I REALIZED YOU WERE HERE, DOESNT MEAN THAT I WONT USE EVERY LAST DROP OF MY EVERYTHING, OF MY WHOLE BEING TO KILL YOU AND MAKE YOU SHUT UP FOREVER. I HAVE A WHOLE COMUNITY ONLINE TO BACK ME UP AND I KNOW THEY WILL HELP ME MAKE YOU HONOUR THOSE SAME WORDS ON THE HARD WAY. ARE WE UNDERSTOOD? *internalized amatonormativity nods several times* -GOOD! I WILL BE WATCHING YOU. DONT YOU EVEN DARE TO DEFY THE WORDS YOU SAID SAID. *walks out without ever breaking eye contact* If you got here, thanks for reading my post. Really needed to get that out of my chest. I hope you have a great night (or day too) Toodles!
    3 points
  42. for clothing it's overalls
    3 points
  43. The idea that multiple people should live together was a scam created by cats to make it more likely there would be someone around to feed them.
    3 points
  44. YMBAI you never understood the point of marriage. (Seriously, why would you stay with the same person your whole life and then make it harder and more expensive to get out of the relationship if things go bad?) YMBAI you always thought that books and movies exaggerated romantic attraction, but apparently they don't? YMBAI you were in a romantic relationship and you felt unhappy and wanted to get out of the relationship the constantly. YMBAI you were uncomfortable or displayed signs of anxiety in a romantic relationship.
    3 points
  45. Is it weird that my favorite food is just plain white rice? and for sweets... Brigadeiro de paรงoca, i think or maybe a nuts cake with doce de leite. or anything that does not involve chocolate and has strawberries.
    2 points
  46. Also a rose for aros sounds perfect
    2 points
  47. Hello there! I just joined several minutes ago. If you feel that you're aro/ace, that is perfectly valid - you can enjoy sex without feeling sexually attracted to someone, and you can be in a relationship without experiencing romantic attraction. The wonder of having several billion inhabitants of this earth is that there is a plethora of relationship dynamics that can and do exist. You know yourself best, so if you identify with being on the aromantic/asexual spectrums, then you're on them! And if you're still at the questioning stage, that's absolutely alright! I've recently embarked upon a journey of self discovery. I think I've always known that I was asexual and possibly aromantic (but I didn't know the word for it at the time). I come from a very conservative, religious background, so when I would joke about just shaking hands with my spouse on our wedding day, I was scolded by a couple of members of the church that I was attending for not "considering my husband's needs" (whatever the heck that means). I was told that I just hadn't met the right person and that I shouldn't not have a desire to have a relationship and to get married. I now know that my sexual and romantic orientation (and now my gender identity) are valid, and what's amazing is that I'm not alone - there's a community of us friendzoners! ๐Ÿ˜ You're not alone either. ๐Ÿ’š Thanks so much for sharing! Nice to meet you, Lu ๐ŸฆŽ๐Ÿ’œ
    2 points
  48. I'm bisexual, not a lesbian, but I absolutely feel the disconnect from the sapphic community. Honestly, femininity in general tends to be pretty heavily associated with romance. Plus, in order to push back against the "predatory lesbian" stereotype, this weird ideal of the Soft Pure Wholesome Fairytale Romance Sweet Pure Soft Wlw Couple Uwu thing has gotten really prevalent, which pushes away those of us who are sexual. Basically being a sapphic aro is just a bad time all around lol
    2 points
  49. YMBAI you don't understand the concept of online dating or are confused by the fact that people deliberately try to find a partner (and go on dates before they even know them).
    2 points
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