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  1. Hi! For aro awareness week I decided to create memes and share it here. Do you know, when you do a research and Google get the wrong words? It happens less often hat when I started identifying a few years ago, but it still happens, in particular when we look for some specific content. Everytime, there is something I want to say to Google :
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  2. I mean, I don't even understand relationships and even less the concept of romance at all. But anyone else feeling lonely on a platonic level? I don't have much friends and I never feel like I can talk to the few I have. Moreover, I'm shit at making new friends and especially forming lasting friendships (mostly because I'm a social and emotional disaster who tends to push people away as soon as I get emotionally attached to them).
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  3. YMBAI you where sad when your friends stopped hanging with you because they found a significant other and felt that time with you was less "worth" than time with them. Ps. Sorry if dark but I think is more common in our community and didn't want to feel alone in this.
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  4. Sorry but the only explanation I can give seems rather blunt. I look at someone and think 'I'd fuck them'. Can't really give much more than that. I desire sex, I try to get other people to have sex with me. At least in my case its a fairly simple desire. As for the difference, the only way I can put it is that I want to fuck but I don't want to romance.
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  5. Hello. So, I figured out that I was Aro around a month & a half ago. I mean, I always knew that I was the way I am, but I had no idea that there was a name for it. Nice to know that I'm not the only one.
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  6. I'm planning on making my own mini comic about my personal aro experiences and posting a part each day!
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  7. Hey!! I'm Gabe, I'm 15, I use he/him pronouns, and I'm new here. I've been lurking around as a guest for maybe a week but only just got around to making an account lol. When I was younger, I identified with the demiromantic label but I had never been in a relationship, so I had dropped it. But since I broke up with my first (and maybe only?) girlfriend about seven months ago, I've done some like introspecting I guess? I think this is a good place for me, I think I'm probably on the aromantic spectrum. I don't know where yet and I don't really want to rush into any labels anymore, I've had enou
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  8. To be honest I don't usually do much on valentines day. maybe have a nice meal I guess (doesn't help that the apocalypse is currently happening). I agree with @~Aurora~, It is very commercialised. I never really got the fuss either. The day after though, cheap chocolate day, that I will celebrate.
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  9. Right, so, first post outside of the intro forum. Going to skip over some details that are in that post for brevity's sake, but key details: I'm turning 37 in a few months, I've been aware of the concept of grayromanticism for a little more than a year, and only using the label for myself for about six months. After five years of being single, I've begun seeing a woman. We had the discussion early on about my figuring out grayro stuff, she's aware it's a thing. I rarely date, and when I do things usually flame out around the three-month mark, which is where I am with the current lady. For
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  10. I used to (and still do) leave the movie or close my eyes when the couple kissed. Dates I was fine with, mostly, because they could have been read as platonic, I think. But when they kissed, that was it for me. Also, I wanted a wedding, but I didn’t want to get married to a boy
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  11. On every valentine's day, my friend reveals his crush to whoever his new crush is and then runs away super embarrassed before his crush can say anything. Then we eat lunch together and give each other candy and I rant about how much I don't understand crushes.
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  12. I'm looking at you, YA authors (and TV/movie producers, and basically everyone apparently)
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  13. If you have thought your squishes were crushes or have had to make up crushes to fit in.
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  14. Alternatively, assumed you were bi or pan because you felt equally towards all genders.
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  15. If you could reach back in time and tell yourself a bit about aromanticism what would you tell them? Personally I would focus on setting up the idea that the idea that romance is more important than friendships is one you can and should question. I would also tell myself that the ideas about nerdy guys being terrible with romance as a trope is silly, and that the reason I am uncomfortable with the idea of romance is that I just don't desire the experience.
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  16. I would tell myself that not wanting romantic relationships does not necessarily mean commitment/intimacy issues. Also that if something doesn't feel right (e.g., dating), that I shouldn't force myself to like it or do it just because it's something that ~general society~ deems necessary or in the hopes of "fixing" myself (as if romance were an acquired taste).
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  17. I've abandoned the 'aroace' label because I find it enough to identify myself as aromantic. I find identifying myself as asexual simply useless – lack of sexual attraction doesn't affect in any way on how I'm seeing various things. And lack of romantic attraction – yep, it does. For example, I don't understand how people are delighting theirselves talking about someone's romance, for me it simply doesn't have any point.
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  18. And to ends this aro awaraness week, the final memes. I hope you enjoyed it.
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  19. I suppose I'd class myself as having a secure attachment style these days. I used to be avoidant - fearful, but I've changed a lot over the past decade or so. I don't think it is in anyway related to my being aromantic, other than that I am assessing this based on my close friendships rather than romantic relationships. Romance isn't the only type of attachment after all.
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  21. Hi! Two new memes for this aro week. I just changes some movie/show quotes. If you think it is funny, feel free to share. When someone tells you aromantic people don't have real problems : If you are still not over Jughead (like me) :
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  22. I feel really hyped about aro week right now :)
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  23. Yeah, and sexual attraction isn't necessarily connected to libido. Sexual attraction applies to one person or group of people (men, people your age, etc). Wanting sex vs. wanting sex with a specific someone
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  24. I've been trying to conceive via sperm donation, because I want to be a single parent by choice. Anyone else aro and want to have kids? I feel like aro spaces are often overwhelmingly childfree to the point where sometimes I feel erased because I'm aro and one of my biggest dreams is to be a parent.
    3 points
  25. I'm going to do a bit of aro inspired miniature painting. A week or so ago I put my first little aro flag into my hobby and there are a few more ideas that I want to do. Also I'm going to make myself a white ring. I've been slowly getting better at making rings out of bentwood veneer and I now have some white crushed enamel that I can use as an inlay. I am also getting into blogging. I don't know how much I am going to do but at the very least I want to use awareness week as motivation to put some of the crafts I have been doing online.
    3 points
  26. I'd define "romantic" as wanting to be "in a relationship". Wanting to have (at least one) and be "girlfriend", "boyfriend" or similar. Wanting to merge identities with "partner(s)".
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  27. Yeah, I'm excited! I don't really know yet what I'll do, but I have lots of pretty papers, and I'm thinking of making some aro color journal dump collage thing. Maybe some writing as well, and generally reading/watching aro works. I also want to get some aro merch to support some aro-owned businesses! 😁 Would be cool to see any of your writing/your spoof picture for ASAW if you make it!
    3 points
  28. I've long since given up on defining "romance", although there are a lot of things associated with it that I could complain about! But most fundamentally, I really dislike the idea of making a long-term commitment to any person.
    3 points
  29. Hi! Thanks all for your suggestions! After a few days of being scared avoiding it, I brought up the topic and she was all for it. I said that I fidget more with my middle finger and the black goes better with more stuff. She ordered it and I’m relieved but still a little nervous she’ll look into it, I doubt it though. Thank you so much for encouraging me!
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  30. In my anecdotal experience it is true that a lot of aros aren't interested in having kids (myself included), and I can imagine that would absolutely make people who do want kids feel excluded, which sucks. I'm sorry. I do have a few bits and pieces that relate to choosing to be a single parent in my rather shambolic personal collection of aro-related resources and links, in case any of these are helpful for anyone in this thread: This table shows countries where it is legal for a single LGBT parent to adopt Things to consider about adopting as a single parent (UK website but t
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  31. You might be aro (and not necessarily ace) if you mistook sexual, platonic, or any other attraction for romantic attraction, then thought that you couldn't possibly be aromantic when you heard the term, simply because attraction makes no sense to you.
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  32. I suppose it depends on how close you are with your friends and how much they know about aromanticism. You could for example warm them up by just talking about aromanticism, dropping hints. Or you could just plan a moment to just come out directly (with some of my friends, I did this with a fun powerpoint). Either way, I think it's good to have them read some basic resources on what aromanticism is. You could also explain that many aros have been romantic relationships before, either because they experience some romantic attraction, because they simply want to regardless of romantic attr
    3 points
  33. I've never got valentines day, it just seems very commercialised and I forget it happens unless it was for the shops or the social media posts. I highly doubt it will ever change 😂 Also love the username, starkid for the win
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  34. Marriage is a lifestyle which is highly promoted. With the false premises that everyone wants to do it and it's suitable for everyone.
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  35. Can't talk on behalf of other aroallos, but yeah. I do get tired of it. Especially since recently a friend and I were trying to do narrative playlists for the last few years of our lives, and I genuinely couldn't find enough songs that didn't have romantic love????
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  36. I guess this might sound a bit weird, but I usually just chat with people on dating websites, and ask them about random stuff. Usually my matches are on other continents anyway, so it's just a time for me to be social and meet people. I've never had too much luck with IRL friends, as they are usually chilling with their partners and/or chilling with their friends that they have more in common with. The only cool thing that ever happened on valentine's day for me as an adult was going to an LGBTQ+ bar and club with one of my friends on valentine's day and then took a long walk afterwards in the
    3 points
  37. Every year for the last... eight? or so years* now, I've organised a Valentine's Day dinner for single people only, and invited everyone I know who's not in a relationship. The point of the dinner absolutely is not for people to meet potential partners, just an excuse to dress up and have a fun night out while everyone else we know is busy doing couply things. I highly recommend it as a Valentine's Day activity ✌️ *Yeah, I started doing this before I'd ever heard the word "aromantic". Yet another "early signs you were aro" moment...
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  38. YMBAI you identified as bi/panromantic because you’ve figured you like girls and boys equally after a long struggle of deciphering your feelings — as though grasping at barely existent straws. Bonus points if you specifically chose to identify as pan because the idea of being attracted to someone because of anything to do with them was the weirdest shit ever/you just couldn’t see it happening for you. The all-encompassing, hand-waving, regardless of pan-romanticism [vs omni’s all and bi’s many] happened to be very convenient for your don’t-want-to-think-about-the-specifics-of-your-prefere
    3 points
  39. I remember that feeling. Discomfort, telling myself that there was no REAL reason for me to feel this discomfort, trying to pretend I didn't. That lasted for a bit over a month before I wisened up and realized that the discomfort itself was the only answer I needed. The push that finally made me break up was realizing I started wanting to avoid my friend, and if I was to retain any warm feelings, then the romantic side of the relationship had to go, before all my affection had been replaced by that ever present discomfort. You asked to do this to try it out, and from the sound
    3 points
  40. Dated someone because you felt like you were supposed to.
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  41. me: *is happy* all of my family: "so who's the lucky lady?" NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
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  42. I would tell a younger me that she is Aromantic, she is not broken or too young to understand. It's simply not in the cards for her and that's okay. Friends, family, and pets have all of the love she will need. She is built different and society needs to catch up. Oh, and wanting sex/ being allosexual while being Aromantic doesn't make her a terrible person or is "lesser/worse" than wanting sex in a romantic context. All she had to do is communicate clearly about what she wants and embrace her most authentic self. 💚
    2 points
  43. Hey all, The week of awareness is coming soon! Anyone got any plans? or any Aro week resolutions for 2021? I'm going to try to get back into being active in forums and writing, maybe try making my long planned 'The Friendzone' spoof picture.
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  44. Sounds aromantic pansexual indeed. Though if your feeling of boredom and the loss of excitement is not only about your crushes but something that affects all your life, it could be link to a psychological trouble too.
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  45. I'm not sure I find it uplifting that so many people want change. The link you give shows the prompt as: “I want the world to change significantly and become more sustainable and equitable rather than returning to how it was before the COVID-19 crisis”. I don't really put much meaning into that, certainly if i were asked a similar question outside a pandemic I would find it hard to say that I dont want the world to be more sustainable or more equitable. I suppose on a personal level there are a few things I want to change. I want to keep make sure the online meetups and chatting
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  46. http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/119238-a-list-of-romantic-orientations/ Originally posted by Amy Ghost in the link above at AVEN and copied here. Enjoy! Orientations Abroromantic - Is someone who experiences a fluid or rapidly changing romantic attraction to different gender expressions. Acoromantic - Is someone whose negative experiences with romance has alienated them from their allo-romanticism. Adfecturomantic/Affecturomantic/Adfectual/Adfomantic - Is someone whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency. Alloromantic/Zedromantic - I
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  47. Somebody asks you what a non-platonic relationship would look like and you genuinely have no idea because it's just not something you can really conceptualize.
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  48. I think YMBAI is supposed to stand for You Might Be Aro If...
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