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  1. A combination of couple and romo privilege. Most likely with associated privilege blindness. Would the business be as keen to offer discounts to white people, straight people, Christians, rich people, (cis) men or any other privileged group? Having any kind of "couple's discount' means that other customers are subsidising the coupled lifestyle.
  2. I'd define "romantic" as wanting to be "in a relationship". Wanting to have (at least one) and be "girlfriend", "boyfriend" or similar. Wanting to merge identities with "partner(s)".
  3. This really should be recognised as a problem. At least lack of professionalism or, possible, mental illness. Which would probably be the case were actors playing enemies were to then turn into actual enemies off set.
  4. Marriage is a lifestyle which is highly promoted. With the false premises that everyone wants to do it and it's suitable for everyone.
  5. Society, including the media, treats romance and sex quite differently. Romance being considered appropriate for all ages, "child friendly", "safe for work", etc. Even outside of the ace community non-sexual romantic relationships are understood and acceptable. Whilst non-romantic sexual relationships are taboo. Sex, along with many other things, are romantic coded. But romance is not sex coded. What may be more common is aro spaces assuming ace as a default. Which means that aro allos can find a lot of the content unrelatable and/or invalidating. All too common are pieces of writi
  6. I put up a survey a couple of years ago about this. The somewhat surprising result was that only a minority of aros experience "squishes" at all. Most articles on the subject either gloss ever this or imply that "aplatonic" is the exception rather than the rule. (Additionally there's quoplatonic erasure.)
  7. I think the narrative itself is often the false dichotomy of "single and independent" or "coupled and connected". Whilst it may have been co-opted by neoliberalism it predates it. This is an obvious way the narrative fails. With "isolated singles" tending towards having many significant relationships which connect to community/communities. Whilst "connected coupled" tending towards having a a singular relationship with each other. With fewer and weaker relationships with anyone else. Possibly this represents a recent change in the behaviour of coupled people Possi
  8. This can also have assumptions of introversion or, even, misanthropy. Possibly because this is least challenging to the idea of amantonormativity There are several studies showing that single people tend to be more "community minded" than those who are coupled/married.
  9. Is there census data to what proportion of Swedes marry (or follow the cohabiting couple lifestyle)?
  10. Maybe even similar characters played by different actors.
  11. Two possible reasons. Greek Mythology is a well known example of a pre/aromantic culture. The term "platonic" is very much (over) used in aro spaces. Even if not that reflective of Plato's ideas.
  12. Sirens arn't in the official D&D source material. Though there are "home brew" stats. As well as for the rusalka from North Eastern European folklore.Which is in some ways a similar monster.
  13. Possibly "QPR favourable", "QPR indifferent" and "QPR repulsed". Also remember that in a D&D world there might be sexual orientations which do not exist in the real world.. Nor is there any reason such a world need be, universally, amantonormative.
  14. purificatory / cathartic It might be aesthetic or sexual attraction, but romantic attraction does not exist in The Odyssey. This sounds plausible. What does the original, Homeric Greek, text say? According to Plato they are celestial, under Zeus; generative, under Poseidon and purificatory / cathartic under Hades. With those in The Odyssey, obviously, being generative. It's unlikely that anyone in the time of Odysseus (or Homer) would want a (romantic) relationship. Classical Greek has no words to describe one.
  15. I've heard it suggested that the correct context for "platonic" meaning "not sexual" is teacher/student relationships. Apparently Plato was against the, then common, practice of teachers having sex with their students. The term "romantic" has also changed it's meaning substantially. At least until Renaissance times it described only Latin derived languages. With the term "romantic story" originally being associated with the adventure genre. What we'd now call a "romantic subplot" being unusual until the 20th century.
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