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    she/her, they/them

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  1. Yes :3 The christmas special had two points where I wanted to hit the wall or something, but otherwise its a good show. One of them was the scene where the bunch of slurs came up, and they decided to mix in the word 'pig'...seriously? The guy was high as a kite on some hard drugs 24/24 for the last few months, he looks like a zombie, he abandoned his family without a word and that's what you can come up with? That he is/was a cop? Also there were some allonormative things as well.
  2. @SoulWolf and @NullVector I don't want to derail the topic too much, especially that I have already made a whole thread dedicated to the issue. The nature vs. nuture question is an interesting one as well, and also a very sensitive topic.
  3. cw: rant about my shitty mental health I got 4.72 on the anxiety part and 5.83 on the avoidance part. I used the description of a partner as in friend or qpp or as a code for any general relationship. I'm not sure how I got the fearful-avoidant attachment thing, although it does describe me but in a weird reverse way. I do have issues with really high anxiety levels, and surprise surprise it put me into the fearful region, but the rest is quite the opposite. I'm quite the opposite. I tend to worry if my feelings are enough, and I find myself offering people a way out of the relationship every now and then, and not being too bothered if they decide to go. Also I tend to encourage people I'm close to to also have connections with others. I'm perfectly happy to listen to them or give affection. So I don't really get this part. Maybe I'm just my own type of messed up. I always had feelings of not belonging anywhere, and talking about feelings, especially negative feelings was always a complicated thing for me. I don't like to be dependent on people, and I don't like to pile my problems on others. I guess it stems from the ultimate neurodivergent experience of knowing that if you talk about struggling with something, you will be forced to deal with the thing all the time. This is part of the reason why I'm not sure if I can really claim the aro label. Not because I don't fit the "official" description, but because I do so due to mental health issues I should probably work on instead of creating an identity based on them. (Yes, I'm questioning again, that's why I don't really post recently.)
  4. That's so awkward from the other way around as well. I don't know how many times I had to explain as a teenager that no, I'm not hatin', I'm just really gay. Since then I have learned how to admire people a bit less obviously. cw: razors
  5. Parents are tricky to come out to. There are a variety of reactions, they may not be condescending. They may brush it off and go into full on denial. They may get angry. I'd suggest try doing it individually, one on one, and find a calm setting where none of you are disracted. Good luck
  6. so topshop calls their purple lipstick "straight ace"

  7. Oh, the never ending shaving debate. Treating shaving like an effort to cover up a secret is really harmful, especially for children. Pre teen kids should not be bullied into messing with razors and hot wax. Hair removal can be empowering though, especially for transfeminine people. If its something that makes you feel great then go for it. I did this experiment, if I started to pluck my eyebrows in the ladies room, nobody gives a second look. If I tidy up my upper lip, some people get so offended. There is definitely a stigma, some types of body hair are just more socially acceptable. Also its kind of funny how some feminists stop at leg and armpit hair. Being some mix of femme and butch, kind of like a peacock, I do a lot of femme things because I enjoy them, but when I notice it turning into a restrictive thing, i stop. With shaving its weird.I would not necessarily consider it to be a feminine thing, people shave, end of the story. Personally I kind of enjoy it in an aestethic way, because it makes me feel more dapper, and its one of my self care things I do as a ritual of self reflection and its a way to be okay with my body. Not really in a way to try to control it, but more like being familiar with how it is. I guess its because I'm quite pale, but my hair is dark, so its really obvious when I do some grooming. Also, I kind of figured out in my teens that no armpit hair means having less sweat, at least on me. But I'm not really bothered by the existence of it or feel too much pressure to maintain a perfect clean shave anymore. TL;DR Statistically most AFAB people naturally do look like Frida Khalo, especially if they are from an ethnic group near the equator. They do have facial hair and nipple hair and unibrows, hairy bellies, hobbit feet and thigh hair and all that jazz. Just shave from the age of 12 on. That's pretty depressing if you think about it.
  8. Well if someone aro dates a person romantically, hopefully they made that choice because they want to do so. Unless they were forced to do so, there is not really another option. Its quite unlikely that someone would maintain a relationship by accident...
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