nonmerci

I think you are not alone in that. When you come out, you not only share information with some people, you also trust these people to treat this information carefully. You are not anymore the only one who can reveal this about you. This can be scary.

Well reddit apilogized and the post is nacknso everything turned out ok. i guess this the end of nonmerci drama ! It didn't last long. 😄

Strange when the a-spec community should be a safe place where you can say "never"...

Thank you. They don't prefer words like "fully aromantic" etc as your post is automatically removed if you use it. I think it is a case of people knowing something is problematic but not understanding why. There are people who want to aromantic to only mean "no attraction", and I guess they put everybody who says "it would be nice to have a word to say we feel no attraction at all" in the same box, without thinking. It is counterproductive, if you ask me. But I guess it will make me spend more time on arocalypse, it's been a while since I came here. I don't even recognize people ha ha.

Thank you. I just got banned from reddit for 7 days cause they think this term is encouraging division in the community, which I frankly don't understand and it makes me mad, so it is nice to see positive feedback here. The whole point was finding a non-offensive term.

Oh I didn't even think about it, you are a genius. Yeah that's the goal. Something neutral. I'm happy you like it! I think I'm going to start using it.

You know when you're in a conversation and you need to draw a distinction between aromantic as a sublabel for those who feel 0 romantic attraction, and aromantic as the umbrella term for all the aromantic spectrum? And then you end up using a very unsastifying term cause you don't have anyone else? Well that was me last night. Someone asked if aros could fall in love and if you want to be a little more precise than "some do, some can't", vocabulary can be limited. It feels like every aro identity has a sublabel except those who feel zero romantic attraction. It also can create confusion, like if you say "I am aromantic so I feel no romantic attraction", people could answer "the definition of aromantic is little to no romantic attraction", etc. Attemps of labelling I've seen are not great : it adds a word before the word aro like "full" or "complete" or "100%" etc, that all implies that some people are more aro than others. Which is be the best way to put it right? But anyway tonight I had an idea for a label that, hopefully, doesn't have this problem. It is zeromantic. As you can guess, it is a mixed of zero, for zero romantic attraction, and aromantic. What do you think?

To add to what @DeltaArosaid, there is also the fact that the ace community appeared first, and then the aro one. So a lot of people view aro as a subtype of ace, and think that adding asexuality is enough to include us.

Non merci means no thank you in French. This is how I feel about romance.

You had nothing to apologize for. Best thing to do is to interact with her as little as possible. If she is not making any effort why should you? She was the one in the wrong and she doesn't even take responsability for the things she says and thinks. You don't want to talk to a hypocrite person anyway. So do your life, be polite if she is in the room but don't engage with her more than necessary.

About that I don't think it is only about sleeping with someone else, but also about breaking the agreement the relationship is based on (which is why cheating is also possible in a polyamorous relationship). Now it is true that it is strange that other betrayals are not seen as important, but I suppose it is because it touches the relationship itself and because people have thoughts like "if they see someone else to fulfill what our relationship should fulfill, then it is not working". I have an understanding of romance mainly based on fiction, which makes sound like not a great portrayal but a friend of mine said to me that fiction do represent how it works accurately, though it exagerates how crazy people can be about it. So not optimal but not an unacurate understanding.

I didn't like O. I made a whole poste about it so I'm not going to repeat myself, but I didn't like that the way the debate was set up made me think she was lying when she came out. I can't watch this thing without remembering how her saying "I'm asexual" made her pass from "not my favorite" to "I hate her, please Otis destroyer her even if you are a complete idiot who was in the wrong the entire time". Even if I know now she was not lying, it has a bad taste in my mouth. The elevator scene redeems her a bit for me because this scene is absolutely perfect, and I really recommand people to watch it even if they don't watch the show. Most relatable thing ever. And yeah I agree it is stupid that there can only be one therapist too. A therapist can't be good with everyone no matter how great they are, so people need to have the choice. I guess it's better they decide to work together but still. Sorry ha ha, you may guess that I'm not a big fan of O. I just think she is representative of the whole season for me : she has potential but was wasted. I would have appreciate more if we had one more season I think, just like we dis with Adam that I ended up liking a lot.

Wow I would not expect the number to be this high. Great!

This guy is red flag. Don't bother explaining things to guys like this. Say something like "what I don't like about you is that you don't know English, considering you don't know what no means" or "I don't like the fact that you are about to get trouble for harrassment", and eventually denounce him if it doesn't stop. People like this don't want an anwser to why you don't like him, they just want to know how to convince you to date him.

Also if I remember there were studies that show asexual people don't have hormones deficiency. I'm sure the same thing would be found of someone make researches for aro people.