Mark Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 How would you ideally like to live? Assuming that there were no practical issues constraining your choice. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
letusdeleteouraccounts Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 I like this survey right here, it’s very easy to understand and receive useful results from 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nolovejustlust Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 Solo dolo. All by myself. Perhaps it's early or I lack imagination, but doesn't sharing a bed with one person suggest a romantic relationship? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 1 hour ago, nolovejustlust said: Perhaps it's early or I lack imagination, but doesn't sharing a bed with one person suggest a romantic relationship? Not necessarily. I suppose it can be the case in a sexual context too. Or other, if people want a physical intimacy. But personnaly I lack of imagination to know how this is agreable. I like a big bed for myself alone. ? I said something else because I don't really know. Living with more than one person sounds interesting, but maybe tiresome. I could also see myself alone with a child. I may adopt someday. I don't think about these things; I can fantacize about things I want to do, but not about where I live and with who. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nolovejustlust Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 24 minutes ago, nonmerci said: Not necessarily. I suppose it can be the case in a sexual context too. Or other, if people want a physical intimacy. But personnaly I lack of imagination to know how this is agreable. I like a big bed for myself alone. ? Living together as sexual partners without someone catching feelings is something I've never seen and I have trouble imagining. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted August 31, 2019 Share Posted August 31, 2019 Well, if this is two aro allos, this is possible. And for the rest I won't speak, I know that aro allos struggle with this, but maybe someone here will tell me they succeeded to find an alloro Partner who don't catch feeling? 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 My ideal living situation would be communal, preferably with people who share a common purpose. I think if I was born in another time and place a monastery life could appeal to me. I would love if there were "atheist monestaries" maybe run by humanist organizations. Or some green sustainable living ones. I also see the appeal of living on my own though. Currently I have two lodgers living with me. We're not really friends, cause we have very different lives and interests, but we get along well. There are advantages to not living alone but some disadvantages too Which option did you pick @Mark ? 5 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Posted September 1, 2019 Author Share Posted September 1, 2019 18 hours ago, nolovejustlust said: Perhaps it's early or I lack imagination, but doesn't sharing a bed with one person suggest a romantic relationship? It's certainly a romantic coded idea. But for some people in may be a sexual or other physical intimacy thing. Similarly for wanting to share a bed with two or more people. 29 minutes ago, Holmbo said: My ideal living situation would be communal, preferably with people who share a common purpose. I think if I was born in another time and place a monastery life could appeal to me. I would love if there were "atheist monestaries" maybe run by humanist organizations. Or some green sustainable living ones. I also see the appeal of living on my own though. Currently I have two lodgers living with me. We're not really friends, cause we have very different lives and interests, but we get along well. There are advantages to not living alone but some disadvantages too Which option did you pick @Mark ? I was thinking that this would come under "group". Though plausibly a large group. Which of the group options would depend on if this were separate rooms or some kind of dormitory. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotHeartless Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 9 hours ago, Mark said: It's certainly a romantic coded idea. But for some people in may be a sexual or other physical intimacy thing. Similarly for wanting to share a bed with two or more people. Exactly my sentiments. Growing up, I used to share a bed with one friend everytime when we had a sleepover and I slept next to my roommate (and friend) one night where I coudn't sleep because of nigthmares. It's quite normal for me to sleep next to people I care about and like. As child, I used to sleep next to my parents often, to be honest I still do that when I visit them (well, next to my father but there is enough space between us). I don't know, it's just a natural thing to me. I love my sleeping space but if someone would want to sleep next to me, I would not have a problem with it. I would love to live with several people together where everyone can have their own space but everyone can also come by whenever they like. It's important to keep the balance between closeness and distance. Having people to cuddle with and share physical affection (non-sexual and sexual) is also something I am very fond of. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nolovejustlust Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 2 hours ago, Mark said: It's certainly a romantic coded idea. But for some people in may be a sexual or other physical intimacy thing. Sure. Theoretically, anything's possible. It's just difficult for me to imagine two sexual partners living and sleeping together in the same bed day in and day out and enmeshing their lives in the world we live in without romantic feelings developing at some point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
treepod Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 I chose one other person, with separate sleeping arrangements. Because although I like being cozy with people, sharing a bed is something I’ve never understood the appeal of. Especially on a nightly basis, it seems sort of cumbersome. And I like my personal space. Someone could be invited into that personal space from time to time, but not as a given. Actually, funnily enough, my parents (who are still married) sleep in separate rooms, as did my grandpa and his second wife. So I guess it’s a common enough preference in my family, though a little different in my case since it’d be a qpr, wherein the person is ideally like a longterm close roommate. 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
treepod Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 3 hours ago, NotHeartless said: I love my sleeping space but if someone would want to sleep next to me, I'd don't have a problem with it. I would love to live with several people together where everyone can have their own space but everyone can also come by whenever they like. It's important to keep the balanace between closeness and distance. Having people to cuddle with and share physical affection (non-sexual and sexual) is also something I am very fond of. This is a very nice sentiment. Ditto 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Misanthropy Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 On my own for the most part ,with someone that can stay over every now and then as a long term arrangement (seperate sleeping spaces obviously). The idea of someone else being in the same living space as I am daily freaks me out a little (okay more than a little),even if the person does give me personal space. I would be okay with staying on my own long term (assuming practicalities do not get in the way) should the "right" friend not come along though. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 8 hours ago, Mark said: I was thinking that this would come under "group". Though plausibly a large group. Which of the group options would depend on if this were separate rooms or some kind of dormitory. Yeah I picked group with separate bedrooms. I think it would work best if everyone had a small room of their own for privacy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cake-Loving Dragon Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 I chose the group with a shared bedroom, because the most ideal thing for me would be to live with my two best friends. We'd definitely be compatible to live together. But whether or not we shared a room, would be based mostly on their preference and on the situation. Edit: Wanting a shared bedroom, for me, isn't romantic or sexual. It's been years since I've slept in a bed alone, much less a room alone, so it's just familial and platonic for me. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Philotes Posted September 4, 2019 Share Posted September 4, 2019 I would prefer to live alone, maybe with a few pets. I live with one other adult right now and we share living space but we do have our seperate bedrooms. My roommate (housemate..?) was on a 2 month holiday earlier this year and I loved being completely on my own. I like having social contact, but it does have to be on my terms and that is not really achievable when you live in one house. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dragonheart Posted September 10, 2019 Share Posted September 10, 2019 For the longest time I just wanted it to be me and one best friend. Who this best friend might be changed over time, at first is was my brother, then it was a different person, and then those two started dating and long story short, I don't talk to either of them. But my new best friend suggested the idea of him and his girlfriend/future wife and I getting a place together, and that actually sounds better than my original plan did. It would be so perfect. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueKumul Posted November 23, 2019 Share Posted November 23, 2019 Communal living with individual bedrooms. Of course people would be able to invite others to their bedrooms for sex. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunny Posted November 25, 2019 Share Posted November 25, 2019 I think I'd be comfortable with the right person sharing a bed, but either a house by myself or a house with 2-3 people I consider close friends, or potentially qprs could be really fun imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bydontost Posted November 27, 2019 Share Posted November 27, 2019 I checked other and there were a few reasons why: 1. idk what my ideal living situation would be, i like to have other people easily accessible, but i have to have my space too... i think living alone wouldn't be a good option for me, 2. three or more people living with me would be way too many; one could be too little, though sounds doable, two could be really nice, 3. bed sharing =/= room sharing and having the option to sleep beside someone is nice sometimes, but sometimes only and i need space that is only mine a shared apartment with friends sounds nice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TripleA Posted November 28, 2019 Share Posted November 28, 2019 I don't think it's an issue with my aromanticism, but with my touch aversion, I don't want anyone near me usually. I am between being solo or having one other person (a partner) and having separate beds. On 8/31/2019 at 9:38 PM, nonmerci said: Well, if this is two aro allos, this is possible. And for the rest I won't speak, I know that aro allos struggle with this, but maybe someone here will tell me they succeeded to find an alloro Partner who don't catch feeling? two allo aros? lol I find it hard finding other allo aros 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted November 28, 2019 Share Posted November 28, 2019 6 hours ago, TripleA said: two allo aros? lol I find it hard finding other allo aros Yeah it is hard to find aro irl (never did I think, though I was glad to fond one person who know what it is once). I think sometimes it would be nice to have a website to make irl meeting (asexuals have their own dating website, asexualitic; it would be nice to have an équivalence for aro, minus the satin part (or maybe dating can be only sexual for allo aro? I don't know). 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apex Posted December 13, 2019 Share Posted December 13, 2019 I think my ideal situation would be living with a QPP (or QPPs?). I would prefer separate rooms, or at least separate beds, but it would still be nice to share a bed every so often. Right now I rent a place with a few friends and I'm pretty happy with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eatingcroutons Posted December 14, 2019 Share Posted December 14, 2019 Multiple people, my own bedroom. I don't like living alone, but I need my own space - not least so I can have sexual partners over! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ch0c0 Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 I am living solo now. Earlier I enjoyed living in a shared accomodation (own bedroom). I may do it again with the right people and with enough space to store my belongings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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