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Holmbo

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  1. I'm sorry to hear that but good that you've been learning about it. I've heard there are some studies to try to find treatments for it. Do you know of them and if so are you part of any?
  2. People don't actually talk about birds and bees. They just use that expression as a euphemism for talking to their child about sex.
  3. I'm reading Don Quixote and in a little side story lo and behold: a super aro woman. I don't remember her name now but her story is she's very beautiful and so many men are in love with her and call her cruel for not returning their love. She just want to spend her time alone in nature and not be bothered, and she calls them out about how can it be bad for a woman to remain by herself when virginity is consider such a virtue.
  4. I imagine you could ask in most online places to get answer for this question. For example on Reddit in the AskReddit group.
  5. None of this sounds unusual for an aro. We all have variations for sure so if you find a microlabel which feels fit you go ahead and use it. However most microlabels are used to describe how one in some sense revert from the norm. For example grey romantic is about feeling some romantic attraction, cupio romantic is about desiring a romantic relationship. From what I've heard from other it's not uncommon to be able to understand why someone want a romantic relationship and sometimes experience things feeling kinda like romantic attraction. Romance is a nebulous concept so it can be hard to even say what's romantic or not.
  6. "aros usually just cannot understand the motivation for romance at all" I don't think this is the case. There are many aros who are in romantic relationships. Maybe you could elaborate what you mean in regards to motivation of romance? "If I fantasize, I can still elicit in myself the same anticipation of romance and the pleasures involved that previously would have led to actions that would be characteristic of attraction." Is this with a particular person or can you do this with anyone? I don't have experience with that in particular but I feel fantasy is very different from actual experience. Not sure you differ from many other aromantics if you sometimes fantasies about wanting romance, same as an asexual might fantasies about wanting sex.
  7. My friend had to cancel our dinner and TV night because she is sick and now I feel so bored! I don't want to be home but I don't have anywhere else I want to be either. If it wasn't for the stupid darkness I'd take a long walk somewhere. I can still walk in darkness, I'm not afraid, but I just don't like it.

  8. Mm workout clothes. Workout seems pretty unromantic to me. No one is like "I went on this really romantic running date".
  9. Maybe you could buy some kind of clip ons
  10. It feels good. The tongue has many touch sensors.
  11. Bella Baxter from poor things seems very much aroallo.
  12. Those look good. Have you had them?
  13. I like this MS paint aro flag
  14. I love open mouth kissing with someone who's good at it. A follow up question: anyone who's aroallo and don't enjoy that kissing? Because I associate it with sex rather than romance but I'm curious if some find it romantic.
  15. Yeah I think romantic attraction would mean the desire to do romantic activities with the person. Maybe you got those feelings for another reason? For example I for a while was very obsessed with a character in a TV show. I would think about them a lot and they would pop into my mind at lots of different moments. When thinking about them sometimes I would feel kinda nervous and Ill at ease though. I did not feel romantic or sexual attraction for them so I think it was just something in their storyline which affected me more deeply.
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