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Ch0c0

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  1. This seems wise 🤔. After all we pay them so I figured that I would not spend any more of their expensive time discussing these topics. You can go see different people for different reasons as well.
  2. I can relate. I had similar issues with my current therapist. At first I tried to educate her...did not really work. I just stopped bringing my aromantic identity during the sessions as it was the least of my problems. I consider getting another therapist if I want to discuss relationships again.
  3. I get irritated in front of cliché characters. It would be good not stay into the clichés that nourished my internalized bi and arophobi. Bisexuals don't just click with anyone and aromantics are not superficial people only looking for one night stands. Amen to that. Sound like the story of my love life... This is a very pragmatic reason why I did not have lots of sex.
  4. Get along with people who are not talking only about romance. Go with people who share your other interests. Be clear with others about the things that trigger you. If you don't want to come out as aro, just say that you don't want to talk/be reminded about relationships right now. Even romantic people have the right not to seek romance at times.
  5. Same remark about discord servers! If you really want to get involved you can stay there (sometimes for long). In some you can even feel 'useful'. I no longer have time for this since I'm working from home. But I got involved in some local initiatives (going grocery shopping for disabled people, making masks, spreading awareness on social network, keeping in contact with the elderly, cheering for the doctors and nurses with my neighbours every day,...). In these volunteer networks we have some additionnal contacts face to face but mostly from far and on the social networks.
  6. Maybe you don't like other people being too obvious about romance and showcasing their relationship? I hate when people use romance as a social status booster. But when you are in the position yourself you would not be bothered by it because you feel that it is genuine.
  7. This is nice art but... I find the facial expression confusing with the hearts. But I thought about this: when discovering a text from a loved one: first feeling happy when seeing the sender (hearts) then surprise or being attentive. Her face althought seems quite scared <-- "Hi, I hope you wont mind but Mom said she would join us on our next lunch.") then feeling happy (hearts), hopefully...
  8. Ch0c0

    Hiya!

    Welcome Dark 🤗. You may find some relatable topics here.
  9. Of course I miss a lot of things because I'm myself. I have never been in a relationship because of how I saw it until now. Although for me it is on the same level as: I have crap reflexes so I'm not a good gamer. Never gossipping about romance, I was never like the cool kids. On the other side I feel blessed about some things. I practice easily different languages and it has open so many doors to me. While some people spent their energy dating I was studying and being dedicated during my career. It lead me abroad to experience other cultures while my old classmates where struggling with low incomes and divorce.
  10. My ideal career would be in sustainable development and would allow me to have more contact with both nature and people. About recycling and reuse, there are a lot of upcycling initiatives in my city, from furniture to clothes or electronic appliances. This is good because it reduces the overall carbon footprint, relocalises workforce and provides cheap products to people in need.
  11. I'm often more afraid of reality than fantasy. There was one social riot scene in the movie Germinal that shocked the hell out of me when I was 14. It was a very realistic French movie. A teacher showed it to us at school (this guy was nuts) because it was relevant for the history of our local mining industry. I had my guard down as it was at school so I was not expecting too disturbing content. It hit me harder because of that. There was sex and enough violence to make it 18+.
  12. I really don't know where the line is for me because I have not even thought about crossing it...if this makes sense?
  13. I don't think that anyone around me really believes me when I say that I'm aromantic. They pretend to accept it, out of respect, but still hope or think that I am wrong. This includes my parents, best friends and therapist. Time is unrelated as I'm over 30 now. I just do as always: continue living my life the way I want even if this makes me look 'weird' to others.
  14. You are what you are and that is perfectly fine. It would be boring if everyone exactly fit into cases. You can choose the label that fits the most or a label that will allow you to reach your relationship goals. "Maybe if we became friends this will lead somewhere?" Have you tried projecting yourself long term into this somewhere? Would you like it? I also pondered whether I was completely aromantic or not. I feel other kinds of attration to people (intellectual, aesthetic,...) who make it very confusing in a romance context. I have chosen my label looking at my past, present but also future.
  15. Romance indifferent or slightly positive when it is about other people. Slightly romance repulsed when it's about me. I don't use this label: even said with a big smile the 'aromantic' label is usually enough to discourage potential suitors.
  16. I like hugs from my parents and from my closests friends, althought I originally disliked them. I don't like kisses in general, even on the cheek. Actually this may be being too close to somebody's face that I hate the most. Unfortunately it is in our local culture to greet people with 2 to 3 kisses on both cheeks. One is perceived as a rude asocial if you don't do it, even with colleagues at work. Shaking hands turned out to be the big boss's exclusive right so doing this would be pretentious. I usually just touch cheeks to cheeks or go close and make the kiss noise, like some other people do. I tried French kissing and really did not understand the hype about it. I don't like cuddling in general. Occasional passionate hugs is ok but not more than that.
  17. 1) I would like to see aro that can not be considered as loosers and aros that display a lot of strong love feelings. 2) There is a manga translated in French "Aromantic (love) story" about an aroace mangaka. I have not completed it so I'm not sure if she is really aro though. Some people try to fix her which I find quite annoying.
  18. Everybody has the right not to be interested or to be interested in just friendship. You don't have to come out as aromantic for this. I keep the 'aromantic' for very very persistant people.
  19. Hello Sajastar, Welcome to the forum!
  20. People need to stop thinking that bisexuals just go along with anyone. Nobody will just go with anyone, not even animals do. I think that bisexuality is very 'noble' because you can in a way see the beauty/sexual appeal of persons from different genders. Almost spiritual. (Sapios should understand the appeal of the personality above the flesh considerations.) You are valid, specially not a slut and should not feel that way. I'm very sad that you had to experience this.
  21. I used to say "Don't act on something that happened after 2AM." The alcohol makes it even worse. But of course you and your way to love are valid.
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