Acecream Posted April 12, 2021 Share Posted April 12, 2021 Hey i just want to open a thread, where we can share all the euphoria or the good moments aromanticism gives us. Whether it are specific moments or just general feelings. just forget about the bad ones for a moment and start a thread full of luck and happiness :) for example; the more I think about amatonormativity the more I consider it as a harmful concept; not only for aros but for allos too!! So, sometimes I am just happy that I can live beside those amatonormative rules and that my pure existence proves amatonormativity wrong. It just gives me euphoria bc I feel as if aromanticism helps me to live more free and just the way I want to. 19 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eatingcroutons Posted April 12, 2021 Share Posted April 12, 2021 (edited) . Edited September 1, 2021 by eatingcroutons 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
void Posted April 12, 2021 Share Posted April 12, 2021 The moment i realized that i was fine on my own and didnt need anyone else to be happy or complete as a person felt like a weight was lifted off my chest. Felt like i could finally start living for me and not just to fullfill the expectations of other poeple. 18 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rainy Robin Posted April 13, 2021 Share Posted April 13, 2021 This thread makes me so happy! Thanks for starting this conversation, @Acecream. :) To mirror what others have said, finding the aro label and the community comes with a profound sense of freedom to live life according to your own values. I'm thankful that learning about my aromanticism has encouraged me to be way more critical of society's expectations and scripts for how life is supposed to work and how people are supposed to find happiness. Having that new approach to figuring out what feels authentic to me is invaluable, and I think it would've taken me a lot longer to discover that had I not been aromantic or found the aro community. 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScarfOfSexualPreference Posted April 13, 2021 Share Posted April 13, 2021 One thing I like about identifying as aromantic outwardly to most people is being able to reject people without feeling guilty at all. I know I don't owe men or women anything, but whenever someone puts themselves out there to ask me something, it's really nice to be able to say "oh, I'm aromantic," and that way they in no way feel like it's their fault. Another perk is that friends I've 'come out' to don't catch feelings for me, or if they do, they can try to get over it rather than thinking there's a chance, you know? Maybe that's a callous way of thinking about it, but it's nice to have that freedom. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erederyn Posted April 13, 2021 Share Posted April 13, 2021 Aromanticism has helped me to feel empowered in making life how I want it to be. I feel that there are so many more possibilities and that I'm not obligated to follow a certain path. I can customize and develop relationships according to what I want (with consent of the other person involved, of course) without having to wedge myself or my relationships into a specific box. It's also helped me learn a lot about how varied the human experience can be and drives me to fight even harder for a society in which people can have the freedom to express this vast diversity of humanity. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotHeartless Posted April 13, 2021 Share Posted April 13, 2021 I'm so happy to not have to deal with dating, finding "the one", pregnancy and the "biological clock", being married to one person my whole life and all that stressful stuff! I'm happy to have peace on my own and like eatingcroutons said: freedom! I can be spontaneous in my life and flexible. My aromanticism allows me to not follow a script that's given to us but stray waaay away from that and walk my own ways of happiness. When I fully realized this, a weight fell off my shoulders! 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted April 14, 2021 Share Posted April 14, 2021 I am happy to be aro for various reasons. One of them being having my own freedom to just live my life as myself. To be able to take vacations and spend them for me only, not having to think an chain myself to the expectations of anyone. Not be afraid to live, actually enjoy my time in this world and not think that I need someone to "complete" me to be happy. I choose who I want as my family, and together we just spent time being genuine with each other. Being aro, and my close friends knowing it, liberates me, I can say "I love you" to my friends and them knowing I mean it in a platonic way. I take pleasure in knowing that I can be myself with my friends, and know we are on the same page, that there is not a hidden message for our actions. Finally, I just love to be able to sleep with anyone in the same couch or bed, and knowing that there is no need to do anything else besides sleeping. Thanks @Acecream did not that I needed this thread until I saw it 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuySomeCheese Posted April 14, 2021 Share Posted April 14, 2021 I'm happy to be on the aromantic-spectrum; I started figuring it out at a pretty perfect time in my life and it's really helped me not feel super guilty for not being able to reciprocate romantic feelings in the way people want me too. It's also seemed to open up how I feel about intimate relationships (like in a platonic/queerplatonic way mainly) in general 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Atlamillia Pixie Posted April 14, 2021 Share Posted April 14, 2021 Similar to what others have said, finding out I was aromantic lifted so much dread and pressure off my shoulders and I was happy. I was happy after breaking up with my ex and being friends again, but knowing why the relationship didn't work made it so much better, so freeing. No more worrying about how get into a relationship, how to act to once I when in a relationship, and no existential dread for the future about how to be someone who isn't me 24/7 (I am romance adverse when it comes to romance directed at me, in case it wasn't obvious). Amatonormativity was a bitch and I'm glad to be done with it. Ah, the euphoria from that thought alone. Oh, and the figuring out that I am aromantic really helped with gaining some self confidence and having more sex positive attitude for myself. I was already was sex positive for humanity in general, but it gave me the swift kick in ass to finally be comfortable with myself being a sexual being. So, yeah, being aromantic is amazing, at least for me. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vinniebandit Posted April 14, 2021 Share Posted April 14, 2021 Happy to have all my time as "me-time" (even when working ?) and to be relieved of the weight of making someone else happy. Egotist? Narcissist? Nope - aro/self-centered and master of my domain ? 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roboticanary Posted April 14, 2021 Share Posted April 14, 2021 Being self reliant is fantastic. I am quite happy that there is no one person who has great control over how I live my life in the way a romantic relationship tends to have. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted April 23, 2021 Share Posted April 23, 2021 I live with a friend at the moment and it's been great! And if he ever gets a jealous girlfriend (or just a regular girlfriend who wants to live with him) I can move out and choose some other communal living situation. I don't have to consider the convenience of anyone else. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nessa Posted May 10, 2021 Share Posted May 10, 2021 I am so happy to be free to do whatever I want whenever I want. If any great opportunity comes on my way I don't have to take somebody else's opinion and I can just go for it without any feeling of culpability. I can live 100% for myself, some people may see it as egoism but I don't care. Having the life I want to have and being able to do everything I can to have it is what makes me happy and maybe I wouldn't have the freedom to do it if I had to take somebody else's opinion in consideration. So being aromantic is just awesome ? 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodbyeRepublicServices Posted May 10, 2021 Share Posted May 10, 2021 To me, there's absolutely nothing negative about aromanticism! When others shove amatonormativity, allonormativity, and heteronormativity at me, it's actually entertaining, since I know that I'm protected from them. No one has ever asked me out, but if it were to happen, I wouldn't hesitate to say "no!" without feeling guilty. Besides, I'd be serving such a person in a way, because if they were in a romantic relationship with me, they'd be held back from finding a better romantic candidate for them. Something else I find great about being aromantic is that, as said by others, I can focus 100% on myself and not have to put energy and attention into someone else's priorities. To me, that's just not authentic living. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acecream Posted June 20, 2021 Author Share Posted June 20, 2021 that I can chose whether I want to socialize or not and can go home when I feel it without having to take anyone into consideration that I can chose to work all night or going to sleep in the early evening without anyone who has other plans that I know the concept of amatonormativity and allonormativity bc I love it to have knowledge about concepts I can complain about hahaha (but it's kind of sad that alloallos don't wanna see that it may harm themselves too) 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acecream Posted June 29, 2021 Author Share Posted June 29, 2021 I guess I have a squish (not 100% sure but about 95%) and it's just amazing how much happiness I feel bc I know that the person is in an amazing romantic relationship 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roboticanary Posted June 30, 2021 Share Posted June 30, 2021 A few friends of mine have told me about a little voice in their head, where when they talk to friends they find themselves wondering if their partner thinks they are going to cheat. Not having to deal with that is good. I can chat with whoever and don't need to defend it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acecream Posted August 10, 2022 Author Share Posted August 10, 2022 (edited) being aromantic feels so f***ing queer and as I love my queerness (bad days apart haha) I love how my aroness is a huge part of it Edited August 10, 2022 by Acecream 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roboticanary Posted August 12, 2022 Share Posted August 12, 2022 Having a symbol being a ring on the middle finger is top quality. This is my identity, now off you fuck. 5 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
piroshki101 Posted August 31, 2022 Share Posted August 31, 2022 I love being aro because I feel so free. I can finally just live my life without that much drama. I can create the drama through stories or read 'em cause that's enough. I also can finally breathe because there is no pressure to get into a relationship. I know that I'm loved and cared for by my friends and that's enough for me because I wouldn't have it any other way :) 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pyr Posted September 1, 2022 Share Posted September 1, 2022 Being aro is overpowered in Truth or Dare-- if you pick truth, people will (almost) always ask you who your crush is. And then you can honestly say you don't have one. 8 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaikeruSapphire Posted September 4, 2022 Share Posted September 4, 2022 Not needing to spend any time dealing with crushes or anything like that. I'm a complete person on my own. That's my biggest aro joy. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
S-Hawk Posted September 15, 2022 Share Posted September 15, 2022 i find romantic relationships to be mostly tiring because being passionate with someone is really hard for me even when im alterously attracted to them. i reckoned romantic relationships would work the same way so im glad im aro since i dont have to worry about getting worked up over crushes and being diehard to sustain the relationship platonic relationship imo is the best relationship because me and my homies can not talk to eachother in months and when we does our bond is still as strong as ever. whereas in most romantic relationships you have to dedicate enough time and effort or else if both of you stop talking for a long time yall will most likely lose the romantic attraction idk. maybe its just me 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaxIsCosmic Posted September 15, 2022 Share Posted September 15, 2022 For me finding community was what really made me happy finding myself was something but I ended up feeling really alone until I found my aro spec friends and this place it has seriously made me so happy. Especially with being a younger person it was hard to find a community with my age group and I couldn’t find any advice from adult people on the aro spec this place probably changed my teen years, knowing how alone I would have felt if I had been the only aro spec person I know. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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