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About Erederyn

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    Aromantic, Aroqueer
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    she/her, ey/em

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  1. Hey there, I'm sorry that you're going through this, it's not a nice situation. Struggles with friendship can be really heartbreaking and knowing that you might be left behind for a romantic partner can be deeply disappointing. It might be difficult, but I do think it's important that you talk to your friend about this. She might have no clue how you're feeling and keeping it to yourself could potentially sour the relationship and lead to resentment. Also like Nessa mentioned, you might want to know why her dating behavior changed all of a sudden. EIther way, I think it is important to talk. B
  2. It usually lasts for 1-1.5 hours, but you're welcome to leave earlier if you need to!
  3. Thank you, that would be fantastic! I'm starting translator recruitments next week and will set up a folder sometime tomorrow. I'll send you the link once it's up.
  4. Hey all! So I've been working on a challenging amatonormativity guide and it is done, wooo. I'm posting this here because it is aimed at alloromantic folks (although could be useful for aros dealing with internalized amatonormativity). I'm hoping that allies that will use this guide in order to not only be better allies to aros, but to also actively challenge their own amatonormative standards. Feel free to share it, especially with people in your life who could benefit from learning about amatonormativity. And if there is anyone on the forums who consider themselves an ally to aros, ple
  5. Yeah, my family especially thinks that I'm not in a romantic relationship because I'm focused on my education/career.... which means that they think that pretty much once I finish my PhD, I'll be "on the market." I find it annoying because it shows that many people can't accept simply not wanting romance. There must be some other reason (and it better be an important one at that). I also find it amusing that basically the only things considered important enough to prevent pursuing romantic relationships are study/work. I find that it really just simplifies our lives and takes away some agency.
  6. Absolutely, it came from here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1OIup9snvs88Z_5bWqC1CEpybNaNRhMcE/view
  7. I do agree with the others that you choose a label that you feel more comfortable with, whether it's a reflection of what you feel now or a reflection of something you might want. So if you think you might want a romantic relationship one day, then you can identify as demiromantic to capture that even if you are unsure of whether experience romantic attraction (or even if you are sure that you don't experience it). I don't want to derail this thread, but this version of the RA smorgasbord is a bit better.
  8. I experience sensual attraction as a separate thing (it can be tied to aesthetic for me, though). For me, it's different from sexual- being physically close to someone doesn't mean that I'll want to have sex with them. When I am physically affectionate with someone I am sensually attracted to, I get !!! but not in a sexual way- that's it, I don't want to have sex with them. I view sensual attraction in the same way as Blake, "actions that have no further consequences," but for others, sensual attraction can also lead/be related to sexual attraction/actions. So I guess it depends on if those se
  9. Aromanticism has helped me to feel empowered in making life how I want it to be. I feel that there are so many more possibilities and that I'm not obligated to follow a certain path. I can customize and develop relationships according to what I want (with consent of the other person involved, of course) without having to wedge myself or my relationships into a specific box. It's also helped me learn a lot about how varied the human experience can be and drives me to fight even harder for a society in which people can have the freedom to express this vast diversity of humanity.
  10. Hello and welcome! I'm also studying psychology, doing a PhD in psychopathology and cognitive functions. Nice to meet a fellow psych grad student 👋
  11. Hey there, I understand that this can be confusing if aromanticism is foreign to you. Being aromantic does not necessarily mean that someone can't be affectionate or that someone can't love (although there are aromantics who do not experience affection or love aka loveless). There are different ways to love someone that is not romantic and sometimes it can look like romance if someone is unaware of this. Being intimate, affectionate, or emotionally (even physically) close to someone is not inherently romantic. An important distinction to make is that there is a difference between attraction an
  12. Wecome! Besides uplifting Rainy Robin's good advice and answer, you might want to look into noetiromantic. https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Noetiromantic
  13. Round-up is posted! https://graces-of-luck.tumblr.com/post/647291831991828480/carnival-of-aros-round-up-march-2021
  14. Welcome, nice to meet you! Hahaha, I feel this ~ It can feel odd sometimes when others around me are "moving on" with their lives and I'm just chillin, not sure how my future will look like. I'm almost 30, so I sometimes feel like an oldie with the younger people in the aro community, but it's also exciting to see that people are able to find out about aromanticism when younger. Yay for increasing visibility! Anyway, I hope you enjoy your time here!
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