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  1. Hello Rio and welcome 😊
  2. Hello and welcome! I am french I am aroace, not pretty sure with the ace part sometimes but don't have doubts about being aro.
  3. Hello and Welcome I am Nessa 39 yo and found out about aromantism a few months ago. Like you i've never been in love, have a crush or been in a relationship. It takes time to know for sure but i hope that this community will help you. It is nice to talk with people who are the same and feel the same way.
  4. Hello Andie and welcome. My Instagram is @frenchygreenie_aroace if you want. I know how it is to not having aro around you it is the same for me and for a lot of us. have a nice day
  5. Welcome and have a nice weekend
  6. Welcome I hope that you will find the answers you need. 😁
  7. Hello and welcome Frog. This is such a cute name. I hope that you will find the answers to your questions here and that you will enjoy being here with us.
  8. Hello and Welcome!! I know how you feel I was so happy to find this forum and know that I am not the only one. I am pretty tired to with this you can't be happy without a relationship and having a relationship is the only goal of our life!!! Some people has made my life a nightmare with that. I hope that you will like being a member of this forum. Have a nice day! Take care
  9. Hello Kiara, Welcome in the forum!! Nice to meet you :-D I hope that you will enjoy being a part of this community
  10. Hello and welcome. Nice to have a new member. As @Andy Luhas said if you think that you are aro/ace there is nothing wrong with it. sometimes it takes time to really figure out this kind of things. You may think that you are aro/ace for the moment and find out that you are not in a few years and that absolutely valid don't worry. Take the time you need to find who you really are. The fact that you love having sex as nothing to do with being asexual, some aces love sex being asexual is not having sexual desire, not getting hot as some may say, not having an urge to have sex. Everyone is different. Myself I don't have sexual desire and don't like sex, I am also aromantic as I never felt any romantic attraction to anyone, never been in love, and never been interested in having a relationship. I know a lot of aros want to have a platonic relationship, what they call a qpr so you can perfectly be in a relationship and being aro you are still valid. I only knew that I was aroace even without knowing the words I guess that until a few months ago I didn't feel like I had to have a word for it. I knew about asexuality but never heard about aromanticism as these 2 things are completely unknown in my country. When I found out about it I read all the informations I could find and just knew that I was aro. And I have to say that now I am happy to know what I am it is like a relief to know it and to know that there is nothing wrong with me. You will find a lot of different themes in this forum with people talking about their experiences maybe some of it will help you. I hope that you will enjoy being a part of this community. Take care Nessa
  11. Hello Sam, welcome in the forum and nice to meet you. I am Nessa 39 and oriented aroace. Actually I just found out about aromanticism a few months ago and it was as if someone just turn the light on. I finally understand so much things and being in this forum, knowing that I am not alone really helps me a lot. I hope that you will find whatever you are looking for.
  12. For me people who can't live without romance are people with no life, no passion no hobbies, who don't know what to do with their lives, and are scared to be alone.
  13. I relate to what you say. I found out only a few months ago about aromanticism. It explains so many things and in the same time, since I know about it, I wonder if I don't take it as an excuse to hide something or to do not accept that there is something wrong with me that I don't want to see. I think that we need time to really know who we are, I have to say that to have found out about aromanticism made me feel included in a community for the first time of my life, knowing that some other people are like me, go through the same things I do, live what I live. It is really helpful to know that there is nothing wrong with me and there are many people like me all around the world. Somehow it is a relief to know that there is a reason why I have never been in love, I have never been interested in relationship,... As @Kalliehas said the most important is for you to feel comfortable with the way you identify yourself, you have to feel happy being who you are and not who people want you to be, if you are not sure yet if you are aro or not there is nothing wrong with that, take your time to found out and if after a while you change your mind and realise that you are not then it is ok. Just think about you, what make you feel good, comfortable and happy I hope this helps you.
  14. I relate so much to what you say. Always felt appart from everyone different, weird. I had friends wwho couldn't accept that I wasn't interested in having relationshi and hurt me so much. I also found out a few months ago about aromanticism and just by reading about it I just knew that was me. I am 39. For the asexuality actually it never was important to me I have never see sex as somthing important in life.
  15. Hello and Welcome in this forum. Happy 5th anniversary 😊
  16. I am aroace but not agender. I am a woman who is different from other women, don't have the same interests, don't want the same things in life. I don't dream about love, romance, having babies, having a partner. I am just a woman who want to live her dreams, travel, read, learn more and more things in her life but all by on my own not with someone else.
  17. Hello welcome in arocalypse !! It is always great to have one more member. Being young doesn't mean that it is too early to already look for who you are if you think that you have to and like @Blakehas said if you feel like you are aro for now but change your mind later it doesn't matter. Feel free to just be yourself ☺️
  18. I don't mind romantic things in tv, books, music or wherever but I have not interest for it in my life not even a platonic relationship. So I guess I may be romance indifferent too. I am also bored when there is too much romance in movies and it just annoys me when they put romance out of nowhere in a movie when it has absolutely no sense. I am wondering if someday I meet someone that interests me I would try to have a relationship or not but I have to say that until now I can't even imagine this situation happening. I stay open and will see what will come to me. I've never had romance advances in my life by anyone so I don't even know how I would react.
  19. Nessa

    Am I Aro?

    Hello, It is hard to say if you are aro or not as you say it is really up to you. Maybe try to figure out how you felt when you used to think about him or was with him and try to see if it was different than when you were with very closed friends. I heard that romantics feel something different. If you have some friends that you are confortable to talk about that, try to ask them how they feel when they are in love: butterfly in the stomach, the heart goes faster, they miss this person and think about her/him all the time... I hope that you will find your answers, it may takes time :-D
  20. Hello Happy pride month to everyone !! πŸ˜ƒ
  21. Welcome and Happy pride month to you too. :-D
  22. Hello, It is hard to tell, only you can know that. I could say : Just give you some times. As long as you feel ok with who you are there is no problem of not being sure of your orientation. It takes time for some people to be sure. And if later you change your mind about your orientation it is ok too. There is nothing wrong with that. You can think that you are greyromantic for now and find out later that you are aro or whatever orientation will feel right at this time. Myself I have confused many times romantic attraction with aesthetic attraction but everyone is different.
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