LaReine Posted November 8, 2020 Share Posted November 8, 2020 I mean, I don't even understand relationships and even less the concept of romance at all. But anyone else feeling lonely on a platonic level? I don't have much friends and I never feel like I can talk to the few I have. Moreover, I'm shit at making new friends and especially forming lasting friendships (mostly because I'm a social and emotional disaster who tends to push people away as soon as I get emotionally attached to them). 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roboticanary Posted November 8, 2020 Share Posted November 8, 2020 I relate to the experience of pushing people away and I definitely relate to having very few friends. Certainly 2020 has hit me with a feeling of loneliness from the few friends I have, but usually I get through alright. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D0NN13_D1N0 Posted November 8, 2020 Share Posted November 8, 2020 Absolutely, i'm incredibly grateful for my friends but i'm so bad at maintaining friendships and we're all finishing school next year:(( Just kinda sucks bc I have difficulty approaching people I want to talk to and will probably lose my existing friends rip 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LazyPilgrim Posted December 28, 2020 Share Posted December 28, 2020 Yeah, that's me. Never had any friendships past the casual level. Got used to being alone - mostly. Companionship and emotional support would be nice, but I don't know how to offer those myself, so how can I ask others to? 4 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DivineCyst Posted February 13, 2021 Share Posted February 13, 2021 Same. Just same. I have my lasting friends but that's it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spark_TheDemiboyRat Posted February 13, 2021 Share Posted February 13, 2021 I'm almost always lonely. I'm not really sure why, but it even happens when I'm with other people. It's kinda weird... 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DivineCyst Posted February 13, 2021 Share Posted February 13, 2021 11 minutes ago, Confused Artist said: I'm almost always lonely. I'm not really sure why, but it even happens when I'm with other people. It's kinda weird... Same and I zone out but then I remember: these people care and if they don't then they should leave. I refocus on the present and be present. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apathetic Echidna Posted February 14, 2021 Share Posted February 14, 2021 I've been good at contacting friends recently, but in catching up I compare my life to theirs and I feel shame because I think I haven't achieved anything worthwhile. Which is some sort of internal desolate wasteland.....which make me feel lonelier when I'm with my friends.... So, completely not what you asked! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DogObsessedLi Posted February 14, 2021 Share Posted February 14, 2021 Yep, especially as friends often prioritise their romantic relationship above everything else. Bring back school "best mates" I say! 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam Spade Posted February 14, 2021 Share Posted February 14, 2021 Yes, I only had a few friends, and they moved away. I'm always the one who reaches out which makes me wonder if anyone actually likes hanging out with me... 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScarfOfSexualPreference Posted February 15, 2021 Share Posted February 15, 2021 I just really want a good hug but I'm not close enough with anyone I know to be super close to them that way... Plus, like a lot of other people on this thread, I'm so awful at being vulnerable so I just end up being the mom or therapist friend and can't return that kind of friendship. kinda sucks. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted February 19, 2021 Share Posted February 19, 2021 (edited) Yep. Besides the pandemic not letting me hug any human, all my friends are now getting jobs and continuing studying and are separated. We hang out once per week via internet to catch up but I really miss them and would love to get a group hug to not feel alone. Since I am the only one not in a relationship, I fear they may slowly drift apart and cut me up, maybe is my anxiety and depression but that feeling is there 24/7 now. Edited February 19, 2021 by Blake Mispelled a word or two 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rolo Posted February 19, 2021 Share Posted February 19, 2021 Yes, I haven't seen most of my friends in person since last February. Video chats just aren't the same. The couple I have occasionally seen it has been for 2m distanced walks, which isn't exactly companionable. I miss them, and I'm feeling lonely. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DivineCyst Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 On 2/14/2021 at 3:48 PM, Sam Spade said: Yes, I only had a few friends, and they moved away. I'm always the one who reaches out which makes me wonder if anyone actually likes hanging out with me... Omg same! I mean, not with all of my friends, not all the time but, when it does happen that they reach out first, usually they need information or just want to make sure I'm ok haha 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaviM703 Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 I feel that way a lot. I have one very good best friend but don't see her as much as before the pandemic and am alone a lot more of the time. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acecream Posted March 20, 2021 Share Posted March 20, 2021 (edited) On 2/13/2021 at 2:48 AM, Spark_TheDemiboyRat said: I'm almost always lonely. I'm not really sure why, but it even happens when I'm with other people. It's kinda weird... Sometimes I even feel more lonely when I am with other people/friends. Everyone around me is getting happier and happier while I’m feeling sadder and sadder... and I don’t know why bc we actually do have a good time. Or when I had a nice evening with friends and I’m cycling home... then I sometimes feel like the loneliest human on this planet although I was surrounded by friends minutes before. (all during non-COVID times) On 2/19/2021 at 8:30 AM, Rolo said: Yes, I haven't seen most of my friends in person since last February. Video chats just aren't the same. The couple I have occasionally seen it has been for 2m distanced walks, which isn't exactly companionable. I miss them, and I'm feeling lonely. This. We met via zoom a few weeks ago and after like five minutes I had to leave the call and started to cry bc it were just too many emotions and I remembered how much I missed them which I couldn’t handle. Edited March 20, 2021 by Acecream 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aversa Posted March 20, 2021 Share Posted March 20, 2021 Yes... Its been a hard year. I am very good a keeping friends. I reach out to them and they reach out to me. But over the last year everything started to feel shallow since chatting and discord talks took over. I hate that, I just feel disconnected from them and I need that emotional bond. People started to keep things to them selfes and I noticed that from me too. Normaly I don't mind sharing my feelings but recently I feel bad oversharing maybe because they stopped doing it too. I feel lonely even while not alone. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acecream Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 At the moment I have the feeling as if this situation (being isolated from friends during COVID) would remain my entire life... that this is how I’ll feel for the rest of my life while everyone around me starts relationships and families. The hardest thing is that I have no idea who I can talk to while feeling so 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swag gender Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 same, i rly miss having a deep emotionnal connection with a friend. rn the closest ppl i got are acquaintances at best :/ 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Intergalactic Indigo Posted March 30, 2021 Share Posted March 30, 2021 On 3/29/2021 at 1:46 AM, Acecream said: At the moment I have the feeling as if this situation (being isolated from friends during COVID) would remain my entire life... that this is how I’ll feel for the rest of my life while everyone around me starts relationships and families. I feel the same way. My friends have been drifting apart during the pandemic, and I worry that once we can see each other again, they'll all rush back to their romantic relationships and I'll be left behind. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InvisibleSquid Posted March 31, 2021 Share Posted March 31, 2021 I generally don't see myself as feeling lonely, but lately with my current situation, along with the world's current social situation, I'm finding that I'm missing the feeling of having close friends. I've been in constant touch with a few of my best friends from college, which has been really nice. But I feel like I need a new connection. Someone to bond with and learn about and chat about weird and crazy things with. So the answer is yes. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FragileDear Posted May 8, 2021 Share Posted May 8, 2021 I have always kinda struggled to make and maintain friends. Before the pandemic I had resigned myself to trying to make more friends. I was already feeling a bit lonely having realized a lot of my friends had drifted apart since I graduated college a few years ago. Coming to the realization I am aroace during the pandemic has been a bit of a complicating factor. It feels like I have these new lenses to see the world through and try to create the kinds of relationships I do want, but I can't really test them out. I relate to a lot of the comments here. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roboticanary Posted May 11, 2021 Share Posted May 11, 2021 Things are slowly getting back to something approaching normal in the UK and I am slowly starting to see a few friends in person for the first time in ages. It really made me realise how lonely I was before but just getting through because there was no other choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuySomeCheese Posted May 12, 2021 Share Posted May 12, 2021 I usually don't feel this way, but recently it's really been hitting hard. I've been feeling like I can't talk to any of my friends/soon-to-be friends because it feels like a lot of them have started having romantic feelings for me. It's kinda sucky because it directly related to the timeline of me figuring out my arospec identity, so then I feel like I can't talk about that specifically because what if they're only staying friends with me because they want to date me? But despite how uncomfortable I am with that thought, I value our friendship too much to possibly lose it over something like that... It's becoming a very vicious cycle honestly, I just need to figure out what to do about it lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ciel Posted May 12, 2021 Share Posted May 12, 2021 I've felt this way for like nearly all my life, I always had a strong desire to make close friends with other people. I guess you could say that I'm always developing squishes (yes, I know that almost no one uses that term but I'm gonna change that). Recently, I have been struggling to make friends with people who tell me that they wanna be friends, the chat always dies, usually with me being the last person who has said anything ? but anyways- feel free to reach out to me, I always try my best :] 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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