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So as there’s a sparse amount of aro pride merch, I’ve made a redbubble focussing on aro/ace designs:) It would mean so much if you could check them out^-^ [I’ve made them as cheap as I can:]] ( Donnie’s shop )

It’s no problem! If you have any other questions any time or need advice I’m down to help

How many crushes have you had? It's likely just a period of not being attracted to anyone, which is pretty common. But I do understand hating romance yet longing for it haha. Not being romantically attracted to people yet wanting romance is called cupioromantic. I identify as grayromantic as i've only ever had a crush one time (i'm 17)

I am trying to discern whether the strong anxiety I feel when people try to make close eye contact with me or act in otherwise intimate ways, such as playing with my hands or talking in an unusually soft tone is due to being arospec. It may be because of ADHD, avoidant attachment, being an only child or mild social anxiety, though I assume all of these are interconnected in some way and contribute to this strong negative reaction. I am interested to hear others' experiences.

Every test has consistently given me INTP but I identify with both INTP and INFP, definitely don't agree that everyone is in a strict box and predominantly either uses feeling or thinking. They must be able to occur parallel rather than at opposite ends to one another surely? But yeah I do find it fun and pretty interesting seeing people in different categories tbh. Also interesting how many INTX on here

Personally I enjoy it, but i do still think it's kinda gross and overrated

People would likely view allo aros just as wanting to sleep around and there probably wouldn't be as much respect for that character as an asexual ig. Plus people find romantic subtext in everything, an aro they can't really ship so (mainstream especially) shows won't waste their token lgbtq character on someone they can't queerbait the audience with imao.

When there's just loads and loads of fluff, i'm sure the characters are enjoying themselves but I really don't see the appeal of reading about people cuddling and 'whispering sweet nothings.' both boring and icky

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Absolutely, i'm incredibly grateful for my friends but i'm so bad at maintaining friendships and we're all finishing school next year:(( Just kinda sucks bc I have difficulty approaching people I want to talk to and will probably lose my existing friends rip

Allo's say they 'can't focus on stupid work bc I am thinking of themm <3' which to me sounds awful, especially as I have ADHD, meaning I already have problems with productivity. But I am also not trying to impress people I don't like, on dates I don't enjoy. I am not constantly having to sacrifice things for my parter, telling them everything I intend to do so as not to offend, or stepping round their emotions, always wondering if I said something wrong. And thank god; I find my companions not based off of oxytocin and dopamine releases, chemicals which will inevitably fade over time, but those who I have a genuine, great love for as a person, those who I have similarities with and enjoy being around. I think somehow this is more real, it's certainly longer lasting than romantic attraction, which I consider to be an embellishment to platonic love. This love is put first for me, while allo's will chuck their friends to the wayside, a result of finding that dopamine fix.

It's interesting to me how many of us are into D&D, i've noticed the same thing. I've also wanted to play it for years but none of my friends do so I've never really had a proper game:((

Yes omg I think going on badass adventures with would be cool! Definitely doesn't have to involve romance like it always does in books/movies smh. Though I don't really mind a romantic undertone in action or adventure if it adds another layer rather, than feeling forced and slowing down the plot People on here are super accepting and positive! It's not something easy to find in other communities and it's pretty neat not feeling abnormal for once

I've spent so long wishing for a relationship that I didn't realise romance actually kinda sucks. I thought a romantic partner would be cool, but I only ever fantasised about scenarios in which we'd be rebellious and go out and do crazy stuff bc that's all romanticised in movies, never just lying around cuddling in bed (the weird ideal allos seem to obsess over) which, first off just sounds sweaty n gross, and also so boring I'd probably be forced to jump out the window in search of an escape lmaoo. I'm a stimulation seeker not looking for romance haha, so after the beginning with the hormones havin a rave is over i'd lose interest. Thinking about it i'd be the WORST boyfriend; I hate people being clingy, I lose interest in things way too quick, I hate being touched in 90% of cases, and my personality changes monthly p much, so chances are one of us nopes tf out. Ik I sound like an awful person but i'm actually a p decent guy rip (blame my adhd) Also I haven't been on here in a while so i'm sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, I just wanted to get some thoughts out

It really does make a lot of sense when you think about it, strange how the media is so obsessed with love, there's so many other cool things that are much more entertaining! But yeah i do think movies and songs and everything about romance is what lead to that feeling of missing out, without it it would just be another thing someone else liked that i didn't (beer for example)