Sam Spade

@eatingcroutons Thanks! I saw it on Aven too and was stumped.

Apprehensive

Welcome! I couldn't upload any photos (files were too large) so here's some virtual cake!!! 🥞🍰

I've seen this on some profiles and was just wondering what it meant.

It doesn't really affect my career... I get asked if I have a SO occasionally but I just say "I'm focusing on my career". Don't know if it'll work when I'm older but no one bothers me now. On the plus side, there's no one in my life to feel neglected when I'm working all day. Except my pets, who have a good pet-sitter.

Yes, I only had a few friends, and they moved away. I'm always the one who reaches out which makes me wonder if anyone actually likes hanging out with me...

That's my impression of romance, and I'm just uncomfortable with that drive being aimed at me, because I know I can't reciprocate.

Excellent point! I hadn't thought of that.

I just looked it up to see if it was a real thing, and saw recipes with no stars or reviews 🤣 but yeah it's just regular pizza.

lol none of the banana pizza recipes online have any reviews. Here's a banana recipe I've tried that's pretty good. I think the bananas need to be slightly green so they don't turn to mush. They might be okay on pizza. https://www.fifteenspatulas.com/pan-fried-honey-bananas/

Yes... it wouldn't really have changed anything, I've always acted aro. It would've made me feel more "normal" though.

Is it even possible to win this game?

idk, I've seen it on posts where a teen has written a well-thought-out explanation of their experiences, and older members come in with "orientation is fluid, it could change any day!!!". (mostly on AVEN tbh) It's important for youth to know that you don't have to stick with one label your whole life, but maybe some questions that encourage introspection would be more helpful in these cases. "It could change any day" sounds a lot like "it's a phase", especially if you're a teen just learning about asexuality or being aromantic.

Ennui

Yeah, if you're talking about the "your orientation is fluid, you could just be a late bloomer" thing... I see older Aros (and Aces) bring it up whenever the poster is under about 20. As if turning whatever age suddenly makes you more valid. I discovered I was aro in my late teens. There were dozens of signs I missed when I was younger. Even before I'd heard the word aromantic, I remember thinking "When I'm 11/13/16 years old I'll start having crushes". Never happened. But in the back of my mind I'm still wondering if there's a magic age when a switch will flip and I'll want romance, sex

@GhostyPeppers I hope it is ok, I want to read it!

I just came over from AVEN, I've decided this is the year I embrace my aroaceness and find a community that accepts me for who I am! 👋 I don't know anyone irl to talk about LGBT+ subjects with (conservative area, etc.). I like to write YA/New Adult fiction with aro/ace main characters, and talk about writing. My other hobbies include rock collecting, learning survival skills, and researching cool science stuff.

I found an in-depth guide once but I can't remember the blog. (I'll try to find it again) From an aroace perspective, it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong. We need ace romances, QPRs, and characters who don't want relationships. I've read that your aro or ace characters shouldn't be robots, aliens or villains (the whole 'don't feel romantic attraction = evil and heartless' stereotype). And having an emotionally distant, traumatized or socially awkward ace character could play into stereotypes too. A helpful quote from https://simplyoriginalcharacters.tumblr.com/po