roboticanary

I do joke a bit about being allo aro. Or more accurately I joke about being a sleaze sometimes, play up my liking of more casual hookups. Also I am not up for a fight for more general LGBT+ rights. Not that I won't stand up to abuse, but I don't do much to support the movement. I don't really get involved with local activist groups and (at the moment) I am not in the position to financially support any wider movements.

My way of a little closeted pride has been my drawers of craft stuff. Whole load of small stuff packed away in a cupboard so few other people see it, and I have slowly been painting bits in so the front of the drawers are in aro colours.

hi I think pretty much everything I would say has already been covered. One thing I would add though is that there is not really a complete agreement on what people see as a romantic action. So sometimes I look at people's ideas on here of how they would like to live with best friends and what they would do together and I would think of that as too romantic for my liking, but they might not see any of those actions as necessarily associated with romance. This is fine.

Hi That experience does suck, but I'm sure you will find plenty of people here who have went through similar things. Good to hear he took it well though, always nice to hear people being decent about a breakup.

Hi, hope you enjoy being here. I don't know about dealing with it, being aro still gives me some sadness, but generally i just try to look on the bright side of finding the term. I wouldn't be any different not knowing about aromanticism, just a whole lot more confused and dissappointed.

Welcome. I can empathise with the idea of not liking to put labels on myself, hopefully this label is useful to you.

She becomes president of Nauru. Nothing much changes in the world but the people there become confused and angry I wish my back didn't ache

Usually I hate it. Anything not confirmed just seems to be waiting for a sequel where any representation I hoped for dies. I suppose sometimes I can be happy projecting myself onto an ambiguous character but I would almost always prefer the writers to be open about what their character is.

You do, but the wish doesn't cover the bill. You now spiral into debt. I wish I could shoot lasers out of my eyes

No, you are definitely not too young to identify as aro I would put it like this, someone who was romantic could quite easily make that known at your age, so why would it be wrong to claim you don't feel that way. Maybe you will bloom late, but put this in balance. I didn't even know of the term till my mid twenties which really sucks. Learning about aromanticism late on meant I was trying to navigate a world of love blind till then and making mistakes which could have been fixed knowing about aromanticism, for example understanding QPRs and why I felt awful with the idea of dating. As well as knowing I was not alone in being uncomfortable. You have a great opportunity because you are aware of aromanticism already. So take that label, if it doesn't fit you later that's fine, but you have nothing to lose from trying it out. If it turns out you are aro though, by trying the label out and learning in aro spaces you get a great advantage from being aware and settled in your identity before you hit adulthood.

Well that's interesting. I knew Arocalypse had a lot of younger people on it but I didn't expect to feel that old. What's really cool though is that i seem to be far later in terms of learning about the term. i know its a small sample but it seems like younger people are noticing their aro identity longer ago than some of us older folks given the comments. I feel like a recent discoverer learning about aromanticism in 2018.

I think what I would like from a deep friendship is the ability to drop in and out of each others lives and still seem as though we were picking up right where we left off. I have had one friendship I consider deep, a friend of mine who I knew from primary school, then moved country when I was about 9. Once when I went on holiday there we visited and it was as if we had never left. This was at an age where I didn't have my own phone, so while our parents had stayed somewhat in touch I had literally not said a word to him in over 3 years, but we still talked as if we had never left. When his family moved back to the UK he joined the same secondary school as me and again, despite barely a word between us for years we instantly clicked. By the end of the day we were making plans for a barbecue at mine and inviting some of my other friends round.

1 is roleplay, not real, messing about and I wouldn't be surprised if she has separate feelings about romance as a concept to play about with to romance with her true self involved 2 is true of plenty of friends, think nicknames for example. 3 is something I have done with multiple friends without the thought of romance. 4 and 5 I am not sure, but could certainly see as something not necessarily romantic. They may be the sort of thing a comfortably romantic couple would do but are not romantic by themselves. This is the key, do that, Autumn gives great advice This forum might help a bit but we don't know enough about you or her to deal with this

I remember one of the girls at school I was good friends with telling me that a few other people had said we were dating, saying 'but we're not, right?'. I said 'I dunno, are we?' I thought we were just good friends but apparently to a few people there was no rational explanation other than that we were dating. After a few minutes conversation we came to the conclusion that we weren't dating. She rather awkwardly asked if maybe we should be. I, even more awkwardy, said I had no idea. In the end we decided, lets just not. In hindsight it is so obvious to me that I was showing signs of being aro, I was completely unaware people were saying we were dating simply because I did not care about those sorts of rumours.

Hi Fantastic job getting involved as a rep at uni, sounds great to have someone representing aromanticism there.

Hi Fantastic news, that moment where it all clicks is so great

Sounds aro to me. I definitely have had that feeling of wanting to be protective of someone after sex. Also remember this, you found an obscure forum on the subject of aromanticism to ask if you were. not many non aros would do that.

Hi welcome. Glad you found us. Also a pleasant surprise that someone on r/relationships directed you towards aromanticism. I wouldn't have expected that but it's great news.

To be selfish is to lack consideration for other people so I reckon it is clear you are not selfish. you clearly are caring of what this hypothetical other person would want, and worry about how they feel, and talk about feeling bad for how you would treat them. That is very much not selfish. Also since you say you would tell them about your aro-ness I don't think you would be cruel just because you can't love them back in the same way. They have been made aware of what they are getting into, and of course have the ability to back out if they decide it is not for them. I don't think that would be considered cruel.

Could, I guess so. There's a lot of people around so there may be someone willing to engage in some form of relationship that would fit for someone asocial. They would need to decide on the should part, is this something you desire- if so I guess give it a go. If you are not sure why you would want to do this, maybe take break and think it through first. I would put this as a bad idea though. I'm pretty sure sociopath involves having very little moral conscience and a lack of empathy. This is not just not caring if their partner is around, but something that could go very bad very quickly. Sure a sociopath might want to cohabit a person like that but it is worth adding that it still seems a pretty poor idea.

Hello, welcome. I suppose it is one little ray of hope that I have heard all these stories about people taking time to work out who they are during this pandemic, being able to take some time for introspection.

fantastic, they sound really chill.

No idea if you are doing the right thing. I guess just give it a go, if it turns out to be a mistake, well, you learn from it and try something else next time.

As said before, only you can define you. QPR seems to be a good idea though based on what you are talking about and I am glad you are looking at it. Anyways, welcome aboard

Not quite a million people, but I do get that idea of my life in some way being recorded. what would happen if people see me is a question I often ask myself. I think of a sort of second voice reporting on large chunks of my life.