roboticanary

Welcome, hope you enjoy being here. from the short time I have been on this place has been nothing but welcoming so I am sure you will be able to make friends here. Oh yes, that sounds familiar. surely, surely... wait, hang on do I?

wonderful, sounds like your questioning has done you well.

Yes, absolutely. Coming to terms with not caring for romance has massively changed the demographic of my friends. I am one of two men at my workplace who gets along with most of the women who work here, and given the other guy is gay I think that it has to do with me not making unwanted advances. The lack of romantic expectation frees me to be genuine, to talk openly. I suppose the other difference is that I place a high value on relying on friends, as in if someone was worried about a something, or someone was dealing with a difficult event in their life I have no expectation of having a partner to comfort me, so I see that as something that a friend just does. I would jump up at two in the morning and travel to the other side of the country to be with a friend in need. I would drop my plans and take care of a friend's child if I knew they were stuck for options. Some alloromantic people do have this idea, and two of the people I am good friends with have a miltary background and are very thorough about doing right by their friends, but I don't think that is a common thing because of the expectation that someone should have a partner to help them with those things. One last thing for me is realising that my level of comfort around the idea of sex free of romantic expectations, which is an idea I was open with before I came to terms with the words allo aro, made a fair few people see me as a bad influence. Especially people I got to know from church in my early teens, I was already on shaky terms through leaving the religion but there was definitely the perception that what was really bad was interacting with someone who felt comfortable living what they saw as a life of sin. I drifted away from people I would have been very happy to be friends with due to that. (sidenote, I was quite happy to not talk about it and for most of those people I never told them those views, it was the fact it was generally known what I felt which was enough for them to push away)

I like this, such a wholesome idea. One thing I like about myself is that I am a keen reader

No worries, It is so great to see someone putting this effort into developing an allo aro character. Thank you for making that effort.

You get killed by an angry saint. I wish all the code I use at work was well commented

Damn I forgot about Gloryhammer, very good for non romantic songs. I would also put 'The Unicorn Invasion of Dundee' as a suggestion, if nothing else just for the title.

Ok, here's a few things I would like/not like. I would like to see this character have those worries about being seen as a bad person because of their desire for sex without romance, and discuss them openly. Even if it is a reference to past feelings the idea that being allo-aro is something which does come with stigma is something I would rather have on the table. As has been mentioned in other comments, it's not as simple as just having casual sex. It might be interesting to have them confronted with that, with people who after agreeing to a purely sexual relation start pushing for some more romantic ideas and show the character pointing out their limits, and holding their ground on what they are not comfortable with. What I really would like in an allo aro character is a character who talked openly about what they wanted sexually and what they are comfortable with as well as pointing out their no-go romantic areas. The big thing that I think is sometimes not talked about is that since allosexual covers a broad range of activities an allo-aro character will place some limits on sex. I would love to see an allo aro character say 'actually, no, I'm not comfortable with that' or similar in a sexual context. Also that they are frank about things like STDs, and contraception. This is sort of connected with the stigma of being sleazy as an allo-aro, I would really wish for a character who shows their care, it is not romantic but just the moral, being a good human parts of a purely sexual relationship. The thing I would really not want in an in allo aro representation is shying away from these discussions and just having the character go from a brief getting to know, to having sex, to the next day, which risks having the character come across as irresponsible by omission. lastly, good luck, it sounds like a fun project. I like the ideas you have of your characters and you have the determination to ask around in order to get them right

Research your brain. Your school notices your anger management issues and tries to deal with them at a surface level because that is what they need to sort out to run smoothly. If you want to work out what is really going on in there you will have to do it yourself. put some effort in a diet right the hell now, you will have to deal with that later and the longer you leave it the more difficult getting healthy will become. You have a kink, you will be unsure how to approach this for decades to come but for now just know that it is fine and you aren't some sort of freak. You will be much happier when you accept that and be open with yourself about finding pornography which works for you by the way. Oh, and Leicester win the prem in 2016, that should sort out the student debt

OK, this has no particular theme but heres a few I like which are either instrumentals or lyrics which don't have anything to do with romance. I have no idea what sort of music you want for feeling good so this is just a random ramble through a load of genres just picking songs I find positive. Mexico - Alestorm (although this does have brief reference to wenches, so casual sex. If you want something not about romance how about pirates going on for a drunken party in Mexico) Green Onions - Booker T & the MG's Sit Down - James (there is a wonderful live version of this which I cannot find at the moment where Tim Booth finishes by saying 'I'd like to invite you all home for milk and cookies', which is just so wholesome) Go - Public Service Broadcasting (seriously if you want songs with no mention of romance check PSB out, they have albums based on WW2, space exploration and the welsh mining industry) Electric Avenue - Eddy Grant (a protest song but musically upbeat) In the Castle of my Skin - Sons of Kemet Never Fight a Man With a Perm - Idles (a really fun tune, shouty) Baker Street - Gerry Rafferty (SAXOPHONE) Jimmy's Gang - Parov Stellar All Star - Smash Mouth (it counts, all right) YMCA - The Village People (another cheesy choice but again, it counts) Ebeneezer Goode - The Shamen Spanish Flea - Herb Alpert and the Tijuana Brass Fire - The Crazy World of Arthur Brown (what could be more upbeat than shouting 'I am the god of hell fire) God is a DJ - Faithless

Meaningless by The Magnetic Fields has this wonderful verse: 'And if some dim bulb should sayWe were in love in some wayKick all his teeth in for meAnd if you feel like keeping on kickingFeel free' I think the song is kind of inteded to be a romantic song sung with bitter sarcasm at someone else saying a relationship was meaningless, but I can't help thinking of singing it loud and happy and totally agreeeing with the sentiment that the whole thing was meaningless.

tea, especially tea on a hot day watching a fire dance in the breeze

thank you, I already feel a bit happier just putting it into writing here which is something I haven't done before

Waay back in primary school my class was given the task of writing a timeline of our life, kind of like hopes and dreams sort of thing. a friend of mine put, rather jokingly: marriage the next day - divorce I thought it was brilliant and we both proceeded to turn our predicted lives into a long line of pain involving continuing theme of marriage followed very quickly by ridding ourselves of any partner. highlights include: next day - set on fire, next day-beheading and next day-give up,get cat. My teacher was not particularly impressed

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in English: bagsy, which I have never understood why but it is a great thing to yell to claim something as yours shambolical spaghettification In German: Elefantenrennen

Hi I guess this is me, I stumbled upon the idea that I might be aromantic almost a year ago and have eventually came to terms with it. I'm in my 20s (dont want to be more specific) and from Essex, a place in the UK with a reputation which made accepting being an allosexual aromantic far more difficult than it should have been. I have slowly came to realise that I'm not just opportunistic scum. Other than that I am a scientist by trade, and a lover of beer and football. I spend most of my free time on either miniature modelling or making metal jewellery. So hello you wonderful lot, it's good to find a quiet little corner of the internet which feels like home