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  1. Well, I don't get crushes often anyways. So there's often I go long periods where there's just not anyone I'm romantically attracted to. Kinda hard for crushes to fade when I don't get them often. So I don't know.
  2. Like, I strongly identified as panro for so long because I felt such strong romantic attraction, and now I'm NOT feeling it at all. This isn't the first time I've felt like "I don't know why I was feeling like that before. I definitely don't feel that now." And now, I don't know. Can someone help me? I can't even put how I feel right now into words
  3. Man, you guys gonna make me sign in, so I can post and talk about this? Okay. Fine. I did the thing. Let's talk. Before I post, though, I want to say that I'm not talking on behalf of AVEN staff. I just feel the need to say SOMETHING because I'm the one that brought the issue of Arocalypse shutting down to AVEN staff, so I'm just trying to justify my actions. I don't want to "take over" Arocalypse. I literally just want you guys to be kept alive. AVEN's been AMAZING for me, a panromantic asexual. I just want allo aros to have the same thing that I've got. Also, to anyone concerned about how aromantics are treated on AVEN, we really don't allow allo aros to be harassed or invalidated. I do want you to know we crack down on that. Seriously, there's no sinister plan. It's really just keep Arocalypse running. That's literally it.
  4. I always thought I was panromantic. I've had crushes on people, the type that makes me want to get close to them, to get them to notice me, to get them to ACCEPT me. It's rare and far between, but yeah. I would say I had a crush on them. Not really a squish, squishes are too... squishy. The thing is, a crush has always been to me the, "I like them, but they probably wouldn't like me. I'm an asshole." As the joker says, "I'm like a dog chasing cars. I wouldn't know what to do with one if I caught it." Well, I caught my car. I had a crush, I kinda forgot about it because there was no way that would work. A series of coincidences later I find that person again not fully aware it's the same person. I'm being pushed TOWARDS that person. I'm thinking, "Yeah, right." After a few months, I've caught my car. We're talking, and I realize, "Wait a minute. You're my car." to myself. But, at that point it wasn't that I liked THEM. They liked ME. Which is a totally different situation. So I'm the calm "logical" one in the "relationship". I can figure out the next step and "talk" about things (except my feelings). I thought I was getting it. I finally thought I understood. A relationship is someone you're comfortable with, someone you have fun with, right? Right? Come on, don't leave me hanging here. It doesn't make sense. I'm not comfortable. I'm never comfortable with people. It's what makes me seem like an asshole, because it's not difficult to read that I DON'T want to be there subconsciously. You may not be able to consciously know it, but you feel SOMETHING and you MIGHT eventually put it together. What makes it more difficult is I'm getting close to that age. I'm a few years off, but everyone I know is at THAT age. You know the age I'm talking about. Getting married, looking for committed relationships that end in marriage, and having children. I don't even want children right now. I'm not even sure I want to get married one day. But all of these star-struck lovers are so IN LOVE! They're in the honeymoon phase, and the veteran married couples are telling them, "You may be head over heals now, but that fades and you end p just comfortable in a routine and with a best friend. But, you see, I can SEE how they feel. I don't understand it or register it, but I see the, "I can't stay away" thing. I just don't feel it myself. Yes, I WANT to be with this person, but like, I also dread it. I'm not nervous, I actually dread it. And when I'm with them I'm thinking, "limit it to two hours and do something where I don't have to interact". But I have legit fun when I DO interact. I just don't WANT to. It's the same thing with any friend I've had. So am I an asshole, loner, or is there just something missing? Now I'm stuck. Was I romantically attracted to this person? Do I even experience romantic attraction? Do I want a relationship, or do I just like the idea of it? Is this "love" thing anything like what I see in these new couples, or am I misinterpreting it? Am I a sociopath, so mangled and damaged by the shit life gives me that I just CAN'T have that? And the more I think about it the less it because a question of, "Am I fucked up?" and the more it becomes a question of, "How fucked up am I?" I understand a lot of asexuals feel "broken". I wasn't one of them, as I was quite happy without sex. But now I feel broken in what's supposed to be this perfect relationship. I feel as if the train left without me or I'm on the train, but I don't want it to go and it goes. And the rate at which this perfect person is moving feels like a speeding train. Am I aromantic and feeling broken? Am I still panromanitc nad just overanalyzing the relationship when I should just go with my gut? Is it my innate inability to say "no" that's the issue in the first place? Everyone says they see "love" between us, but I wouldn't say that I feel it. I feel comfortable, but not "love" and not "content". Worst of all, I fear that I may have been incredibly wrong in the beginning when we started texting and I fucked up big time.
  5. For me it's not about lacking paternal instinct. In fact, I relate to kids, I've always been comfortable around them, and they've always loved me. The reason why I don't want kids and that's okay is simply put, I don't want them. I love my life as it is, single and childless. Sure, it's a great feeling to raise a human and have them turn out okay, but that's not all there is to life. I could invent a new thing. I could take care of animals at a shelter. I could get a book published. I could feed the homeless. All of these things can foster the same emotions as raising children. Taking care of animals or the homeless? You're taking care of a human. Because of you, they may live another day. Inventing something or writing something? You know how much blood, sweat, and tears go into that? How much time goes into that? How much stress and sleepless nights? They are all methods that give you the same satisfaction of raising a child, with far less money involved and far less of a chance of screwing up royally. Plus I've seen what happens when a parent loses a child, and what if you have to go through that? Not everyone can handle that much emotional baggage.
  6. Why owuld I not want you to answer that question?
  7. Well asexuals do experience phobia just like homosexuals experience phobia. Acephobia is, in fact a thing. You try to tell someone who you are and they shrug you off and tell you that you haven't "met the right person". Corrective rape is a thing that asexuals experience. Hell, asexual women often experience misogyny by being called a "tease" when they say they aren't interested or have sex expected of them just because a guy is nice. Asexuals are even told they're going to hell. Why? Beats mean, people are dicks. Still. But who am I to talk about being discriminated against, right? After all, my very existence as a sapioromantic is ableist. I'm just a bigoted asshole whose opinion doesn't matter in the end.
  8. I love what became of this thread! A movie about a mentally ill guy forcing random strangers to hear about his life story of being taken advantage of by a girl who was sexually abused nad taking credit for what black people did with lots of adult jokes.
  9. You can, but your cookies are stale and icecream is melted. I wish for icecream cake!
  10. Wow, is it my birthday? What ignorant comment should I go into first? 1. I don't identify as any gender, so you can't dictate whether I'm attracted to "the same" gender or "the opposite gender". I'm not masculine, or feminine, or agendered, or genderfluid, or anything. Therefore, it's very offensive for you to say that I'm "not homoromantic" or "am homoromantic" because you're ignoring my own labels. Which, by the way, you've been doing from the start when you assumed that I couldn't be attracted to the same gender because I'm sapioromantic. 2. Tranny is offensive word, so you can't yell at peopel for using the term homosexual or homorotoantic because it's something that people actually identify as, but calling a trans person a tranny is the equivalent of using a slur. 3. You again assume more things about my identity by calling me ableist and assuming that my identity is based on neurotypical norms of intelligence. 4. Saying that I sexualize hypersexual mentally ill people is extremely offensive for several reasons. Hypersexuality is an actual mental disorder that is characterized by the dsyfunctional preoccupation with sexual fantasies and sexual acts. Yes, a disorder, that people would go to a psychiatrist or psychologist for. That term, is also very offensive to use incorrectly. Saying I sexualize anyone is ignoring my identity again. As an asexual, I like walking through my daily life and pretending like no one has sex. In fact, I'm quite comfortable in assuming that no one has sex. I don't imagine anyone have sex because I'm sex repulsed, and the image greatly upsets me. Another fun fact if you would ask me for my labels rather than assuming things. Last, the whole statement defies itself. You can't say that I'm prejudice against people that are "mentally ill" as you so eloquently put it, then turn around and say that I sexualize them in the same sentence. Not only does that ignore my label as an asexual, but it contradicts itself.
  11. I quite disagree. I think it's homophobia that drives transphobia. People don't think that someone should be with someone with the same gender, but when they see a trans person it confuses them. If a male dates a transfemale because he's gay as that female was born a male? If a male dates a transmale is he gay because this person looks like a male? Trans people are a lose/lose situation for homophobes, and they're scared because what if they date someone without knowing that they're trans? As for what genders I'm attracted to, I fail to see how that matters here. You can't label me as homoromantic, or heteroeromantic, or any romantic because I identify with no gender. So, technically you can't say that I'm attracted to the same gender or a different gender, and assuming otherwise is equivalent to assuming my gender.
  12. There's nothing on my profile that could tell you that I'm not possibly homoromantic, so I don't know why you're telling me I have no grounds to say what's homophobia. Plus you're saying that assuming LGBQ are sexually active is hypersexualizing them, which is far from the truth. Just because someone assumes you're sexually active doesn't mean that you're sexualizing them at all. It simply means that you assume that they have sex because everyone has sex. In fact, you could be completely sex repulsed by a person and still assume they are sexually active. On top of that, why do you keep saying LGBQ? I feel that's more offensive than anything I've said, because it's discluding Trans people from the community, which I assumed that an aromantic would understand how hurtful that is. You know, since many LGBT communities disclude asexuality.
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