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I'm sorry, but the thing you want to do is the only option that will lead to you being in a QPR with them. You need to sit down and have an honest conversation with them about what you want. Plan out what you are going to say before hand. Even write it down and bring the paper with you to reference. But have that conversation.

I love this. And, added bonus, it's pronounced "zee-romantic", and Z is the last letter in the English alphabet, so for a lot of people, it's literally an end of the spectrum.

Most of my music taste is explicitly romantic. I'm still aro. It's about attraction, not actions.

You have a conversation with her. You clearly lay out your feelings and wants and let her decide if that's something she wants as well. There's nothing you can do but talk it out.

Romance Is Boring - Los Campesinos The Record Player Song - Daisy the Great Girlfriend is Better - Talking Heads Birthday Baby - Tori Amos Universal Experience - The Klittens

I read the word and immediately went "that's me!"........then proceeded to try to ignore it for months before ultimately accepting myself lol

The idea that biological male and female humans have "different brains" is pseudoscience. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2021/03/210325115316.htm https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-019-00677-x As for aromanticism and asexuality, could there be some general cause? Sure. But there's no reason to suspect that.

I was reading a fanfiction my sibling recommended, and the word was in there. I saw it and knew immediately that it was me. I didn't admit that to myself until months later though.

The doubt goes away with time. You have to consider the doubts, and go through why you know they are wrong. Eventually, they'll slow down, and when they do show up, they won't make an impact. I would suggest writing down somewhere all the reasons you know you're aro. That way when the doubts say the same thing they said 2 months ago, you already have exactly why they were wrong and continue to be wrong. Also, remember, labels and identity are fluid. You don't need to fit a dictionary definition to find meaning in the aromantic label and use it.

The "little" part just refers to the whole rest of the spectrum. You can see a non-exhaustive list here. So yeah, if someone felt romantic attraction rarely, they could absolutely refer to themself as "aromantic" and be entirely correct. Overall, if the "aromantic" label helps you define yourself, then use it. The definition is better used as a guide than a rule.

While my identities aren't entirely separate, they are very distinct and I absolutely favor my aro one over my ace one. Not feeling romantic attraction is just more impactful and relevant to how I live my life than not feeling sexual attraction. And yet almost everyone I'm out to irl describes me as "asexual" without even mentioning that I'm aromantic too.

GSA = Gay-Straight Alliance. It's essentially just an after-school club for gay people. Many have started moving away from that acronym though. I don't have a good suggestion if you aren't in school because that's where I help out lol. Maybe a local queer organization is taking volunteers though?

If you are still in school and you have a GSA or similar, you can talk about hosting an info session through them. It's probably too late to do so this year, but there's always next year.

For aro vibes specifically: Romance is Boring - Los Campesinos! The Record Player Song - Daisy the Great Girlfriend is Better - Talking Heads For general songs about friendship instead of romance: Don't Go Away - The Beths Happy New Year - Let's Eat Grandma Two Ribbons - Let's Eat Grandma Brooklyn - Katie Malco

First off, yeah, they were rude. And, yes, your initial response, "that's not funny" was very good. You didn't overreact at all. That being said, your expression of being upset should have ended after the initial conversation. Giving her the cold shoulder all night for an issue you've already resolved is also rude (though not on the same level imo), and just creates a new problem. If you couldn't not do that, which is fair, you should have excused yourself with something along the lines of "I'm not mad anymore, but I need some time to cool down".