Our Favourite Aromantic Songs

[Acecream]

I didn’t know this song before, but I just had Why pourquoi by “slut” in my Spotify playlist and I think it has a lot of aro vibes

[arofox]

I feel like "mad at disney" by salem ilise definetly has aro vibes

[roboticanary]

It wasn't made as an aro tune but the old rugby song 'If I were the marrying kind' seems like it could fit here.

If I were the marrying kind

which thank the lord I'm not sir

The kind of man that I would wed

would be a rugby full-back

Its quite a rude song so I'll stop the lyrics here but I think you can see why I think it belongs

[Guest Anti Romantic!]

I came here to look for aromantic song recomendations and so far i've found really good ones! Idk much about songs for aromantics but If i were to recomend one i'd say Anti-Romantic by txt ^-^

[Petiteboule]

Turning out by AJR (both parts)

Everything from Cavetown(he's aroace, so obviusly...)

Amour ou amitié, by Céline Dion

S'il suffisait d'aimer by Céline Dion

[roboticanary]

 

Found this beautiful composition

[Rook on the Hook]

I'm sure plenty of people already mentioned "Never Been in Love" by Will Jay and "I am Not a Robot" by Marina and the Diamonds, so here are some other songs that, while not really as distinctly aro to me, have resonated a LOT with my aro experience.

• "Run-Time" - Imogen Heap (cannot tell you how much this song resonated with me when I realized, in the middle of being in a 6 year long relationship, that I was aro)
• "Wish I Never Loved You 2.0" - J-Marin & Bolshiee (it is so wonderfully refreshing to find a song about the struggles of a toxic relationship and have it be EXPLICITLY platonic, and deal with that with the sheer emotional weight the topic deserves.)
• "Steady, As She Goes" - The Raconteurs (probably not the intention but GOD if this whole song doesn't feel like a critique of amatonormativity and the pressure to get married and have a spouse and just to be seen as normal and functional)
• "I'll Find a Way" - Zack Hemsey (okay the part I read as aro is a very minor part and could easily be read as romantic as well but it's an overall incredible and powerful song and the lines "You are not the only way to make me whole/And I won’t ever turn my heart to stone" resonate very deeply to me as an aromantic who cares very deeply about people but detests the idea of being incomplete without your "other half")

[dewy]

Crush Culture by Conan Gray. Funny story, I used to absolutely love this song and listen to it all the time before I even realized I was aro. Looking back now I'm like... how did I not realize sooner?

[Guest Seal]

None of the songs in the album four winds by the oh hellos have anything to do with romance as far as I know! (Or there’s some references like in oh sleeper “ my love is lying fast asleep” but from my understanding they are about something else

[oopGot Shot By An Arow]

one I like is "hold my yod" by shmekel note this will not represent you if you are ace

[Guest]

Some of mine are...

This is Home by Cavetown

Crush Culture by Conan Gray

High Definition by Waterparks (not exactly aromantic, but there are a couple of lines that give off aromantic vibes if that makes any sense?)

[Guest Xaexiin]

Maybe I was boring by Wilbur Soot, he's made a lot of aro coded songs but that one is really relatable to me :)

[The Newest Fabled Creature]

On 9/18/2020 at 10:57 AM, Tylore said:

God, I have a perfect song but I forgot it’s name, anyone remember a chill alt song with lithro/apro/akoiro vibes?

There is a song called Lithromantic by weeklyn ft. Crymode

I believe the artist could actually be Lithromantic, but it's an indie song where the artist is venting about his experiences of (potentially) being aro-spec, or at least experiencing romantic attraction towards people and it going away when the other reciprocates.

[The Newest Fabled Creature]

For anyone who is the Country genre type, which yeah yeah I know not a lot of people are and I barely listen to it myself, but I couldn't help but want to find songs that have queer vibes in them - and what better than the ones that have the artist want to live alone, and so could be interpreted as aromantic*?

1) Southern Nights by Glenn Campbell 

- the song is just about the singer sharing a love they have for the South in mainly just the landscape and nights -

2) Cowpoke by Colter Wall

- the singer rejoicing in being a lonesome wanderer, a cowpoke/cowboy (the melody is very beautiful too) -

3) (I Got Spurs That) Jingle, Jangle, Jingle by Kay Kriser & His Orchestra

- once again the singer being happy that they're single -

4) I'd Have to Think About It by Leith Ross

- the singer singing about their dreams of hopefully falling in love (or if you interpret the song as aro-spec, then maybe potentially falling in love) in the future, but when faced with the actuality of others loving them in the moment, they freeze up -

5) Have You Ever Seen The Rain? by Credence Clearwater Revival

- the singer goes on about the toughness of life and yet how beautiful it can be, and the singer using an aspect of nature to convey their feelings gives off aro vibes to me, much like Southern nights -

6) Gals Don't Mean A Thing by Johnny Bond

- this song in particular actually makes me wonder if there were artists who were most definitely aromantic*, but just didn't have that word to describe themselves and probably just dubbed themselves straight (especially if they were heterosexual anyway) or maybe even queer if they were comfortable with that -

7) Long Haired Country Boy by The Charlie Daniels Band

- gives off angry aro vibes to me -

8) They Say It's Wonderful - from "Annie Get Your Gun" by Doris Day

- the singer goes over how many people say that falling in love is the most amazing thing, how everyone obsesses over it, but the singer can't exactly relate -

Edited October 24 by The Newest Fabled Creature

[FragileDear]

Sidelines by Mercer Henderson has aro vibes. It's kinda sad but it is about loosing a best friend when they got into a relationship. 

Edited November 10, 2023 by FragileDear

[DigitalHeartbeat]

I know people have already said Turning Out parts 1 and 2, but I want to say them again.

Part 1:

Am I ready for love?
Or maybe just a best friend
Should there be a difference
Do you have instructions?
Maybe I'm stuck on what I see on TV
I grew up on Disney
But this don't feel like Disney

 

Part 2:

I think I probably wasn't in love with you
I think I probably loved the idea of you
And though I may be missing the feel of you
I think I probably wasn't in love with you
I said it 'cause I no longer wanna hurt
I said it back to you 'cause you said it first
And though I may be wishing it wasn't true
I think I probably wasn't in love
I wasn't in love with you

[eatingcroutons]

Having a real weird moment here realising that one of my absolute favourite songs as a teen is basically an Aro Anthem:

I was gonna quote some lyrics but the entire fucking song is an aro mood

[dewy]

Has anyone mentioned Luv Luv Luv by Pansy Division? It feels like such an aroallo anthem. Love love love love love, and it sounds like blah blah blah blah blah.

[Raininspring]

Since self identifying as aroace, I have always thought Taylor Swift's Anti-Hero was about an aromantic person rising above their peers by becoming successful and happy through their ambition (my headcanon for the mention of the "daughter in law" in the song is that this is an aromantic who wishes to become a parent one day) and having their ambition being mistaken for coldheartedness. Even the "sexy baby" versus "monster on the hill" comparison made me think of the stereotypes some allo people who believe in amatonormativity must have of something being inherently wrong with aro people. 

 

[organs and bone]

Honestly? I think ‘love love love’ by of monsters and men fits

All 'cause you love, love, love when you know I can't love
You love, love, love when you know I can't love
You love, love, love when you know I can't love you

and another one for probably more asexuality would be ‘willow tree march’ by the paper kites

And you weaken your love
And you hold it above your head
Success is a song of the heart, not a song of your bed
 

in this context I think of ‘weakening my love’ as admitting I can’t, in a way if that makes sense

 

haha 😂 getting philosophical 🧐 

 

[smac n cheese]

all the cavetown songs, but It's All Good (also cavetown lol I might be a bit obsessed) gives off INTENSE squish vibes

[Guest Ollie :D]

"Confidant" by Bears In Trees!!!! It's abt a qpr breaking down 

[smac n cheese]

I JUST LISTENED TO NEVER BEEN IN LOVE BY WILL JAY AND I LOVE IT SM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[The Newest Fabled Creature]

I absolutely love songs where the singers associate "dancing" with romantic/sexual mingling but express no interest in doing it/no interest in "dancing":

We Don't have To Dance by Andy Black

Dance With Me by Topline Addicts

I Don't Wanna Dance by COIN

Edited October 24 by The Newest Fabled Creature

[TheSpaceArrow]

Never Been in Love - Will Jay

Version of Love - Will Jay

People Watching - Conan Gray

Crush Culture - Conan Gray

Crush - Glades

FRIENDS - Anne-Marie, Marshmello

Not a Love Song - Bülow (aroallo)

Here - Alessia Cara