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    Lindsay
  • Orientation
    Aro
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    Female
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    Canada
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    Student + other stuff

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  1. Drawing inspiration from the pride group at my school, having low-key events/activities that may have nothing to with orientation, such as DnD, art, music, snack potluck, etc, could be a good way to draw in a range of people. Such as those who are unsure about their orientation, may be aro but don't want to admit it yet, or are romantic but want to be an ally/learn more about aromanticism. Are you thinking of making the group exclusive to aces and aros, or open to all? The pride group at my school is very inclusive (we have plenty of straight and cis members and pretty much only exclude phobic
  2. Or as my professor once put it, "So it's like being a straight boy in a room full of straight boys."
  3. Most people on here will tell you that the only person who can truly understand your orientation is you. From what I've seen there are a lot of facets to orientation, and just because two people are aromantic doesn't mean they are going to experience it the same way. I mean, think about romantic people; some fall totally head over heels constantly, and some have a milder interest. It's similar with aros. You don't sound romantic to me, but keep hanging out here and see what you think.
  4. This might help or it might not but here's a list of things I once thought were crushes and then realized they weren't: -Becoming friends with someone, then wanting to show her these WTF post-it notes which I thought were hilarious, but getting nervous about it because what if she got offended by them? This was in Grade 8. -Meeting someone of the opposite gender who was nice, funny, responsible (ticked all the "boxes"), and who liked me, and getting excited about the fact that he liked me. We spent a while in friend limbo, waiting for me to have feelings for him, but alas, it
  5. Currently thinking about romantic people in the same manner that certain old people think of kids these days. Like: Them crazy romo-folk and their crushes. What's the matter with you people? 🤣

  6. Was explaining aromanticism to someone today (a stranger who overheard me talking about it with someone else) and when I explained that I don't get crushes or date or anything like that he legit asks me, "So... what are your goals then?" Lol. We had a good chat.

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    2. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      no way!  i would have been speechless.

    3. Naegleria fowleri

      Naegleria fowleri

      Right so for some reason or another I've designated myself "aro spokesperson" and so any time I get an opportunity to reasonably work aromanticism into a conversation I usually do (I suppose it helps that my family is cool with it and I've had some great responses in the past). But anyway, I find these conversations really fulfilling because when this person said, "But, everyone gets crushes," I replied with, "Well, how can you be so sure?" And I saw him slowly start to question his worldview. We kept going, he asked how did I know I wouldn't have a crush later in life? And I said, well maybe I will. But that doesn't mean I'm going to let that change the way I identify now. And I likened it to, well, how do we know a person who identifies as straight won't have a same sex attraction later in life. How can anyone really identify as anything, if we think that way? And he said he liked that way of looking at it.

      Maybe this is a university thing, but I've found a lot of people I've talked to appreciate being exposed to something new. They look at you with a sort of awe for having discovered this about yourself, in this world, and then standing up for it.

    4. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      yeah i'm in uni and i've had a few people ask (usually because of the flag sticker on my laptop) and they've been cool about it.  i was explaining split attraction to my friend and he said his ex-girlfriend was "bisexual but only wanted relationships with guys" or something and i said she was probably heteroromantic bisexual, which is the most common combination.  so yeah, i don't purposely bring it up, but i don't usually avoid it.

  7. One of the hardest parts of coming out is trying to put your experiences into words romantic people can understand. Everyone comes out in their own way, but I'd like to share some things that have and have not worked for me. "Aromantics don't experience romantic attraction, ie. they don't get crushes, they don't fall in love, that sort of thing." ---> Response: "That sounds like a psychopath!" ...It turned out she confused falling in love with loving in general. She was much more accepting once I set her straight. "I don't think I want a boyfriend." ---> Re
  8. A lot of people murder each other over romantic love... so I'm thankful for my increased life expectancy 😁 Also glad I don't have to pressure myself into looking pretty all the time in case I "meet someone".
  9. Slightly disappointed no-one's voted for "what skills" yet 😄
  10. I've never thought about best friendship this way, but I could see it. If there were a platonic extension to amatonormativity, qpr's and best friendships would probably fit. I basically grew up in that kind of relationship though (awesome single mom, no siblings, you know how it be) and it is something I like. However, I also kind of admire the kind of relationship everyone has on the TV show Friends (minus the romantic tension) where you have a gaggle of people who all share their lives together. Interesting topic, thanks for bringing it up.
  11. Woooo we've hit 1,000 members!!!

  12. Wow... I really like this. How long does something like that take to write?
  13. So... being guilted into things that make you uncomfortable is not a healthy relationship. There's a difference between, say, saving your partner the last cookie out of love even though you really wanted it, and forcing yourself to shove down a fight or flight reaction to please your partner. A lot of us have felt these feelings you're having when trapped in a romantic situation, and we call it romance repulsion. You feel repulsed, but it's not the person who's repulsive, it's the romance. Does that sound right? When I first discovered I was aromantic, I found it difficult to put i
  14. I find this to be a very intriguing question too, and I didn't fill out the poll because what I really want to say is... both? Like, I don't think there was a time where I was ever romantic. But perhaps some of us are born more susceptible to becoming one thing or another, and our environment can sway in a certain direction. I've often wondered, if I'd grown up with two parents who loved each other romantically and all that stereotypical stuff, would I have ended up romantic? Maybe. Although I believe in another topic we were talking about orientations of family members, and some p
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