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arofox

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    Aelay
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    demigirl (probably)
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  1. Ohh I also LOVE expirencing aesthetic attraction. Same, hehe. I have a thing for nerdy and soft/shy guys. I get aesthetically attracted very easily to people with dark hair and slim faces. Mostly, but not exclusivly guys. Eyes and hair are the best parts of people <3 Also FRECKLES >>>>>> Yess, it makes things less akward. Being aesthetically attracted to a coach for example isnt as uncomfortable as what allos have to deal with. I just like talking to him, because his eyes are cool and he is fun. Its so much easier. The best thing about aesthetic attraction is that you can practically „just enjoy it“. Sometimes I really love being aromantic :)
  2. For me, sensual attraction often comes with kissing. Sometimes I get a random "kick" of sensual attraction. I see someone and I want nothing from them exept kissing. I guess that is how allosexuals must feel like. Are you thinking about a specific person? If yes, maybe you could look for other sensual thoughts you have when thinking about them. When I get sensually attracted to someone, I feel a strong desire to hug them, kiss them, touch their hair, their arms or their face. Some specific thoughts I have would be wanting to dance with someone and lean onto their chest or brushing my face against their lashes Sometimes you feel more than one type of attraction at the same time. Nevertheless you are still valid! <3
  3. There are like millions of articles and quizes for finding out if your crush likes you back. And if you got a squish? There is absolutly nothing on the internet to find out if someone has platonic interest in you. So, what would you say: how do you know if someone has a squish on you or likes you platonically?
  4. I get romance repulsed when imagining myself in romance. Interestingly when fictional characters, who arent already in a relationship or have crushes on each other from the start, develope romantic attraction, I get repulsed too. I dont care when theyre together from the start but somehow I get really uncomfortable as soon as romantic stuff happens during the plot. I also hate romantic fanfics
  5. I definetly agree with this. If you have a squish you want to be special to that person in a way and spend time with them. Thats why you sometimes get jelous when they spend time with other people. It doesn't have to mean anything romantic :)
  6. I'm kinda trying to develope a friendship with my squish and its working quite well :) I was really happy about it untill a aquintance of mine told me: Watch out, if you're to nice to him he'll fall in love with you. I know they didn't mean to upset me but now I have this weird fear of my squish falling in love with me and me having to break his heart which would probably destroy the whole friendship :( Does anyone here get to be friends with their squish without romantic feelings? It has to be possible hasn't it?
  7. At first I realized I was asexual. I'd already heard about aromantism but I didn't really recognized my own at that point. I always had squishes on guys so I thought I was heteroromantic at first. Then I heard about greyromantism and I convinced myself I only had three "crushes" in my whole life (which actually were strong squishes and aesthetic attraction). I was happy with this label for a while but the reason I realized I am actually aromantic is kinda sad? Due to lack of representation for greyromantism I started thinking about changing my label. I felt like I wasn't "queer enough", not "aromantic" enough if I was "only" greyromantic. So I started digging into aromantism and realized: all my "crushes" were actually squishes. It was pure luck. Of course greyros are completly valid,definetly "aro enough" and absolutly fantastic <3 It's sad that society still makes us think we have to be "enough" of something to be recognized, even in our own identity
  8. As someone who wants to study geology I live for this meme
  9. Today I saw this cool person! Their name is Ian and they´re genderless. I hope they have a great day.
  10. YMBAI you did "do they like me quizes" because you liked the thrill of figuring out if your "crush" likes you back, but when you thought about what's gonna happen after you find out they like you, you got sad because then the fun of solving the mystery wouldn't be there anymore. Geez, thirteen year old me really was understimulated af
  11. I relate a lot. I did have one friend (she's still one of my closest friends) who was constantly head over heels in love with someone, but the rest just never talked about it. So I thought she was just a special case and I'm just not that into romance. I got into the lgbtq+ community through the art community and learned about asexuality and aromantism that way. That's how I found out quite early. Interestingly I also live in a conservative catholic family, but somehow they never talked about either sex or romance to us, or at least very, very rarely.
  12. My mom definetly want's grandchildren from me and my siblings. She want's us to marry the opposite gender and have a few kids, because "thats just how normal people are". Funny how they never have real arguments, only "but god wanted..." and "that's just how it is". Very hurtful actually :( My dad told us that he wants us to be happy first, but I know that he actually expects grandchildren too. This made me worry about my siblings orientations, since they're probably aroace too and I feel like I'll have to get kids if they dont. God I hate heteronormativity
  13. I like not having to worry about crushing on people who are bad for me or falling in love with someone I shouldn't. I squish on a few of my teachers/ instructors, and from what I hear from other people at school having a crush on them seems much harder to deal with than having a squish. I just enjoy being friends with people without having to worry that I'm gonna fall in love or anything. Also this- Realizing I'm aroace opened a whole new perspective on relationships and life in general for me. There is so much more out there than just love.
  14. Wow thank you, that is actually really informative! I never considered that for being in love you don't have to have a crush first but now that you said it, I think I start to understand romantic attraction a bit better. This makes so much sense THANK YOU SO MUCH I think I do get attracted aesthetically to someone and then I develop a squish on them. Its probably exactly like you said, my squishes are informed by aesthetic attraction but still platonic. That is also very comforting to hear thank you <3
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