The Newest Fabled Creature

Hey! I was wondering if you could share your songs, or let me know where to listen to your songs, since I'd like to check em' out!

I don't always go through the conscious process of identifying as a 'loveless aro' (hence it not being on my orientation), but I am still loveless, especially when it comes to rejecting the expectations and assumptions of alloromanticism and romance in society, and with whoever I am now as a person, I am one who can not feel the type of love that alloromantics believe to be the only existing form of it, and I don't need to redeem who I am by saying I love my friends/family/pets/interests/etc. I also identify as such when it comes to just owning my aro identity in general, and want to reclaim the "robot" or "soulless" stereotype that often affects the aspec community. I do share sentiments with loveloose and lovequeer a lot, but I just say I'm loveless besides.

I can see how aros who never had crushes before, don't want a partnership, and may or may not be romance repulsed, can be depicted more in media, leaving aros who experience romantic attraction in some ways, or have teritary attractions, or want partnerships, or have a lesser represented view on romance, in the shadows. That's not the fault of end-spec aros (not saying that anyone stated that here though), and it's still amazing they get representation (when our community ever does) since end-spec aros, or "absolute" aros still get a lot of shit like the rest of us, even when the discrimination directed at us is nuanced based on our own personal identities. TLDR: having rep of end-spec aros is amazing, but granted there's lesser rep of aro-specs, not to the fault of end-specs.

Holy shit this actually explains how I ship characters, too! I do participate in the shipping sides of fandoms more often than not and usually the romantic ones, too - it's actually rare for me to have a qpr ship, idk why truly; but with the ways of shipping, it can definitely be frustrating to no end. And there's times where I take full on breaks and go through periods of, how should I say it, shipping anarchy.

I think it'd be cute!

I kind of get that. Not that I've thought my allosexuality is predatory, but often times I feel like I shouldn't think about it and most often than not I actually don't think about my sexuality at all. Maybe this has to do with the fact that my sexuality feels "normal" to me now, and is the "eldest" identity I've realized about myself, but, I'm wondering if me not thinking about it and even forgetting I can experience sexual attraction has to do with something else, too.

Not to dilute this topic with comics, but this would probably have to be my favorite LGBallT comic despite not being genderfluid myself (sorry for how big it is ^^" )

This picture represents the earth shattering moment of when you realize you're queer. All of the pieces are in place, the puzzle has been formed, and yet you feel the rug ripped from under you, your mind collapses into fragmented thoughts of "how?'' when you take a good hard look at what should've been "obvious."

Q: What are the best go-to things to have for a fun night ;) A: Dandelions and grass

I tried to have my other pin be the mspec flag, but I don't know if I picked the right one 😅 And I also only put they/it as my preferred pronouns because I like them more than he/him, though I don't mind being referred to with he/him if someone "had" to use binary pronouns for me

I typically listen to any type of genre of music normally, but my comfort music tends to be a set mix, which is usually old love songs (Frank Sinatra, Jack Hylton, Paul Anka, and so much more), indie Disco (the only artist I know to be in this genre is Lando Burch), and some peaceful country (Glenn Campbell, John Denver, etc). I won't share the love songs I like nor country songs with actual soul put into them, because many of us have already heard them before, but I'll share my ultimate favorite Lando Burch music: "Dancing Shoes" - https://youtu.be/s6ThzLWRAjg "Summerfruit (feat. Leila XY)" - https://youtu.be/mX-A0wH-wH8 "Never Knew" - https://youtu.be/VjraAa0M6L8 "Rendezvous (feat. Adiel Mitchell)" - https://youtu.be/mSu-Dej8maE "Such a Happy Feelin'" - https://youtu.be/taB17t7OzBI His music sounds like it be a soundtrack to some 70s or 80s movie, I love it

Thank you for the clarification! I knew it was a counter-culture with philosophy and political views, but I tend to forget how people strive to stay entwined with the culture and how much more important it is to them. I don't have the words for how - intriguing I guess, though that's not necessarily the right word I should use, that the culture is to me, but I can find it fascinating, relatable in ways, and understand why it's very important and yet still not be able to actually commit unless I was ready to and further learned the implications. I guess I should've specified I'd like to try certain aspects of punk, but now I know that I shouldn't just call myself punk for that /gen

I would say I namely have a "Norm Core" aesthetic I usually literally look like this (not ashamed): Apologies for how big the picture is, but I've been trying to dabble more into the androgynous side of things (mixing an overtly masculine shirt with women's jeans, or a femme top with pants made for men in small, or a button up with a skirt etc) and have been wanting to dabble/play with the aesthetics such as Arcadecore, Alternative, Punk aspects, and Academia - if I'm able to get around to doing any of that.

That's a good way to go about it! It's one way that's kind of helped me in overcoming most of the perceptions others may have of me and my friends, by telling the friends I have that are very affectionate if I could try showing them affection like that too, or discussing with my friends who aren't overtly affectionate what it is I mean when I tell them I love them or want to hang out with them in a way that seems "romantic"; like just the two of us going to the movies or to a restaurant for example. It's necessarily perfect and I believe there could be better ways, but it's a start. Exactly!

I get that. My complete lack of interest in being with someone romantically, kind of lowered any intentions I could have with someone sexually.

It is a saying that I don't see a lot anywhere and that stuck with me because of how it isn't said that much.

Don't know if you ever heard the saying of someone knowing the outline or body of their partner, but I just stating that I would only want my bed to "remember" that lol

Had an aro moment where I thought to myself, "The only thing that I want to romantically remember the outline of my body, is my bed."

One could identify as aro/aro-spec because of the problems in interpreting their own emotions from being autistic, and then yet again, one could identify as aro/aro-spec and just happen to also be autistic, or they could not identify as aro/aro-spec besides. I mean - I have autism and although I know that realistically it could play a role in how I process my own emotions, it doesn't feel like it's tied into my aromanticism anyway since it feels like my neurodivergency is more in relation to how I process things mentally rather than emotionally. But for some aros, that is the reality for them in identifying as such because of their neurodivergency and they're just as valid.

I feel like I unconsciously don't go "all the way" with how I want to show my affection with my friends, partially because I'm awkward and don't know how to fully show that I care, but also because of how friends are "supposed to be/act" in society, that I feel like still gets to me. I do tell my friends I love them though, nothing really stops me there and they know what I mean when I say it, but I feel like I could do more. It feels like I'm stranded on the islands of "Okay, how do I so them more affection?" and "But, other people and my friends may take it the wrong way, lemme just keep my distance from them emotionally."

I wanted a retro or vintage 70s-80s looking pfp, because not only do I find it aesthetically pleasing, but the vibes give off a sense of nostalgia and good times of being a kid; also the sense of driving at night down the highway with music playing softly from the radio. In case anyone's wondering, it says, "Wild Style" on the sign.

I feel like there is most likely a romantic equivalent to arousal and whatnot. It's hard to explain since I haven't really experienced that all too much, though there are times where I feel this need to want to do romantic things for myself, but it's not so strong to actually have me do anything. There is the term 'masturdating' where you go out on dates by yourself, go to dinners by yourself, or do romantic things at home all by yourself.

I think that the Orchidspec is really fascinating - not to diminish the reality of it though by calling it fascinating. I identified as orchidromantic for a while, because during my questioning phase I was trying to parse out if my past alterous attraction was romantic attraction, but soon I realized the identity didn't really speak to my experience when I found I didn't experience romantic attraction at all, not even when I was younger. The spectrum is valid and it would be cool to hear orchidromantic experiences.

I love romances (to a certain degree, depends on how it's written), and although there are the few straight romances I like, I do tend to lean way more heavily into gay romances, as well. You're not a "bad" aro for liking romances, it's just a way to engage and like a specific type of genre or media. Besides, amatonormativity is the belief/assumption/etc that romance and romantic relationships are what "everyone strives for," and although romance can have that in it's media, there is romance without it out there. Yes, amatonormativity exists because of assumptions regarding romance and certain types of relationships, but romance, I wouldn't say, is inherently amatonormative.

Yeah, I read reviews of it, and many people thought that it felt like the trans characters were only respected for their gender when they finally came out; like, as if they weren't who they said they were when in the closet (hence why the trans girl gets called by her chosen name until the very end).