Collie

Welcome! Defining your orientation is always up to you. :)

Honestly.... really depends. There are certain people I almost want them to be in love with me because I'm attached to them. The idea of getting extra attention from them is appealing, even if I don't return the feelings romantically. But, in general..... it's awkward. Like.... shoot your shot. I admire your bravery. I had someone ask me out once. It was.... super awkward. I applaud him for puting himself out there, but.... well. We never got over the awkward after that.

Still feel this way. Much nope very nope many nope wow

I think it can be a mix, but usually people are born this way, probably. It's a lil bit fluid.

Some guy in Homestuck, apparently I actually am in the dark on this

God fucking dammit Dave, there goes the last shit that I ever gave (reference)

Diagnosed autistic. I don't feel they are connected, but they do say that we are way way more likely to identify as non-cishet.... I think it's simply because we don't fit in anyways. So we deal with less compulsive heterosexuality.

Have OCD, diagnosed, take meds. OCD is easily summed as "the doubting disease". It's made up of intrusive thoughts which are persistent... these thoughts cause anxiety, and leads you to perform "compulsions" in order to try and quell the thoughts. It's a repeating cycle that gets worse the more you feed it. My experience, is that OCD can have you questioning every single "what if". Combine this with questioning romantic orientation.... it's a special Hell.

One part of being aromantic is forgetting that some people honestly are miserable being single. Then I read posts about it on forums and I'm like.... damn, son.

I'm grey-aro, but I just call myself straight up aromantic most of the time.

I have OCD tendencies, which means in regards to doubts that they tend to stick around, cause significant anxiety, and I ruminate over them heavily. At least, before meds got my symptoms under more control. Questioning is completely normal, but if you find you're going round in circles constantly, you have to learn to live with the uncertainty.

I'm autistic as well. Studies have shown that autistic people are disproportionately likely to identify as LGBTQ, and there are theories for why that is. But so far as I know, nothing conclusive. It could be because we care less about fitting in overall, or it could be something in our brains or DNA. Aromanticism is usually defined as not experiencing romantic attraction. But pinpointing what that is, is kinda hard. It's an emotional experience, and emotions can be very subtle. I identify as (dark grey) aromantic because I have no interest in dating anyone at all ever. But some aromantic people do want to date and just don't feel the special feelings. There are different kinds of attraction besides romantic or sexual, as well. Sensual, aesthetic, platonic, etc.

Millenial Z

Currently have Poison from Hazbin Hotel on loop

I saw a post that was joking like "always remember that the reason you're single is because you like Dragon Ball and if you didn't like Dragon Ball you could have whoever you want" In similar jokey fashion, I reblogged with a "thank goodness! Dragon Ball fan for life!"