Lovebird
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It's a variant of a username I have on a different app (the 'e' is replaced with the number 3). I love birds and I was thinking of them at the time of making it, there's also an old saying of calling a lovey-dovey couple a pair of lovebirds, and I'm romance favourable, so it's double the pun.
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Xenogenders are pogchamp!! I use several, but my favourite in my collection is birdgender.
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Humans kissing: ??♀️
Birds kissing: ???
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Idc about Vday but I love the creativity of valentine's cards
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When tumblr was at its peak people were making purposely bad looking cards with suggestive puns in comic sans for different fandoms, and I remember making one for my favourite band, DEVO, the text saying something like "I wanna see ur space junk" referencing their song Space Junk. It was the funniest thing I ever came up with at the time.
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I don't care about it. My boyfriend and I celebrate our love everyday, so it's useless to me. Most modern holidays to me are no longer about hanging out and caring for other people, it's all about big companies blowing your money away on pointless items.
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I haven't labled myself as an particular faith (yet), I just believe in God like a deist does. Though I'm getting super into Sikhism and am into tarot & astrology related things. And I love learning about other peoples religions.
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I have difficulties telling if I am experiencing romantic, sexual or aesthetic attraction because they're similar in feeling for me. Do I have a crush? Probably. Does it matter? I don't know.
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Is there anything you are hoping to get for christmas?
Lovebird replied to roboticanary's topic in Off Topic
I don't want much, to be honest. I've noticed as I get older, I think a lot less about what I want for birthdays and Christmases, though I'm sure that's normal -- my older family members are the same. I'd give some gifts, but current circumstances make it hard. I feel a bit guilty every time I don't give my parents a present, they gift me presents every year even when I don't ask for anything :( -
Welcome :D
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Weirdcore and liminal spaces. I also enjoyed pastel goth in its heyday.
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Aros and alcohol (poll)
Lovebird replied to Ace-TheTimelordsCompanion's topic in Aromantic Discussion
I wasn't saying tobacco and alcohol are literally the same, I'm saying being around family members has substantially affected my personal choice. Why do you care so much? -
Aros and alcohol (poll)
Lovebird replied to Ace-TheTimelordsCompanion's topic in Aromantic Discussion
And that's on being Australian. Addiction is not taken seriously at all. Peer pressure isn't really a thing here though thankfully, though you're considered kind of 'odd' if you haven't even had one pint. And from what I know, it seems young people don't drink as much as opposed to maybe 20 years ago. -
Aros and alcohol (poll)
Lovebird replied to Ace-TheTimelordsCompanion's topic in Aromantic Discussion
I remember as soon as I turned 18 I wanted to try all the alcoholic drinks. Now I don't drink at all because I'm tired of my countries romantisation of alcohol dependency and constant 'joking' of alcoholism - Plus the taste isn't that great and I feel a bit buzzy after just one drink. I think this influenced my views from seeing my parents become smoking addicts over time and I don't want anything like that looming over me too. -
Probably the fact my ex was toxic ? It turned me off romantic relationships for a while. I'm with someone else now who makes me much happier. But sometimes I wondered what I did wrong previously.
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Of course! I'm greyromantic and look at fanart and fanfiction of my favourite couple all the time, and am attracted to fictional characters. I just don't always have the attraction to be "interested" in real people.
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I don't often pay attention to celebrities personal lives but one my favourite musicians is a new dad to a baby girl named Peach. She's adorable ??
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Arospecs are allowed to go on dates if they want. It's none of your business what we do in our personal lives.
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I blame both allo and aro communities because they've started this idea that 'aro = no romance' like yes, we may not be able to experience attraction but that doesn't stop us from wanting or liking romantic coded things. I've seen way too many aros ask why an arospec would want to date or like dating, like why do you care so much??
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This thread was made for me. I was never a fan of the big, extravagant weddings. I'd prefer just a small wedding with maybe a handful of friends (probably not family as both my boyfriends and ours family relationship is strained). I don't really like engagement or wedding rings though I love promise rings I'm gonna attempt to break every rule possible, "only the bride can wear white!!" Fuck you, my dress will be electric blue & there will be no best man, just best girl
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Aros in relationships: Do you tell your partners that you love them?
Lovebird replied to a question in Anonymous Q&A
I tell my boyfriend I love him, because I legitimately do. I don't say it to my friends though as I'm aplatonic and I don't love my friends that way. -
I'm so sick of the "allo bad, aro good" memes 'cause the basic premise of the 'allo bad' is they enjoy romantic relationships -- even though there there are just as many arospecs who enjoy those things. But when I call them out for simplifying the experience of greyro, demiros ect, people say "calm down, it's just a meme" It is offensive and you're stereotyping arospecs. Just say you hate romance-favourable aros and go
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Tell that to r/aromantic where they bitch & moan about allos- every. freaking. day.
I'm not here as an aro person in aro safe spaces, to bully allos for existing. I am here to discuss how being greyromantic affects me in an allo world. I want to live in a world where we all live in peace, none of this "I'm better than you" bullshit.
What bought this on was a cringy virgin vs chad meme. The virgin (allo) was portayed as a stricty monogamous (polyamourous allos didn't exist to OP apparently), deals with breakups (allos apparently haven't had to deal with friendship breakups), no flag (the allosexual flag is a thing, but it's super uncommon & not even other allos use it so i'm giving a pass on OP for this one), always prioritises romance (stereotyping allos as hypersexual/romantic... totally not repackaged homophobia). The chad (aro) was no monogamy (polyamourous aros do exist lol), cool flag (based tho), no breakups (not like aros have had to leave toxic QPRs or anything), understands the 'value of friendship' (aplatonic is a thing~) and of course forgetting greyros & demiros exist episode 4674.
Someone actually did call OP out for the meme, calling it exclusionary and such. But everyone just kept saying "it's just a meme!"
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Currently in a romantic LDR with my boyfriend of 4-5, who also happens to be arospec. We're both romance - favourable aros, we talk about shipping & fanfiction a lot so that's fun lol Though it's difficult as I often feel not really aro for being in a romantic relationship. I personally think romance-favourable aros, greyros, demiros ect arn't taken seriously and are considered 'allo lite', if you're an aro in a romantic relationship, you're considered a weirdo or 'crazy'
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What do you think of romance? What type of aro person are you?
Lovebird replied to Alexander's topic in Aromantic Discussion
I'm a romance-favourable aro, though I don't focus on more mainstream romance like that on TV as I found that a bit boring. Romance in fanfiction & shipping in general is much, much more interesting to me, especially if the ship is not canon in the actual story. I find the storylines more interesting than any soap opera. I'm not interested in friendship or platonic shipping because I am aplatonic, it doesn't do things for me. Irl, I do actually have a boyfriend whose also arospec, we've been together for 4-5 years. It's long distance, and we're going really strong but I often wonder what it's going to be like once we've met up. He's very affectionate while I'm not as much, it's going to be an interesting dynamic lol. I don't really feel welcome in a lot of aro spaces because of those things and often worry if I'm faking it. I worry I'd be kicked out of IRL aro spaces because of it. -
I fear pride month bc I feel like I'm not queer enough to celebrate it
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lol I totally understand the feeling though. I've only come out to myself recently so I've struggled with identifying with the LGBTQIA+ label since I'm essentially cishet, not to mention how the broader community doesn't fully acknowledge aromantics (and asexuals) quite yet. However, I have met a lot of allies within the community who are open-minded and welcoming, and don't treat me as lesser even if they don't understand everything yet. tl;dr you aren't lesser and don't let other people tell you otherwise
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For me, I believe there's no one right way of "looking" queer. Obviously there is some degree of privilege for people like us who may pass as cishet that we need to acknowledge. At the end of the day, though, that doesn't make us less valid to be queer. From my understanding, everyone can have different experiences, even ones that don't fit into more "traditional" narratives. Just because they're different, doesn't mean any one experience is less valid. To be honest I've only been out to myself for less than a year so my thoughts might not be that well formed, but hey it's always nice to talk about things. :D
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I'm getting really sick of the aro community armchair diagnosing people as mentally ill because they experience something ya'll don't. I'm greyromantic and in an actual romantic relationship with someone, who just so happens to also be arospec, does that make me a psychopath according to ya'll? Not only this, it's also ableist as fuck as it implies actual mentally ill people are 'faking' their attraction or are 'delusional' for thinking someone would love them. My boyfriend, who has actual, multiple, severely stigmatised mental illnesses, is the most loving, kind, person I have ever met. His love, not just for me, but for his hobbies & interests are the most authentic thing I've ever seen. People also experience 'drug' like symptoms when it comes to any positive emotion, it's psychology 101. I've seen other aros describe platonic attraction as nearly like that, but I'm aplatonic and never related to that. Does that make me crazy too? Stop acting like people can just turn off their attraction (or lack thereof) like a light switch, that's not how it works.
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Saw a meme about being a romance-favourable aro and have never felt so called out yet validated in my life :D
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I can understand what you say for some reason I feel the same way about non romantic songs. Well there is some exceptions but only a few. Myself I love the Backstreet boys that only sing about love, can't help it just love AJ MCLEAN's voice, I am enjoying listening to their songs even if I don't relate to these feelings. (I know it is an old boysband but I am 38 and grew up with them. Bruno Mars' music is cool too
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