Emerald Cheetah
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Aromantic Representation in the Media Research Project
Emerald Cheetah replied to Emma's topic in Aromantic Pride and Culture
1.How do I feel about the little representation? Do I feel the representation is accurate? -Whenever I see aromantic representation, or a character has been confirmed to be aromantic, I always am really happy. From the media I've read and watched, it has been rather accurate. It's always appreciated whenever the word aromantic is used explicitly in the piece of media. A show that confirms their aromanticsm on the side is nice, but if the character says it that's the most ideal situation because it's raising awareness. I would like it if some media took more effort to show the struggles o -
based on what you've said, I would say only child since it sounds like you're not 100% biologically related to your other siblings. I suppose I should've specified in my question that I was looking for people to count only the siblings which they share both parents with when answering the birth order question. gahhhh, sorry about that.
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So a guy from my work asked me out via text today. He started by asking me to take his shift then said to make up for it, we should "hang out". I have some complaints with how he started out this date request (basically by putting me in a bad mood). But anyways, I didn't realize he was actually asking me out until he suggested that we could go out to dinner and that he would pay the bill. Then I started freaking out. I ended up coming out to him, but still offered to hang out with him as friends. He didn't take my offer which kind of annoyed me because apparently I'm only a romantic option 😒
The last time I felt like this was when I was asked out in 9th grade, and that was before I learned that I was aro. It's such a terrifying feeling. It's like a mix of fear, confusion, shock, stress and a squeamish feeling, not quite akin to disgust, but on its way there. 😖
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So I'm currently writing a two page paper for my sexuality class in college and I keep coming across this fraternal birth order effect. It basically says that with each brother born, under the same mother, there is a higher likelihood that they will be homosexual than the last one. It makes me wonder if this birth order effect could apply to any other sexualities or genders like aromanticism. It's a far stretch, but I have to say I'm curious. For me, I'm the youngest child and I only have 1 older brother. However, there is a 6 year age gap between me and my brother because my mom had 2 m
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I just finished reading "loveless" by Alice Oseman a couple weeks ago. It's about a character discovering that she is aroace, and also accepting and coming to terms with it. The book is amazing at showing off a diverse representation of characters. The whole cast of characters isn't white and there are other sexualities explored in the story as well. It was a real breath of fresh air to see aromanticism explored so deeply and this book got so soo many things right. I actually cried while reading one part near the end of the book because it described exactly what I wanted so perfectly. An
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Hello! I have to say that a lot of the things you said are very relatable to those on the aro spectrum. In high school/junior high I also made this conscious decision for myself that I wouldn't date for several reasons such as "I need to focus on school", "my school is small therefore there's no point in dating from such a small pool of options", and "high school sweethearts are statistically uncommon so what's the point?" etc. Sometimes I viewed love from a rather logical point of view which should've been a sign for me You appear to also be experiencing romance repulsion to a degree wh
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Hello Pieri! Welcome to the party 🙂 Make yourself at home. I totally feel ya on the rambling. I have a tendency to do the exact same thing 😅 A lot of us here also struggle with feelings of brokenness, myself included. The best remedy for this feeling is simply knowing that you're not alone. To always remember that there's a community of us who are here for you and probably can relate to what you're going through. However, an even better remedy would be to make some actual friends who are aro. Having at least one friend on the spectrum would definitely make anyone feel less alone and brok
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I can't relate 100% because I am aromantic and not demiro, but I can relate with the feelings you have expressed. I also am not proud of my identity. Sometimes there are perks like avoiding relationship drama, and being free to pursue my own interests without having to consult a partner first. But I feel any pro to my identity has more cons to outweigh it. Sometimes I wish that I had any other romantic orientation besides aromantic just so I could at least have the smallest chance of finding someone. Sure, QPRs exist, but finding one is next to impossible and not every aromantic wants one. In
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Was fine with just being me, but then drama happened
Emerald Cheetah replied to Monty's topic in Welcome And Forum Rules
I've searched many times for apps dedicated to forming friendships and well, they're almost never promising. Often, the apps promise to help you find friendship "and maybe more", so the app is already telling us that romantic relationships are on the table. Other times the app is deliberately misleading. You'll think that it is dedicated to friendship because the title of the app literally conveys a platonic term (I've literally seen apps that do this! AND IT MAKES ME SO MAD) but then the app isn't solely dedicated to platonic relationships???? arghhhhhhh. I did actually found one app tha -
This book is definitely one I have in my sights. Super excited to get my hands on it! If I have to guess, the author might just be drawing in unsuspecting allos before hitting them over the head with "psych!". It's kind of like people in movies who are like "I'm gonna be single forever!" and so someone might pick up the book thinking that's what the title is conveying. But then they'll be in for quite the pleasant surprise
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Was fine with just being me, but then drama happened
Emerald Cheetah replied to Monty's topic in Welcome And Forum Rules
Honestly I relate so much to what you're saying. I haven't so much had to deal with letting people down because I don't get asked out hardly ever (like seriously, only once or twice has that ever happened), but I find myself dreaming of having a partner of some kind. However, without any concrete idea of a close (non-romantic) lifelong partnership reflected in society, how can I truly know what I want? Sometimes I imagine a relationship that is really intimate both physically and emotionally to the point where the lines between platonic and romantic are blurred. Other times, I just want a fun -
How many crushes do people usually get anyways?
Emerald Cheetah replied to Rinkagaminex's topic in Aromantic Relationships
That's a very common fear even in the aro community so I totally understand what you mean People who experience romantic attraction would probably be better at answering what's the "normal" amount of crushes to have in a period of time. However, based on your description I would say it's fairly normal. Unless of course, your experiences with crushes are unusual. For example, your romantic attraction fades when your crush shows interest in you.Then you'd be lithromantic. Or perhaps Frayromantic, a similar orientation, where you experience attraction that fades upon getting to know the i -
"Love is a Mental Illness"
Emerald Cheetah replied to TripleA's topic in Romantic Allies and Partners
@Apathetic Echidna Yeah I keep getting distracted by the video and forget to read the lyrics almost every time I watch it as well 😂That's an interesting point. I never understood why it was referenced as a funeral but that interpretation makes sense. There were only some spots that made sense like when it mentioned that their fates were intertwined and they were dependent on the same anesthesia to survive. Makes sense since, in some cases, there are unhealthy relationships where people become, in a way, completely dependent on each other. I haven't heard of any place in the world evolvin -
"Love is a Mental Illness"
Emerald Cheetah replied to TripleA's topic in Romantic Allies and Partners
This response is both related and unrelated to the topic 😅 But your post reminded me of this song I saw called "The Disease called Love". The whole song uses a pretty extensive metaphor so I don't completely understand every single part of it but the title should be enough to explain that the disease is a metaphor for love. However it's clearly a metaphor and isn't saying that love is actually a disease! That's a bit far imo. Link (the song is in Japanese but there are English captions)
