Lovebird

😢 Heartbreaks are always downplayed, even the word is strangely cutesy. While I also don't "get them", at least I understand that they are very traumatic and painful and wish you healing!

I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know what I could say, but if it would make you feel better, then feel free to talk to me!! Either way I hope you'll  be alright!!

I'm so sorry. Six years is a long time. That's a hard break up. Just take it day by day and take care of yourself. We are here for you. 

@CanadianBird It never used to be like this two years ago, then things started getting really weird. Some also encourage cringe culture and other borderline ableist and outright homophobic things. A few months ago, the mods even tried to prohibit any mention of the word 'sex' to avoid "upsetting the asexuals in the sub". THAT turned out as well as you imagined, backlash from all sides was swift and they since backflipped on the decision. Last rule they tried to tried implementing was something like 'no bashing people for experiencing romantic attraction' the mods are not at all enforcing of that rule as many negative comments & towards romantic people have either slipped through the cracks or have just had a bandaid put on the them (the last post I saw was just days ago and was comparing romantic attraction to symptoms of schizophrenia (they do that a lot there), the post was subscentally locked but never actually removed and as far as I know, the OP who posted their "take" was never held accountable)

Yeah, I’m the creator of voidpunk and the subreddit + its associated discord server is so rancid I had to leave. I tried repeatedly to get them to stop behaving like that but the mods were never on my side. It’s vile

@Jot-Aro Kujo I was not aware that you were the original creator! That's soo cool! My sympathies for having your label being destroyed by utter assholes :(

OMG, 2 weeks, how did you cope?

I bought a tablet lmao, all the Youtube I want!

Different strokes for different folks I guess. People are allowed to think its gross or enjoy it. It doesn’t hurt anyone.

"considered okay" yeah but I'd hope they mean okay for them. Sucks when all the aros are bunched together under a set strict guidelines. like hey man, chill. it's a spectrum. don't talk shit about the things other people do, they could very well say the same things about you. golden rule or whatever

Kissing can sometimes be viewed as sexual. There are a lot of aro aces so in the aro community who are repulsed by the sexual implications. Also kissing on the lips is the signature move for every modern romantic movie / book. 
 

Kissing carries strong romantic and sexual connotations. Im not surprised some aros aren’t comfortable with it. 
 

With the societal context in mind how is the typical aro view on kissing hypocritical? 

 

Furthermore

You can think an activity is gross, repulsive or weird while also thinking it’s okay for others to do said thing. 

Sex repulsed asexuals don’t think it’s not okay for others to have sex for instance. They can still think sex is gross and repulsive and voice their opinion on the matter.

Same for aros who don’t like kissing.

Aros can find kissing weird or not understand the why but still respect others right to engage and enjoy that activity.

It only becomes an issue if gatekeeping happens, but I’ve never seen kiss averse aros gatekeep smooching aros. 

Ooooooo, congrats on figuring it out! :))))))