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well, today is valentine's day, and my feelings have changed. in previous years i felt a bit lonely on valentine's day, not because i wasn't in a romantic relationship, but because i wanted to get sweets and go places with someone i was close to like others did. but this year i'm thinking that it doesn't matter that i'm not doing those things today. after all, i have all year for that to happen

i have the following stim toys and jewlery: - snake twist necklace - spinner ring - infinity cube - cube with computer keys on it - tangle - die with a little die in it - mochis - click tracks fidget - pop it - interlocking metal rings - fidget spinners - silicone brush - ring with little balls on it - mesh tube with a marble in it (broken) what do you guys have?

would you guys please refer to me with it/its pronouns in the comments? i use them but people don't refer to me with them often

can i join the aro scouts? i'm greyromantic and am 17 years old

i think it does fall under the aromantic spectrum. there's a term called cupioromantic, which, according to AUREA, describes a person who does not experience romantic attraction, but still desires a romantic relationship. that reminds me a bit of what you're describing

- L (death note) = greyromantic - papyrus (undertale) = aromantic and asexual - ryou bakura (yugioh) = demiromantic

i've noticed that within the lgbtq+ community, not much attention is given to aromantic people. even less attention is given outside of it. in my homeroom there's a printout that says the A in LGBTQIA stands for "asexual" and "ally". allies aren't part of the community. aromantic people are. lots of people forget about aromanticism when they think about the community and it annoys me and i wish that that would change

ooh, cool

in the past, valentine's day has made me feel like i'm missing out by not being in a romantic relationship. if i recall correctly, hearing about people getting chocolate heart boxes and going on dates in celebration of the day made me feel a bit lonely. i don't believe i felt lonely because i wasn't in a romantic relationship, rather, i think it had to do with the fact that i wanted to get sweets and go places with someone i was close to like other people were doing, but knew that it was a romantic holiday and that my not being in a romantic relationship was causing me to miss out on such things. this upcoming valentine's day will be my first one identifying as greyromantic, and i'm curious to see if that knowledge about myself changes my feelings towards the holiday at all

if i remember correctly, someone who works on the game said in a reddit post that the main character is greyromantic and nonbinary. i'm not sure how accurate that info is though

i worry about that sometimes too. i'm a lesbian, and my best friend is bigender. one of their genders is demiboy, so, as i am a lesbian, by definition i would not feel romantic attraction towards them, as lesbian is non-men loving non-men, and a demiboy is someone who identifies partially as a guy. not only that, but it would be immoral for me to be romantically attracted to him, as he turned 16 in november and i will be 18 in april. despite these things being the case, i still worry sometimes that they will think i have romantic feelings for them because i compliment them a lot