Garlic Bread Posted September 10, 2022 Share Posted September 10, 2022 What age do romantics usually first get crushes and celebrity crushes? I'm an aromantic and I'm just wondering at what age did you get your first crush and what age did you get your first celebrity crush? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apex Posted September 10, 2022 Share Posted September 10, 2022 I don't get celebrity crushes but I do get crushes on fictional characters. I had my first real one when I was in elementary school, about age 10. Before that I had some favorite characters that I liked a lot, but didn't have fully-fledged crushes on (maybe bc I was too young?) I've heard alloro people talk about having crushes around the same age (or earlier) which confuses me even though I had adjacent experiences. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Posted September 10, 2022 Share Posted September 10, 2022 There's this article which suggests that alloromantics tend to develop attraction between 6 and 9 and allosexuals tend to develop sexual attraction between 10 and 13. There's another giving an age of 7. This one suggests as young as 5 (or less). 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garlic Bread Posted September 11, 2022 Author Share Posted September 11, 2022 9 hours ago, Mark said: There's this article which suggests that alloromantics tend to develop attraction between 6 and 9 and allosexuals tend to develop sexual attraction between 10 and 13. There's another giving an age of 7. This one suggests as young as 5 (or less). wow thats young 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 7 hours ago, Garlic Bread said: wow thats young These links are also useful for debunking when teenagers are told they are "too young to know". 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roboticanary Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 I know its less formal than a study but the ages people have said here in the question in anon q&a about when people around us started getting crushes might be of interest. getting a lot of 9,10,11 ish from that, although perhaps there is a delay between people getting crushes and making it known/us noticing them 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Posted September 27, 2022 Share Posted September 27, 2022 On 9/11/2022 at 7:54 PM, roboticanary said: getting a lot of 9,10,11 ish from that, although perhaps there is a delay between people getting crushes and making it known/us noticing them Also possible confusion between romantic, sexual and romo-sexual attraction. Since the colloquial usage of "crush" does not distinguish between these attractions. Even though they appear to develop at different ages. With physical/sensual, emotional, aesthetic and intellectual attractions often being overlooked and/or conflated with romantic. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
piroshki101 Posted October 3, 2022 Share Posted October 3, 2022 I asked some classmates of mine (awhile back) when they first got "crushes" and there was a huge range of answers. Some felt their "crushes" around kindergarten, while others felt it around elementary school. Also I definitely agree that there would be conflations of different attractions. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merli Posted October 4, 2022 Share Posted October 4, 2022 With reservations for that I'm aroace and this is just third people view, but still something I guess. My childhood best friend said he had a crush on me when we was like 6-7 I think? I don't know how serious it was (it was not a joke though) or what types of attractions. Not sexual I suppose, but still like something more than platonic? Idk, we was friends. Another friend had a crush when we was like 10-11. I don't know more exactly there either. Around that time was when they started talking about it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A User Posted October 8, 2022 Share Posted October 8, 2022 i did a survey once and i asked this question and i think if i remember right they mostly said 10-11 sometimes 7 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acecream Posted October 13, 2022 Share Posted October 13, 2022 5 friends of mine were talking about their first crushes and they all had them when they were in kindergarden or in elementary school (so between 3 and 10) and one of them when he was 12 I wish I would just have been perplexed but the way they talked about it made me feel as if I missed out necessary childhood experiences lol 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted October 14, 2022 Share Posted October 14, 2022 I had my first celebrity crush when I was eighteen. This celebrity was a friend of a friend, and someone that I actually had something of a relationship with. I don't think I would have fallen for him otherwise. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hemogoblin Posted October 26, 2022 Share Posted October 26, 2022 My friends started getting theirs around 11 - 17 (the later ones were due to repressed queer attraction). I remember because that's when it started becoming exceedingly clear to me that I was different than them. :o 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angrboda Posted October 26, 2022 Share Posted October 26, 2022 On 9/10/2022 at 3:10 PM, Mark said: There's this article which suggests that alloromantics tend to develop attraction between 6 and 9 and allosexuals tend to develop sexual attraction between 10 and 13. There's another giving an age of 7. This one suggests as young as 5 (or less). Wow! Really? I never understood what the heck other kids were carrying on about, even when we were all very young. If they were already having those feelings, that explains quite a bit of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
illumi Posted October 26, 2022 Share Posted October 26, 2022 i think romantic attraction for allos comes quite early during their childhood. because they later talks about their childhood crushes and it would all just be fictional characters and they got to know these characters when theyre like 5 sexual attraction definitely occurs later during puberty? thats what i hypothesize. it makes a whole lotta sense. the body has to mature and prepare for sexual reproduction so even aces can get sexually aroused at times. libido n stuff. not a very enjoyable experiences for my sex repulsed fellas 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AromanticAardvark Posted October 26, 2022 Share Posted October 26, 2022 That's really odd to me. The first crushes I knew people had happened at like 12 or 13 at the earliest! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaxIsCosmic Posted October 26, 2022 Share Posted October 26, 2022 I got in one of those stupid kindergarten relationships (I actually ended up dating the person for a bit about 5 years after but it didn't work out but we are still best friends) so I'd say pretty young. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acecream Posted October 30, 2022 Share Posted October 30, 2022 I faked my first crush with 12 and felt very old Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Gray Warlock Posted October 30, 2022 Share Posted October 30, 2022 When I was a kid I was neighbors with a girl about my age, 10-11 at the time. She had a huge crush on Jordan Knight from New Kids on the Block. About the same time was when I first heard of a girl having a crush on me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunny Has Anger Issues Posted November 13, 2022 Share Posted November 13, 2022 im somewhere on the aro spectrum, i was around 10, but i don't really count a celebrity crush as an actual crush Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Posted November 14, 2022 Share Posted November 14, 2022 (edited) 10 I think? But it depends on the person, because my friend had a big obsession on Louis Tomlinson when she was 8 so. I had my first real crush when I was 11, but to this day I'm not sure whether it was a romantic crush or not... And for celebrities, well, I'm not sure if I can call it a crush, but when I was 9 I was obsessed with all One Direction members, Elizabeth Gillies, Jenette McCurdy and Miranda Cosgrove. Edited November 14, 2022 by Keith grammar mistake 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EternallyTBD Posted November 16, 2022 Share Posted November 16, 2022 I’m aroace so maybe not the most relevant but I had my one and only supposed “crush” when I was about 7. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
apprehensiveanne Posted March 27 Share Posted March 27 From my observation with my allo friends, i think it starts around the age of 5-6 mostly on fictional characters (cartoon) and kids at school. Celebrity Crushes? Idk but it starts early 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AstrophelDragon Posted April 19 Share Posted April 19 I remember in 3rd grade this one kid who gave me a note on Valentine's Day asking if I wanted to marry him when we're older and I was so confused bc I was just like, "we're only 8/9 years old, why in the world would you ask me this now??? this is for adults to worry about" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted May 7 Share Posted May 7 On 4/19/2023 at 4:27 PM, AstrophelDragon said: I remember in 3rd grade this one kid who gave me a note on Valentine's Day asking if I wanted to marry him when we're older and I was so confused bc I was just like, "we're only 8/9 years old, why in the world would you ask me this now??? this is for adults to worry about" Yeah tbh it’s weird. Like when I was around 8 I told a friend that I wanted to “marry them and have 8 kids.” XD Looking back though that was just how I was trying to say “I like being near you as a friend.” 😅 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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