alto

I suggest you read THE OTHER SIGNIFICANT OTHERS by Raina Cohen. She talks about the end of a qpp with a woman named M.

Have you heard of the webcomic KIMCHI CUDDLES?

welcome!

Ofc you can!

If I told my ex about you, she would freak out.

My best friend (at the time, he turned out to be a jerk) came out as ace when we were both sixteen or so. So I started looking into being ace. I was only looking into it for the purposes of being a good ally, at the time I was pretty sure I was a lesbian. However, when about a year passed, and I felt no sexual attraction to anyone, I realized I might be ace too. I started saying I was questioning at seventeen, and I came out as ace at eighteen (after some sexual experimentation with my at-the-time girlfriend). Figuring out that I'm lith/aro has been a lot harder. I really only figured it out right before I went off to college. I was basically sitting down in Spanish class one day, and thought, "everyone I've ever crushed on, I've only ever wanted to be friends with them". This was a revelation to me. I then realized I could fit in very nicely with either the lith or aro category. I pretty much considered the matter settled after that. I did meet someone online after my first semester of college, and fell in love with him, but I still didn't want a romantic relationship per say (I wanted a QPR) so I feel that doesn't invalidate my identity. I am out to my Mom. I am not sure if she believes me or not (I'm autistic, so sometimes it can be hard for me to parse these things). I am also out to my stepdad. I think his main worry is that I'm going to be lonely forever and never experience love. That is a legit concern (I haven't told him that), because I spend a lot of time alone, even in college. But I have a really, really good crop of online friends (including one who calls me "Mom"). So, I am not worried about that for now. Hope that helped. ---Alto

I have aro socks that I wear sometimes. They aren't really conspicous. I should get an aro pride tattoo like @Dark Confidant has :)

I once posted a lot of queerplatonic memes in a groupchat that both me and the dude of my alterous/queerplatonic desire were in. He quit the groupchat and blocked me xD So don't do that.

Nice to meet you!

hey

welcome!

What about altos?

nice to meet you!

welcome!

Hey, any UUs here? If there are enough of us, maybe we could start a UU Discord server!

Hey, be nice.

I saw Brother Bear II with my Mom last night, and was rather pleasantly surprised. I saw it once when I was little. I remembered it as this really mushy movie where the MC finally finds a girlfriend, and everything ends in romantic bliss. However, upon re-watching when older, it actually wasn't like that at all. Kenai could really easily be headcanoned as grayromantic, if not fully aro. There is a lot of emphasis on Kenai and Nita's relationship, but it's not romantic for most of the movie. Most of the time, they're just good friends hanging out who have an unusually strong bond (queerplatonic?). Even in the end, when Nita turns into a bear, it isn't implied that the two are in a romantic relationship. It is just implied that the two have a permanent, lifelong bond. I was really touched by that because you never see that in the media, and that's the sort of relationship I want.

I have dated four people romantically. Never again.

I am aroace, I have been manipulated into relationships and sex that I didn't really want in the past. Things like this happen to aros too. We should talk about it.

I understand. I was extremely happy when I broke up with my second ex. My gender therapist was puzzled, so I made some bullshit excuses as to how horrible she was. But in reality, I was just glad to be free.

Welcome!

Bleh all around. I hate it no matter the overtone. A friendly peck on the lips, sure. Anything beyond that...no just no.

PM me for my Discord. I'm over 18, so I might not be a great candidate for a QPR, but I wouldn't mind being friends.

Hi Janis!

You will. It may take a long time, but you will.