Angrboda

If you only had a few moments to describe to someone what it means that you're Aromantic, how would you describe it to them? I think, for me, I'd explain that while most people say that there are millions of 'types' of love & that the romantic kind is the most important, I tend to see love as just one thing. (There may be some slight categorization. I.E. If the person is your care giver vs if they're someone you're caring for. But the love is still fairly similar.) I may have different amounts of love for different people in my life. I may also have different types of interactions with different people in my life. So, when people ask me if I feel 'romantic love' for a certain person, I'd have to say no. Even if I'm sexually attracted to someone, even if I love them more than I love others, it's still the same general 'type' of love, because I only know one main type. And no, that doesn't mean that I'm broken or uncaring. Yes, I'm a butthole, but that has nothing to do with the fact that I'm Aro. That's just my personality. How would you describe being Aro?

That's a good point. I do get tired of people lumping the two together & assuming that I'm ace, just because I'm aro. That said, I do think that we're slowly becoming more understood.

For me, I suspected that I was Aro when I first heard it being discussed on YouTube. Then I asked myself, "Is that really what I am? But I still think that having some form of significant other might be nice." Then I asked myself the really big question. Why? I came up with 3 answers right away. 1: Sex. 2: As a safety net in case something went terribly wrong. 3: Convenience, so that we can each do the chores that the other one is bad at. I then sat there for 20 minutes trying & failing to think of a 4th reason.

I've noticed that there seems to be a lot of gray area in what it means to be Aro. Not only are there different levels of being turned off/uninterested in romance, but there's also the fact that different people define romance in different ways & each person seems to be bothered by different aspects of it. For some it may be the hand-holding & pet names, while others might find dating or sharing a living space uncomfortable. Still others might be bothered by the whole thing & only wish to do friends with benefits or something like that. How do you define romance & what part of it bothers you?

Thanks ^_^

Hello. So, I figured out that I was Aro around a month & a half ago. I mean, I always knew that I was the way I am, but I had no idea that there was a name for it. Nice to know that I'm not the only one.