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SE: You don’t get to choose how much, and it switches between a solid binary or blazing brightness or impossible to see. SP: I get to cast wishes for myself and others however I mean them to be.

Qibli overall had the most entertaining and complex book if you ask me, while I’d say Darkstalker was the most interesting and fun character with a deep lore.

SE: You’re only in charge of the least important sides of K-Pop. Basically everyone hates you for it. SP: I’ve got telekinesis that I can control via intentional movements and thoughts.

Hey everyone… I’m not entirely too sure what to say. It’s been over a year now, I’ve been so absent, lost some, gained more, an I’m not really feeling like I fully understand these developments either. I guess I’ll just start with the big stuff. I was outed a bit ago, my parents were more than fine with it, though we don’t really talk much about it because, honestly, they’re just glad I’m not gonna be a father before leaving the house. It’s been such a long time, coming back here even for a moment just floods me with nostalgia, and I’m so glad I came here in the first place. I’m not sure who still is and isn’t here, but I hope that, like me, we’ve grown since then. I remember way back in February 26, 2023 (if my memory works right) how I started asking questions, all starting from a simple desire to educate myself on what the whole LGBTQ+ spectrum is, then I found something that sounded like me. I looked around, took an unholy amount of online quizzes, then eventually found this place, a haven to understand myself. And just like most others here, I learned about myself, looking inward and understanding what I felt, or in many cases, couldn’t feel. After awhile, I moved to TrevorSpace, and gained all the more insight and friendship. Alongside that, I got addicted to roleplaying and it helped me discover that I also had ADHD. That roleplaying addiction kinda exacerbated ADHD, leading to some garbage grades last semester, and to a diagnosis. Thankfully, Concerta and a bit of help made things better. I got wide hyperfixations on so many things, both for good and bad, and in just the course of a year, I’ve changed a lot. I may not know much about everyone’s lives here, likely for the best, but I do hope that this site, this community, helped us change too. It’s been wonderful here, and I’ve been gone for far too long. I may not be nearly as active, but I miss this place, and I miss these people. From a mere internet rabbit hole, I gained knowledge of myself and a group I can relate to. To me, that’s more valuable than most things that changed last year. I guess what I’m trying to say here is thank you, thank you to those that remember me for helping me so much.

Holy crap, I-it’s been a bit since I last checked arocalypse. School just rolled back around and I’m just a mess. I’m drowning in homework, and the more there is, the more impossible it is for me to actually do that homework. Every single bit of task paralysis is just taking its course, it took my parents practically staring down my shoulder to get it done and my mind has just been so… elsewhere through all the classes I’ve been in. I can’t tell if I just have a strong addiction or hyperfocus with trevorspace, but it’s just looking unhealthier by the day. I’m legitimately worried and concerned for a lot of my next few months in school; and I just can’t seem to work much without the urge to distract myself, stimulate my mind somehow, any way possible. It’s like all the signs are there and I never noticed them before they were all pointed out. I’m fidgety as heck whenever I’m supposed to sit down at the table, my mind is just focusing on trevorspace roleplays constantly, and I’ve gone to incredible lengths to be able to talk again on there as it’s where a significant portion of my daily dopamine comes from. Even right now I’m supposed to write a talk for church and I accidentally wasted half the time away roleplaying and now I’ve done nothing before my parents get back.

Holy crap this is actually good.

Well if there’s nothing after death, we’re physically incapable of imagining that since the best we can imagine is darkness eternal, yet you’re still there for that, so that’s not what it is either.

Yeah, basically me in a nutshell.

Spider-Man Across the Spiderverse

My #1 favorite ways to help tackle doubt is that if you have to ask if you’re faking, you’re DEFINITELY not faking. If you have to ask if you’re doing this to feel special, ask who you “want” to be special towards. Often when I think that I’m doing that to feel special, I ask myself who I even care to talk about that with, and I tend to just want that label for the sake of myself resonating with it. I have a feeling that you’re not the only one who worries, my general suggestion is to just try and keep talking with other aros, experiencing anything to distract, and try to remember that labels are DE-scriptive not PRE-scriptive.

Barbenheimer

Nuclear

another one bites the dust

I kinda hope that she is, I wouldn’t be surprised since her personality and most everything else is maintained.

It's always good to see, and I do think that Ken might be demi or something, but overall I'm just glad to see Barbie not need Ken at all in the movie.

Yeah, Barbie seems very intent on not dating and shows no signs of being allo in any way. She's gotta be one of the most aroace characters I've ever seen, and honestly, I really hope that Mattel confirms it or something. Ken is DEFINITELY allo, but seems to be somewhat ace in a lot of ways. He asks barbie if he can stay at her house and she asks "to do what?" Ken literally says "I honestly have no idea." You have no idea how overjoyed I was to hear him and barbie be the most ace couples known to man!

I'm gonna avoid that area, try to deny deny deny, and pray that I can keep things on the downlow. I want them to forget the incident, and once I figure things out, I'll hopefully be sure enough to know.

Oh boy, it’s like wanting to play a new video game and then YouTube is just begging you to watch content about it. XD

I’m saying they’ll be dismissive. Panicking lasted a short period of time, and honestly, I truly don’t care if I’m right or wrong, just that I don’t have to have this conversation with them yet.

So yesterday I was messaging on my account on quora, and dad inspected the account while I was awake. He checked my past messages and I had made a lot of messages on LGBTQ+ rights, and one of them used the wording “we” and “us”. Not to mention that the recommended questions on the main screen had “asexual” written on it, so now my dad probably thinks I’m bi or worse, ace (I actually am ace, but I’m not sure yet so I can’t explain this to him without really knowing more). I repeatedly said that “I’m not” when he asked about that (I never had any specifics on that), and now he’s probably already communicated his concerns with my mom as well. If I come out to my dad now, I’m gonna be told I’m too young to be aromantic, and I’m going to be called a liar for saying I’m ace. I can’t do that right now, and I definitely can’t take the worry of this anymore. He likely thinks that I’m bi, and well, he’s accepting, I just really don’t want to even get close to talking about that yet. Is there anything I can do to throw them off my scent?

Where did I say that? I’m actually interested…

I headcannon Isabella from Encanto as aroace. She only tries to marry in the movie because it would make the family happy, and pretty much all she wants is her own freedom and not to be forced into outward “perfection” via family pressure. She literally says “I never wanted to marry him! I was doing it for the family!” She also shows no interest afterwards, so I think it’s not unsafe to say.

Well, if they’re good as well. Some allies can be a little… too much.

Okay, I just watched the Barbie movie. Barbie is just so freaking aroace, and the movie was pretty good, but also just absolutely weird at the same time. She explicitly said she doesn’t love Ken, and shows no interest in romance at all.

Often they describe a slightly different feeling, and it’s almost uncontrollable for plenty of people. Besides, that arousal never really shows up irl for me, and it often has a feeling of desire attached to it. I think it’s partially the actual feeling people describe, and the wanting behind it. Someone would just naturally want to “do the thing” with that person, so if they were repressing, they’d struggle to withhold the wanting. I don’t really “want” anyone, and it’s never actually been about “that thing”. The definition for things is up in the air, but that’s personally how I see it.