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i don't want children, but i quite like them!

i'm incredibly, viscerally scared of pregnancy and birth, and i don't want 24/7 care of another human being. but i'm very fond of the children already in my life, and if any of my friends have kids i'm looking forward to being the cool uncle.

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Well, it is nice to see the typic videos of cute chlren doing x thing, but I would NEVER want to be a parent. I prefer to be an uncle. Anyway, I am studying to be a teacher, I will have enough kids with that. 

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Definitely not for the foreseeable future. I don't dislike kids, but I have 0 experience with them and am just not ready to be a parent. Plus I totally lack that "omg!! so cute, can i hold them?" instinct that more parental people have with human babies. Oddly enough, a part of me likes the concept of being pregnant, but... I don't think I need more than that ?

If I did decide to become a mom, I'd rather adopt an older kid (like 8-13+?) rather than have one of my own.

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Absolutely not, for pretty much every reason: I'm sex-repulsed, I need my alone time, I don't know how to handle young kids, the prospect of being pregnant sounds like body horror, don't have sufficient social supports, people assuming that I'm in or want a romantic relationship makes me angry and children tend to be read as products of a romantic relationship, etc

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I might want to be a dad in the VERY late future. But I really don’t mind either way as long as I’m not called a mom.

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I don't want to be a ren at all. The thought of being completely responsible for a little human is not pleasant for me. Maybe I'll get to be around for my siblings' kids. Idk. 

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A definite 'no'. I would rather jump off a bridge than get pregnant and have kids, and here are my reasons why:

  • Taking care of babies (especially twins) is hard, and eats all of your time+energy (take it from me, the oldest sibling)
  • The thought of actually having to conceive a child and giving birth is terrifying enough
  • The world is messed up, it'll probably squash the purity of a child like it squashed mine
  • The strain on my mental and physical health would be too much for me
  • If I change my mind, I'll adopt, simple as that

Thank you for reading this, have a good day.

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I feel like it really depends how financially stable I am.

I would never in my life physically have a child, but I would consider adopting an older kid.

I'm fine either way. No child or child I will always have a dog.

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On 2/3/2022 at 12:46 PM, Aroace Sailor Scout said:

I wouldn't be against babysitting sometimes, but that's as far as I'll go.

i babysat for like 9 years.  just for the money.  hard pass on having to take care of them for more than a few hours at a time and it costing ME money (where would i get that money if i couldn't leave them to work?) and i can barely take care of myself, partly due to depression, which again, having kids would elevate to suicidal-level depression, so.  to say the least i find it odd when people still try to convince me to have kids.  like obviously it's disrespectful to me but more notably, it's cruel to the hypothetical kids.  i would be upset if my parents hadn't been so delighted and prepared emotionally and financially to have me, why would you want a kid to be born to a single person who's the opposite of that?

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I think babies and kids are cute, adorable, funny and lovely and i love them(until they scream, misbehave or cry). But i don’t want any kids myself, i don’t have the mentality to take care of children. I would be the worst mother ever, cause i won’t take care of them and then i have to do things that they would like to do which i won’t. I let the family oriented couples do the job. 

5 hours ago, aro_elise said:

having kids would elevate to suicidal-level depression

Same here???

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I love children and adore working with them, however, I will never birth a child, because I am asexual and s3x repulsed, but I do desire to raise children or at least have an occupation that requires me to work with kids. I will most likely adopt or foster children once I am of age, and mentally and financially stable enough for children. :)

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I don’t personally want my own kids. I like kids and working with them, but I don’t want to be involved with them 24/7. I’d be much more content working in a daycare, as a teacher- even being a godparent or auncle to a kid. But I don’t want one in my living space all the time- just not my vibe. 

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No I don’t. I love working with children aged 7-12 and how they view the world. And I love my 4 year old cousin, but I am exhausted if I have to spend more then a few hours around him or similary aged children. I find baby’s to be loud and not cute at all.

Funny thing is, it took me almost 30 years to realise I am aroace, but I have always known I don’t want children. When my friends and I played ‘family’ as small children I never wanted to be the mom. And when we played this game where you blow on a dandelion and count how many seeds are left (because that was how many children you would get) I would make absolutely sure no seeds would be left. 

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