PeepsInTheChiliPot

It’s a hard question to answer but I usually say cheese potatoes

Lemonade

I’m aroace and INFJ

I’m trans masculine non-binary. I’m not sure about ever changing my name but it is feminine and I’ve been trying to think of possible options. I have always liked the name Jamie and it is unisex. I’m looking for a more unisex or masculine name. All my siblings and I have names that start with “J” and I want to keep that too. Anyone have any suggestions? Thanks!

I would be firm with them about your wants and your aroness. It is unfortunate for the people who may have a crush on you but it’s best to be clear as early as you can. I’ve done the oblivious thing before and it didn’t help anything, probably made it harder in the end. Hopefully your friends will actually listen. Good luck to you!

Autistic people have a higher likelihood of being LGBTQ+ but specifically aromantic, I don’t know about that.

Since I’m a baker, I’ve been planning and prepping for Valentine’s Day since the beginning of the year. It is a big bakery holiday so like others said, money. Personally, February 14th is my brother’s birthday so it’s more focused on that.

I haven’t been dressing androgynous for too long but I tend to go a bit more on the masculine side since I’m AFAB. I like doing a more masculine button down open with a feminine top under it. I once did an outfit with a black babydoll like dress with leggings and a oversized men’s sweater over top with chunky shoes. I just try to balance the feminine and masculine things in the outfit to how I’m feeling.

Picking a favorite book is hard but the Fault in Our Stars by John Green is a comfort book. It was the first book I read in which a young person had chronic health problems and it was relatable in a lot of ways.

I definitely want to have kids. I don’t necessarily need to have a bio kid but it’s not out of the question. I definitely want to adopt though.

I questioned whether I was bi or gay but never labeled me as such. So really I went from straight to questioning to aro ace.

So I’ve been questioning my gender for a little bit. I think I might be Demi girl or agender or something like that. I’m AFAB and I feel more connected to other women than men but also, I don’t really feel like a woman. I’m just a person. I like dressing/looking androgynous but there are times I like being femme. I want to get a binder sometime soon but sports bras work okay. Having a flat chest makes me happy. I don’t mind she/her pronouns but I really like they/them too. How do you bring up new pronouns to people you know? I don’t think I could tell many people but a few though. I’ve never came out to anyone in person. I told my three friends about being aro ace in text. The idea of telling someone is scary but also I’m starting to feel tired of hiding myself and letting people assume I’m cis and straight.

I don’t have children but would like to someday. Kids can definitely be exhausting but I like them better than adults a lot of times. They can be fun, imaginative, and insightful. Kids aren’t for everyone and that’s fine.

I don’t have much advice because I am in a similar position. I am AFAB and have always identified as such. But, I’ve realized I like being/looking androgynous and I kind of like they/them pronouns. Am I demigirl? A cis woman with a more androgynous gender expression? I’m not sure. You can try things out and see how they make you feel. Pronouns, clothes, etc.

There are a lot of romantic songs I like. I’m obsessed with ABBA so any of their romantic songs like Honey Honey, My Love My Life, and SOS. Chiquitita doesn’t seem overly romantic to me, more like someone comforting another. Whenever, Wherever by Shakira is definitely meant to be romantic but I like to think of it as about friendship long distance.