Trans Aroace Girl

I automatically default to all characters in everything being aro unless otherwise stated. It’s not even a headcanon, romance is just that irrelevant to me. Then I get surprised when someone does get involved in romance.

People actually do that? I’ve seen it on TV.

When I was growing up, I didn't like getting kisses from family members. These kisses obviously weren't romantic and I don't remember my lips ever touching someone else's, but it did have me dreading kisses that were romantic. Maybe that's not unusual for young kids, but I still felt that way well into high school.

Hard no for me. I see a lot of kids at work and I don't know how I could deal with some of them 24/7. I wouldn't be against babysitting sometimes, but that's as far as I'll go.

The store I work at had Valentines stuff out almost immediately after Christmas. I might be biased, but I never saw it as a holiday that required that much preparation.

Yeah, this sort of thing isn't unusual. To give another example, I'm trans, and I think I've always been a little dysphoric, but it only really got noticeable after figuring it out. On the subject of romance, I didn't always feel repulsion from it, but that changed once I realized I don't want it.

I've never really cared about it that much, even less so this year since this is the first one since figuring out I'm aro.

I've been waiting to buy it on Kindle, but that release keeps being delayed for some reason. I think the first date I saw was November 2, then it was pushed to I think December 28, and now it's saying it will be available on March 1. I hope that date holds.

I always thought Snufkin from Moomins gave off aro vibes. At least in the versions I've seen (don't know how other versions are different), he doesn't really strike me as someone that would do romance.

Only time when I feel romance repulsion is if I try to imagine myself involved in romance. When that happens, I usually feel like gagging. As for sex repulsion, that can be set off by anything that looks sexual. Depending on what it is, it ranges from making me feel uncomfortable to making me feel strong disgust and wanting to get rid of whatever's causing it.

When I imagine myself engaging in romance, I feel not badly repulsed, but enough to make me uncomfortable. When someone else talks about it, I can handle it. I've also been to a wedding without any problems. In fiction, I can usually handle it, though a lot of the time I'm still annoyed by it being there.

I have none.

I don't have to worry about maintaining a romantic relationship. I've always preferred to do my own thing and I don't think that would be compatible with being in a romantic relationship.

Oh yes. I wouldn't have spent time I'd love to get back worrying about what I thought were crushes.

They're just there for me. Not really any more to it than that.

I feel being aro is more complicated when your trans because it’s pretty easy to mistake gender envy for a crush. For years, I didn’t think I was aro because there have been girls I thought I had crushes on. This continued after I figured out I was ace because I thought I was still experiencing romantic attraction. It didn’t help that I was still figuring out my gender. I didn’t know the first thing about being in a relationship, and I never really felt a desire for one. At one point, I decided I didn’t care about the gender of who I was in a relationship with, so I labeled myself as panromantic, but I never felt what I thought was romantic attraction towards anyone other than girls, so I went with ace lesbian for a while before finally realizing I wasn’t romantically attracted to anyone at all. I realized that the whole time, I was experiencing gender envy. I think I would have had myself figured out sooner if I wasn’t trans, but I have myself figured out now. I still get gender envy, but I’m better at recognizing it now.