roboticanary

yum, especially for the proper big fresh ones. apple strudel?

pretty much, enjoy the madness

Hi Riku Revealing something important about yourself, especially as an introvert, is always likely to be scary. Revealing that to strangers even more so. Putting it on the internet where it will be open to see rather than just telling a particular person is a decision it is rational to be nervous about. For all the time I have been here the community has been polite and kind though, so hopefully time will calm you down. Enjoy your time here.

Welcome. Since everyone else has cake covered I guess I should welcome you with icecream.

Welcome. good to have you here Mo.

Your experience is certainly something I have seen people talk about before. The idea of thinking you are having crushes when what you actually have is a desire to be friends with someone is quite common in aromanticism. I have memories which come up now and then which make me think I might have in the past experienced romantic attraction but when I look back they all weren't. There's a whole thread on this site dedicated to shipping, this thread has many responses of people talking about their interest. So if it helps, you are definitely not alone in your experiences.

no worries, you aren't alone. I certainly have the same fears and plenty of other people do too. There was this article a while back on aurea about fears and so many of them talk about friends leaving for romantic relationships which they see as more important. https://www.aromanticism.org/en/news-feed/my-aromantic-fears-part-one

One thing that might be useful is a guy called Nik Hampshire did a really good set of videos with the titles 'being aromantic while not asexual' I remember this being recommended a while back in another thread and I would say there is a benefit from listening to someone setting their ideas out in a video rather than a short comment.

Sunday 21st http://www.arospecweek.org/ I think the usual plan is to start the sunday after valentines. Since that happened on a sunday this year aro week starts this sunday. (I would say tomorrow but I am terrible with timezones so it might not be tomorrow for everyone).

Personally I think a separate thread of things we have done might be cool and keep this for personal plans. That would allow people to be more comfortable posting things others have done. Your call though.

Hi I'm Aro found out around 23/24 although I am slightly hazy as to when I finally accepted it

7th at usual time is good for me too. Most of the time weekend evenings (about half 6 or later) would be fine for me.

Dragon Flower

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Sorry but the only explanation I can give seems rather blunt. I look at someone and think 'I'd fuck them'. Can't really give much more than that. I desire sex, I try to get other people to have sex with me. At least in my case its a fairly simple desire. As for the difference, the only way I can put it is that I want to fuck but I don't want to romance.

I am probably ISTJ. I have taken some test for this 3 times for this over the years that I remember and always got I and T.once got N rather than S and once got P rather than J. for the question about INTJ being popular I am not sure but here are a few thoughts that I suspect have something to do with it. people who go to fairly obscure, slow paced online forums like this probably lean heavily towards introverted rather than extroverted. People who look for clear labels to the way they feel about the world such as aromanticism rather than just deciding romance is not for them probably lean towards thinking over feeling. Also some ideas related to romance might swing the balance towards INTJ answers. e.g. if someone is romance repulsed, then on a question of judging vs percieving they are likely to prefer the judging option of not being spontaneous or improvised for the rational reason of not triggering that repulsion.

@An Aro in the Quiverto be honest anything funny. I don't really mind genre or art style I just like something that makes me laugh. By the way cheers for pointing me to webtoons, I was sort of aware it existed but hadn't really thought of using it.

Hi, hope you enjoy being here. The YMBAi posts are fantastic and something I wish I had seen ages ago. Also that thing about people getting crushes at like 8, that surprised me as well. Like how the hell? Out of interest what webcomics are you into? I only started looking at webcomics quite recently so if you have anything you recommend that would be really cool.

Welcome. I relate to the idea of knowing about being aro but not having a name for it. It is cool to have a word that leads to other people with the same experiences, hope you find this place useful.

I love those ideas. For next month my favourite is the idea of discussing aro activism. It would be interesting to talk about that after aro awareness week, It would be cool to talk about what people have one and how it went.

Ouch Good to hear you are able to get out of the place, especially as you say there is worse stuff going on there. That discount does seem rough, Not only does it disadvantage those without partners but also anyone whose close family are, say, split up or if they live far away. Your point about a bf/gf of three weeks beating a friend of 16 years is spot on as well, that sucks.

I'm in a very diffierent boat to you, physics research is my day job. I suppose the career itself hasn't had an impact on my aromanticism, however the cultural stereotypes of a young man going into science have been a pain. I suspect I would have had a better chance at finding out I was aromantic earlier if it wasn't for a large amount of culture showing the lonely research nerd. I pretty much deluded myself into thinking the problem was that people like me simply weren't any good at romance rather than that I wasn't interested in it.

Thats a good take I didn't really think about, hopefully it does spark some change. ouch. that sucks. Hope you have some success pushing them to be better.

I'm not sure I find it uplifting that so many people want change. The link you give shows the prompt as: “I want the world to change significantly and become more sustainable and equitable rather than returning to how it was before the COVID-19 crisis”. I don't really put much meaning into that, certainly if i were asked a similar question outside a pandemic I would find it hard to say that I dont want the world to be more sustainable or more equitable. I suppose on a personal level there are a few things I want to change. I want to keep make sure the online meetups and chatting that I have got involved with stay after the pandemic is over. Before I didn't really do social media but now I am finding a few communities that I am happy talking with so I want to keep that. Also I really hope i can keep up the financial sense which has been useful in the pandemic. Even before I wasn't daft but the fact that I am never having meals out at the moment and never going to events or holidaying has slowly added up. I think it would be good if I can put money away at a rate somewhere between what I am doing now and what I was before.

I'm going to do a bit of aro inspired miniature painting. A week or so ago I put my first little aro flag into my hobby and there are a few more ideas that I want to do. Also I'm going to make myself a white ring. I've been slowly getting better at making rings out of bentwood veneer and I now have some white crushed enamel that I can use as an inlay. I am also getting into blogging. I don't know how much I am going to do but at the very least I want to use awareness week as motivation to put some of the crafts I have been doing online.