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so according to your friend aro people can't get to know others anymore or start friendships, that's certainly the first time i've seen that take. i guess we can't truly comprehend the art of asking someone what's their favorite color ?‍♀️

personally 1 looks a little weird to me and 2 is too dark. i think 3 looks really nice though my only complain would be that it kind of resembles the lesbian flag and people might say it's a copy, but other than that it's the one i like the most.

i agree with nonmerci here, i saw someone once define it as this urge/desire to be the other person's everything, that makes you think about them constantly or get nervous around them. i've never experienced romantic feelings so i can't truly describe it (like the majority here).

there was a whole discussion about this one question on tumblr before, it didn't end so well...

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while i do check off as queer in a number of boxes, i don't like using it to label myself for mostly personal reasons. being aromantic certainly differs from the norm, it's kind of amazing just how much importance romantic love has in society.

covid-19 disappears.... at the cost of the planet exploding. but hey! that means no more pandemics! i wish the moon was pink.

false, it's 9pm currently. TPBM has eaten sushi before.

i always saw it as aroace but with a preference (when it comes to QPRs), however i'm not aroace so it's not really my conversation.

Lucky - Lucky Twice i really like 2000s pop, felt like this song could make it to the list (plus it's about loving yourself ?‍♀️)

i've certainly had to go through this exact same scenario before, even now i continue to get asked this question ?‍♀️ i'm glad that you're starting to feel more comfortable, when it comes to sexuality, attraction and the like it always come with a lot of doubt from oneself, though with time it goes away ?‍♀️ (at least in some cases)

while i haven't come out to my family or anyone irl yet, i just know my mom would tell me i'm being ridiculous ?‍♀️ glad to see your relatives reacted positively to your identity though.

as for flowers, i think daffodils would be a nice symbol, representing new beginnings (i've also heard that they represent awareness and inner reflection), along with the fact that they tend to be yellow in color, though i think yellow roses are a beautiful symbol too ?‍♀️ i suppose ice cream counts as an icon of sorts? i've seen in it in some welcoming messages (i'm assuming it's kind of like the aro equivalent of cake) and i remember someone on tumblr mentioning gryphons as an aro symbol too.

i'm assuming you already found your answer for this question but i'm gonna answer in case a guest has the same doubt. (and because i feel sad when seeing the 0 replies ?‍♀️) applying the aegosexual checklist to a romantic context would be my way to go to figuring out my romantic orientation, or generally any sexuality but simply changing the sexual context. even the definitions can be similar, it all depends on whether it's sexual or romantic attraction.

i personally don't think it's my place or anyone's really to tell you if your emotions are real or not, only you can decide if what you felt for that boy was you genuinely crushing on him or "choosing" to crush on him. eitherway, you mentioned you were 12 at the time, age in which it's pretty common to want to experience love and crushes so maybe those feelings could have been a reflection? but i repeat, it's not up to me to judge your emotions as true or false, after all, no one knows your heart as well as you do.

i'm still fairly new to the community, so take this as you will. you do sound like you could be aromantic, though i think it's important to clarify that aromanticism is not a dead end of sorts; you can still engage in romantic activities and relationships. i can personally relate to this in a way, and i understand that discovering you're arospec might seem like a huge let down in this sort of situations. however, you can do all of those things and be aromantic too, just maybe not the "aching" sensation that comes with love. (keyword: maybe) also, i don't think you're being selfish or using people if you explain to them first that your relationship is only gonna be temporary, it's common for people to experiment within their love life. and not wanting to kiss i feel is something you should talk about with future partners when setting boundaries.

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i certainly do ?‍♀️ crêpes are some of my favorite desserts (though here in mexico some people just put nutella or chocolate sauce on a tortilla and call it a crêpe)

kind of like someone else said before in this thread, i might say it if the topic comes up in conversation (depends on the people) but as of now it's not really anyone in my life's business.

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This is AUREA's definition of greyromantic: Seeing as she's been your only crush and the rest have been squishes, you could say that you feel romantic attraction on rare ocassions, therefore, you could be greyromantic! though, your identity and which labels you use are always up to you in the end, after all, no one knows your feelings better than yourself.

sadly, some people are too attached to their beliefs that they refuse to look beyond said beliefs or to be educated (as is the case with most if not all conservatives). it's not your fault though, he's obviously not being cooperative and doesn't want to.

i'll have to say lasagna, i could eat it for days and never get tired of it. and as for sweets nearly anything with chocolate, caramel or cajeta. i have a sweet tooth for a lot of things ?‍♀️

maybe try explaining what a squish is in a simple manner? like a crush but platonic? think of it as a common confession, maybe try making some small talk before you bring the topic up, you could explain what a squish is before telling your friend that you're squishing on them. you'll never truly know until you take the leap, if your friend wants to remain friends, then they'll attempt to understand your squishes and your identity. if you're still a little iffy on telling them about your squish perhaps you could let some time pass to see if it goes away. it's not overbearing, it's something that you and your friend should discuss since it's really important to you, i promise you you're not being pushy or annoying for wanting to let your feelings be known.