ilse

mouse

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i'm quite new to all of this stuff so take my input with a grain of salt, but i do believe that good communication between friends is important, especially when it comes to emotions. tell them about your squish, they might be weirded out by it at first but it's obvious that it's affecting your friendship as well as yourself. if they're truly your friend, i'm sure they'll understand ?‍♀️

lesbian here, no, it's not appropiation. anyone can have short hair, winged eyeliner or wear flannel. these things just happen to be popular among wlw, but they are not specific to us. i don't even think cultural appropiation can apply here since these aren't things that we created or that have their origins within the sapphic community as far as i know.

late to the party but as a lesbian, yes, there is a lot of focus on romance in a huge majority of lesbian and sapphic spaces. being arospec, sometimes i fear i look at women through the "male gaze" whenever i find them sexually attractive and also fear that i am propagating the "predatory lesbian" stereotype by doing such. i am allowed to find women hot, i am allowed to find women sexy, i am allowed to feel sexual desire for women and i am not "damaging" the lesbian community because of it. i believe the term you're looking for is bambi lesbian, which did in fact become popular on lesbian tumblr. and yes, with the whole "soft cottagecore uwu girlfriends" fantasy being incredibly popular in most if not all sapphic spaces it is quite alienating to see all of this people talking about what they think are universal experiences. posts about aro lesbians are usually about how "valid" we are and that's it, it's hard to find stuff about aro lesbians talking about their experiences (at least on most sites i've been, or we are just mentioned on posts about lesbians in general). in all honesty, the lesbian community could use more diversity when it comes to this type of things, it does get annoying seeing the same "i want to live in a cottage with my wife and do her hair while sitting on her lap ? uwu" type posts whenever i search up lesbian content.

hello! found out about this site through tumblr and wanted to give it a shot. my name is ilse (trying out different names online), i'm a demigirl lesbian from mexico who's pondering being aro. my crushes have always been chosen by me, however i later on realized that a good majority of those crushes were due to comphet on my part. eitherway, i have never experienced true romantic attraction and always wondered if it was due to the fact that the women in my life just weren't my type. i first came across the term aromantic on tumblr around 2016/2017, but never gave it much thought since most of the aromantic stuff there involved despising romance, something which i don't resonate with (i consider myself both romance positive and romance favourable, i just simply don't feel the attraction or the "butterflies" i'm supposed to feel), or talked about being asexual as well (i don't feel a lot of sexual attraction but it's not quite something that's important to my identity) thus i strayed away from the label for some years. a few months ago i remembered hearing about this website and decided to do a little browsing since i felt like the label was starting to suit me more, finding out about alloaros and romance positive and romance favourable aros has helped me a lot with reflecting on my feelings. and so that's why i'm here, pleased to make your acquaintance ?‍♀️