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Most recent song I've been obsessed with lately: 피노키오(Danger) by f(x), literally what was I even doing in 2011??

A lot of people (predominantly alloallo people) sadly treat aromanticism like a joke, I for one blame ace discourse on tumblr. As for tips, I'd recommend asking them to stop with the jokes, if they support you they'll understand that they're harmful to you, your identity is just as important as theirs. (also, if they're not aro then it's not their place to joke about aromanticism? they should know better, especially if they're part of the community)

Putting this here since it's sort of visibility related. Back in 2021 I remember seeing a TikTok of someone admitting to blocking random aromantic people because they thought the flag in their icons (the aro flag) was the "dreamsexual" flag. This rubbed me the wrong way back when I first saw it, you know, these innocent aromantic people being mistaken for a group of weirdos in more ways than one. Today I saw a post by one of my favorite artists where apparently the aromantic flag has been taken synonymous for "dreamsexuality", complety stripping it from its meaning and significance and twisting in nothing more than a bad joke. I was wondering what were other people's thoughts on this? P.S. For those who don't know what "dreamsexuality" is, it's defined by the clowns themselves as "being sexually attracted to Dream" as in the Minecraft youtuber, probably one of the stupidest things ever coined.

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Saw the development on TikTok, it seems like a fun game! (though what really got my attention were the colors of the characters and how they relate to my current fixation ?) I believe the nonbinary part was confirmed by the creator? I'd have to look for the post to be certain though, I think they stated that in a comment.

Definitely! February has barely started and people are already talking about it like it's next week ?‍♀️

Personally for me I define squishes based on how important this attraction is to oneself. You can feel a desire to be friends with any person and spend time with them, whether a strong or small one, but this desire must be important for you which I believe is what separates squishes from just wanting to be friends with someone.

As of approximately 4-5 weeks ago my biggest bringers of happiness and comfort are literally a bunch of office supplies ? Out of all things I could get fixated on...

Sometimes I think about getting one but get nervous at the thought of being questioned about it, the left middle finger is quite an unusual placement for a ring ?

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An aro character who is romance favourable, but I feel like that'd be too complicated to understand for allo people ?‍♀️

i would have loved to know i was aro around 2016-2018, back when i was caught on exclusionist tumblr ?

not sure why ask here out of all places but where did you hear this or get this snippet from? maybe that'll help.

definitely this, i might also suggest finding hobbies or interests to try and take your mind off the person? i believe some time apart could be beneficial in this case, log out and spend time off social media if possible.

no need to apologize! i agree with the comment above, while blushing is a common thing in crushes, it doesn't neccessarily mean there's attraction.

i think of men whenever i think about how i'd like to have children, but it never goes beyond that

got aromantic the first time and cupioromantic on the second try ?‍♀️

i agree with this definition, "qp" (term that doesn't really apply here) attraction and romantic attraction are both similar concepts with the difference that one is based more on platonic connotations, but then again qprs are very diverse in the attraction felt so i don't think it's fair to compare it to romantic relationships.

i also felt awkward most of the time in high school, i always thought that no one in my group was really "my type". it did get annoying hearing the same relationship drama over and over though, and sometimes they would come up to me for advice ?‍♀️

not sure if its been mentioned before, but both kissing booth movies. the plot is stupid, all 3 main characters are annoying, and it's overall kinda cringy (the omg girls....). not to mention that the friendship elle and the other guy (lee i think was his name) had going on is just incredibly unrealistic and it was almost obsession from the guy's part (the fact that he was ignoring his girlfriend during half of the sequel) and also i just don't like noah, elle should have stayed with the dancing guy from the second movie.

this part is similar to many aro discovery stories i've seen, the whole being uninterested in romantic relationships and crushing on someone just because people expect you to, that's a pretty big sign that you could be aro. though, at the end of the day, you know yourself better than anyone; so if you think aro fits, i say go for it ?‍♀️