reinyday91

Oh! Is it the same name?!

Thank you!!! I will for sure. Just gotta get a hang of where to pop in and chat XD

I've experienced something kinda similar in figuring out the different kind of orientations there are. For me what worked is thinking about the things I would and wouldn't be ok with with a person and basing my own boundaries there. Like. My friend A. stimulates my brain creatively, makes stories just happen and we work on them endlessly. For a while I thought I was crushing on her. But the feeling was an INTENSE friendship. Like. She is VERY important to me and there is nothing romantic or sexual about it. Exploring your own boundaries is the place to start I'd think tho! Boundaries are so important. ANd when you get to the point maybe, if ever, talking to someone about more you will have your boundaries laid out for yourself and know what you do and don't want with someone. If you don't feel romantic attraction that doesn't always mean nothing is on the table with some people.

I have had this issue as well! The way I've managed it is explaining to people how important they are to me - I have several friends that I have this kind of closeness too and its taken some adjusting to being open with it. But like. Explaining how they are important to you in a way that is different than romance and physical attraction. Their inner being or like. Their essence of existence is what makes you happy. There is no rush tho! If you're not sure they'd handle it well listen to yourself on why you think that. But I highly doubt they're thinking anything negative about you.

RIGHT. Ok. So She and I had been talking about finding people to flirt with and I think that she was just stuck on that. Like no. I don't flirt with people right away. Geez. Yeah! I'm good today but like. It was so annoying and frustrating.

I've known I'm aromantic for a while, a few years now. I realized that romantic relationships stress me out and I get avoidance and anxiety in droves. So no problem, I'm aro. Cool. But like. I want FWBs. More than one. And a Highlight on the FRIENDS part there. I have one at the moment, who is the worst about communication or meeting up, so whatever its all good. But lately I've been slipping back into realizing that everyone I try to flirt with our start trying to build the kind of friendship I need to be a fwb with someone, stops talking to me for some reason. They get bored I guess, or don't like that I actually try to get to know them. I was trying to vent to a friend this morning and she was liek "Well you're aro" even when I said multiple times I'm talking about making friends first. And she just kept pushing the "WELL YOU'RE ARO" as a reason people who I want to just build friendships with stop talking to me. Like no. I'm not even trying to flirt yet. I'm not even thinking about that yet. I'm just trying to have conversation. I'm in a horrible mood now and I am actually somewhat tempted to go home and work at the house for the rest of the day. I don't think I need anything that is directly in the office. So Idk. Basically I'm just a frustrated Aro who wants to start building fwb relationships and having 0 prospects for that.

Hi! My name is Rei, I'm a 30 yo demisexual, aromantic nonbinary thude. I live in Albuquerque, NM and have my whole life. I recently graduated with a masters from UNM. I work as an office manager for a law firm, where I've worked off and on since 2013. I'm a writer and artist (see my Instagram for my art!) I'm trying to make other aro friends really, and if anyone is in ABQ I'd love to chat over coffee or something. I'm really trying to understand myself and where I stand. I'd love to chat and get to know people!