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In Sweden there's a radio show in which various people each gets an hour to talk about whatever they choose and pick music to go with it. I was listening to one about a opera singer who in one segment talked about her experience of finally finding a song teacher who could help her develop her voice. The song that went with this story... a romantic love song of course, about a woman finding her perfect man who brings her coffee. How come there aren't a doussin popular songs about someone finding their teacher or mentor? It's such a common experience.

When I was making a friend shipping video for two characters in a show I used "Find out who your friends are" by Tracy Lawrence.

Hi Have you looked into descriptions other kinds of attractions. It's not just all sexual or romantic https://www.aromanticism.org/en/attraction-relationship-terms

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Yeah it's at the top of the google docs

Where do you live? Are there any groups for aromantics there? For example on facebook. You could start by posting there. Don't post about looking for a sexual relationship, that might seem too much upfront. But instead maybe say you'd like to meet other aroallos and talk about the difficulties you face. Then if you get contact with someone you could see if you too find one another sexual attractive, it might lead in that direction, or else you'll have some platonic connections. If there aren't any aromantic groups, try LGBT+ settings, or polyamourus or relationship anarchy groups. You can't guarantee someone wont catch feelings, but you could approach people who already have a romantic partner but aren't monagamous. That way they already have their need for romance satesfied.

A lot of people conflate aromanticism with shallowness and fear of commitment. So it would be nice if he has strong relationships, just not romantic ones. I suppose with bisexual people there's always the stereotype that they're hyper sexual and just want to have sex with everyone. So you could subvert that by having him not have very strong libido and maybe needing time getting to know someone before he is interested in sexual acitivity with them.

Hi and welcome! There's a discord if you're into that. I don't use it myself so I'm not sure where to find the link but I'm sure it's pretty easy to search for.

Why does romance have to be forever to be meaningful? Maybe they like brief romantic relationships same as someone else might like brief sexual ones. As long as they're upfront about their preferences I don't see anything amoral about that. However if they are staying they want their romantic relationships to be "forever" maybe they need to explore their pattern. Do they jump to quickly into a romantic relationship perhaps, mistaking the high of a new connection for romantic love. Do they have a need for approval which they feel the need for romantic love to satisfy. Are they a serial monogamist, unsure on how to function without a romantic partner to relate to. In general though, I don't see anything superior with having longer romantic relationships than brief ones.

Also Ursula from little mermaid is kinda an octopus woman and she's such an aro mood.

Hej @Natkat What happened to the Facebook group?

Yay thanks for awakening this topic ?@2 Spirit Cherokee Princess

I've been interested in relationship anarchy for a while, since it rejects the idea of amatonormativity, but not until now have I actually read the original RA manifesto. I'm sharing the link here in case anyone else is interested. I think it's very well written and inspiring. https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy These are the points: Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique Love and respect instead of entitlement Find your core set of relationship values Heterosexism is rampant and out there, but don’t let fear lead you Build for the lovely unexpected Fake it til’ you make it Trust is better Change through communication Customize your commitments

The romances in between the sensates in sense8 is such a waste of space. I like the two existing romantic relationships though.

My advice is that sometimes physical stuff is more motivational than digital. Example of something you could try: every morning write five things down on a piece of paper that you want to get done that day. Keep the paper with you and cross them out as you do them. Crossing them out physically is going to feel more satisfying than checking them of on a phone app.

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I feel like people only ever ask about progress for romantic relationships. Every time I meet with a friend I have to go through the obligatory update of their dating progress. Don't get me wrong, I'm rooting for them and hope they find someone, but it's annoying that they don't seem to find any other relationship worthy of discussion. For example I've recently moved in with a friend (who I've not been particularly close with), cause I needed somewhere temporary to live while I'm selling my apartment, and I don't get any questions about our friendship and how it's working for us to live together. Also I feel like my friends are just assuming the relationships I want are the same as theirs, just minus a romantic partner. They don't seem to consider that maybe I still want some aspects that they get with their romantic partner just not in a romantic relationship. I plan on talking to two of my closest friends about it. But with others I'm not sure. Maybe I should start asking them for updates about their friendships. Somehow that seems it could be a sensitive topic though. Many people have fewer close relationships that they'd like, especially this year with all the restrictions. Anyone have good tips for questions to ask people about their relationships without it seeming like questions about their popularity?

I understand that it's the desire for sexual contact with someone. But is it always as concrete as that? Or can it just be feeling a physical sensation of arousal by someone? If I look at a picture of a really hot celebrity I can feel sexual arousal from that, but it doesn't mean I feel any longing to physically interact with them.

First three episodes of season five are up on Amazon prime. This is such a good show for diversity. One of the main characters is even in a polyamorous relationship this season.

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13th December. Happy St Lucia ?

@cyancat I feel like there are some aspects of single narrative that are separate from romantic relationship. For example in my experience singles are assumed to live alone. They're assumed to be more career oriented than those with a spouse and kids. They're generally viewed as more comfortable doing things on their own. At least this was the narrative I internalized and sort of strived for myself. And it was not until later I've realized I do want strong committed relationships.

@DogObsessedLianne will you post link and date here when you've made a meeting? ?

Actually welfare is very good for gdp. In Sweden, my home country, most women work rather than stay at home, cause of subsidized daycare. But that's beside the point.

I'm happy to see others have similar thoughts. I wasn't sure if anyone else saw this connection. That's a good point. One could then argue that the ideal unit according to neo-liberal individualism is the nuclear family. Where one can get ones basic social needs met but still be flexible enough to adhere to the market.