Holmbo

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I haven't told anyone except my closest friends, and a few guys who were persistent in asking me out on a date. It's not due to shyness or anything. It just hasn't come up. The closest thing I've come to the topic is when my mom and I talked about women having grandchildren and I was curious how she'd feel if none of us kids had any children. If she'd be dissapointed. She said she wouldn't be and she'd totally respect our choices if we decided not to have any. I'll probably tell them at some point though. They'd be interested to know. I agree with you who posted about coming out would be good just to spread the word to people who are aromantic without knowing that's a thing. Think how lucky we are to be born in a time of internet.

I really agree with this. I might show this video to one of my romantic friends to see what she feels about it.

I had trouble coming up with a good title for this topic. My question is do you know of anyone who is famous in some context other than a LGBTA and is aromantic? I'm asking because I listen to a podcast called invisibilia where they did an episode on Daniel Kish who is an expert in human echolocation which allows blind people to see by using click noises. In the episode they mentioned that he is aromantic. They didn't use the term but it was very clear that's what they meant. I thought perhaps we could make a list. If anyone has more people to add?

I recommend it. You can also arrange different specific activities and meet people that way. Me and a guy met up to make a meal including crickets, because we both wanted to try it.

I'm thinking couchsurfing is a good way to kinda "date" platonically. It's a site were people can offer to host people who're visiting their city. Or just to meet up and show them around. I've hosted a few people and it's always been a good time. You go out eating, get to know one another. A few times I think they would have been open to sex had I wanted it. And there's no expectation of any romance because they are just there for a few days at the most.

I feel the same thing so it's probably an aro thing. I can understand that people's emotions are not always guiding them to do what makes them happy. I too can feel the urge to do things that makes me feel bad. But to not even be aware of it. It's like if someone was eating nothing but junk food and getting health problems and responding with "but I wan't to eat this food". What you want has nothing to do with it. It's making you feel bad, so don't do it.

I used to like the occasional dating before I realized I was aro. I would meet a guy at a club and think he was handsome. We'd dance and make out and exchange numbers (often he wanted me to come home with him but I never felt like it). First dates was often a lot of fun. You have this really intense conversations when you're trying to get to know the person and make good impressions at the same time. But it never went anywhere because I was not interested in either sex or a romantic relationship. I just thought it was fun getting to know someone. I probably wouldn't feel confortable dating anyone know without explaining my romantic and sexual orientation first. Because otherwise I would be so concious of the person I'm with possibly expecting some very different thing from the date than I am. But in principle I'd love to go on dates again. Also, there's not really much difference between a romantic date and just to people getting to know each other better platonically. Do you feel like you specifically want a romantic date?