The Gray Warlock Posted August 17, 2022 Share Posted August 17, 2022 It wasn't one specific thing. I rarely dated in high school, or after. I assumed there was something wrong with me, due to traumatic upbringing, and spent a lot of my adult life trying to rebuild my confidence. Because it's always a confidence issue. I did it all, self-help, fitness, martial arts, all the things guys do when they need to build confidence. It worked, but I still wasn't dating. It must be social confidence. I got a job where I'm exposed to people all day. All that got me was a realization I'm asocial as well. Years passed and, after a few toxic girlfriends I took up with out of desperation and an affair I shouldn't have gotten into, I was just weary of trying and sort of gave up. Then over the last couple of years I began thinking this is just my nature. I didn't have vocabulary to describe it yet. I made comparisons to a man who's gay, but tries to be attracted to women because that's what he's conditioned to believe, but after years of failures suddenly understands who he truly is. Except in my case it's lack of attraction I was suppressing. Then a few months ago the word "aromantic" was randomly brought up in a video I was watching (btw any fans of Megamind hear the theory that Metro Man is aro?) and down the rabbit hole I went. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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