Just a Bear Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 I posted a question along this line but it got removed for some reason. I just want to know the aromantic opinion on this question. how do they differ? why are they not the same? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momo Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 You know why it was removed, because you got a warning about it which you acknowledged. If you're willing to actually engage and listen rather than belittle people, this thread will be kept open. You however are on a timeout, which unfortunately didn't get applied automatically and this thread showed up, so take this time to listen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 This question actually has a very simple answer. It's about what you want out of the relationship. You want a romantic relationship? Crush. You want to be besties or permanent roommates? Squish. Other than that, it is basically the same feeling. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyancat Posted August 2, 2021 Share Posted August 2, 2021 (edited) is there a thing as qp attraction?? a qp is more or less what you want out of something. it says nothing about your attraction or sexuality. generally it’s people who don’t experience romantic attraction towards each other. but it could just be one person who doesn’t and the other respecting their boundaries as a decent person lmao. romantic attraction is. idk crushes ig. i’m aro man wdym what is romantic attraction OTL more relevantly i suppose the difference between a qp and a romantic relationship is what you want/need. people have different needs for different types of relationships. people may be really touchy with their friends and likewise be incredibly UNtouchy w/ their romantic partners. a qpr is going to be whatever that person needs for a platonic/non romantic relationship. a romantic relationship is going to be whatever that person needs to satisfy their romantic feelings. sometimes they may look the same, because the qpr is very touchy or the romantic relationship is very not touchy. the difference comes down to whatever fundamental feelings you have - and that’s a measure that can be different from person to person, but only for themselves. Edited August 2, 2021 by cyancat 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted August 3, 2021 Share Posted August 3, 2021 10 hours ago, cyancat said: is there a thing as qp attraction?? I don't know. Usually people speak about squishes for platonic attraction, but sometimes they can want a QPR with their squish. I always thought it was confusing and I always wonder if it meant QP attraction didn't exist and that QPR develops from a friendship, or if it actually exists. If some people who wants QPR know the answer, I'll be glad to know. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eatingcroutons Posted August 3, 2021 Share Posted August 3, 2021 11 hours ago, cyancat said: is there a thing as qp attraction?? a qp is more or less what you want out of something. it says nothing about your attraction or sexuality. Yeah, my understanding is that a "queerplatonic relationship" is not defined by any particular kind of attraction that the people involved may or may not feel. Rather, it's a relationship that is not a romantic relationship, but which the people involved have chosen to call something other than a friendship, because they don't believe "friendship" would accurately describe the relationship either. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyancat Posted August 3, 2021 Share Posted August 3, 2021 (edited) @eatingcroutons same i think "qp attraction" might be a false usage in this context. tbh u could probably derive a queerplatonic attraction in some sense? i use the word alterous, but different words for different folks - but i think what's more relevant to the question is queerplatonic relationships, which doesn't necessarily define what kind of attraction people are experiencing slash can experience. Edited August 10, 2021 by cyancat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ilse Posted August 9, 2021 Share Posted August 9, 2021 On 7/30/2021 at 4:55 PM, alto said: It's about what you want out of the relationship. You want a romantic relationship? Crush. You want to be besties or permanent roommates? Squish. i agree with this definition, "qp" (term that doesn't really apply here) attraction and romantic attraction are both similar concepts with the difference that one is based more on platonic connotations, but then again qprs are very diverse in the attraction felt so i don't think it's fair to compare it to romantic relationships. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aroace.ro Posted October 21, 2021 Share Posted October 21, 2021 On 8/3/2021 at 12:30 PM, nonmerci said: I don't know. Usually people speak about squishes for platonic attraction, but sometimes they can want a QPR with their squish. I always thought it was confusing and I always wonder if it meant QP attraction didn't exist and that QPR develops from a friendship, or if it actually exists. If some people who wants QPR know the answer, I'll be glad to know. Yeah I think that overall, a QPR can happen between people with any/ no attraction; they could feel friendship, maybe even lowkey romantic feelings. What matters is the type of relationship. But I think what people refer to when they say QPR attraction is alterous attraction, a desire for emotional connection that doesn't really fit into either platonic or romantic attraction. So how I see it, QP attraction is a third option, a combination of platonic and romantic feelings, but neither at the same time. Everyone can experience it in a different way. Kinda an umbrella term for attraction that is neither THIS or THAT, like non binary is for gender. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BloodyBlood Posted February 17, 2022 Share Posted February 17, 2022 On 7/31/2021 at 4:25 AM, alto said: This question actually has a very simple answer. It's about what you want out of the relationship. You want a romantic relationship? Crush. You want to be besties or permanent roommates? Squish. Other than that, it is basically the same feeling. rip i have both feeling for my partner Q-Q Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted February 17, 2022 Share Posted February 17, 2022 Well, a lot of romantic people do call their partner their best friend for a reason. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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