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About Momo

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    Hopeless Aromantic
  • Birthday July 25

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    Melbourne, Australia
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  1. For what it's worth, I use nebularomantic when I'm in the mood to be very specific. But usually I just use aro because microlabels aren't that important to me personally. This pretty much sums up my thoughts too.
  2. This thread is locked. It's been going downhill for a while and hit absolute rock bottom. Everyone take a breather.
  3. This post is locked - it's going off topic and getting into territory that's explicitly against the rules: A general reminder that this isn't the place to argue about whether someone is or isn't aromantic (or any other identity). I'd normally link to the AUREA website for definitions but their website seems to be broken at the moment. For others later though: https://www.aromanticism.org/en/glossary
  4. I do feel like I am missing out on certain things. Lots of things. Romance, partners, sky diving, travel... the list goes on. I don't really attach more or less emphasis to anything on that list. As an aro, I may be missing out on romance and stuff, but there's lots of things in life I will never do and that's mostly ok. I tend to focus on the things I want to do. If a romantic relationship is something you want to do, there are aros that have made that work for them. It just takes more communication with your partner than a regular romantic relationship normally does.
  5. People's likes and dislikes change over time. Someone can agree to something they genuinely want at the time and then some time later (lets say, 2-5 years) it is reasonably common that they may not like it any more. As an example, in my late teens and early 20's I genuinely enjoyed the romantic relationships I was in. In the last 3 years, I discovered that I was aro and I'd been treating my partners rather poorly, not out of malice or anything else, we just... drifted apart every time because I didn't have that attraction. And after coming to the realisation I was aro, romantic things make me feel icky - a reminder of the harm I've caused in the past, I guess. No one is capable of making a promise over all time. Situations, circumstances and tastes all change and cause our decisions to changes as a result. It absolutely could, and in fact there are multiple syndromes described in these terms. Too much avoidance is just as bad as too much persistence and rigidity.
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    Welcome! Anyone is welcome to be here, as long as they're respectful. We don't disallow alloromantic people here, and there's even an entire subforum dedicated to that. But do please keep in mind that this is a space for aromantic and aro-spec people and the rules are written to protect us in our own space. As long as you follow the rules, you are welcome here as is anyone else.
  7. Welcome! I went via pansexual on my way to ace personally. There's a pretty fine, very grey line between "I have the capacity to love everyone equally" and "I don't have those kinds of desires" for a lot of people since the second statement is technically also a subset of the first one. Good luck figuring out everything!
  8. Since the moderators are generally active now, it's been suggested that we should have a way to distinguish between Official Opinions and moderation actions and personal opinions. Going forward, official posts will be made in moderator green and regular posts will be in regular colour. This is an example post that you should pay attention to. This is my personal opinion, take it with a grain of salt.
  9. @Coyote @TripleA my note was mostly aimed at TripleA, I only quoted you Coyote to make a point about what would be OK to talk about from the original post. I'm locking this post as of now. If the OP comes back and wants more help, they should feel free to start a new thread.
  10. I like this. I'll raise this with the other mods.
  11. Lets keep this to conflict resolution (ie. how to deal with the friends issue) please - we're unlikely to get input from anyone directly affected, given this is a forum for aromantic people, in order to deal with the issue of which side is in the right.
  12. Momo

    Corrupt a Wish

    You are always happy - painfully so. The horror that you call a smile has long since frozen in place, the muscles atrophied and painful. But the pain only serves make you happier. You live out your days in a blur, one day more blissful than the last but ultimately meaningless. I wish people would respect boundaries.
  13. Winner? No one ever wins this game, we just constantly scramble over each other in a constant effort to be on top.
  14. Normally, cuddling would be an accessory to some other activity, talking or tv being two common options. The cuddle really only ends when either person wants it to, there's not a set time limit like say a hug because it's an ongoing activity.
  15. Content posted by guests (people who have not yet registered an account) will now go through an approval queue before appearing on the site till further notice. Unfortunately we're having some issues with some people trying to work around the systems in place. This will remain in effect as long as we feel it's necessary. Sorry to the lurkers for the inconvenience!
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