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  1. oh k thx u so much! u always help me a lot i owe u :]
  2. Sooo... anyone know the name/label when u get feelings for them but its fluid sometimes its strong sometimes its mild sometimes its platonic sometimes its alterous, etc? and what does it mean when just sometimes i desire relationship and other time no? and yes all about one person T-T srry for weird question ;D
  3. guys! So idk if im On Aro spectrum or im just Alloromantic, but i had one question i thought this place may be good place to ask since i have not find any alloromantic community, so... there is this girl has crush on me etc and we do all love dovey stuff, we act so romantic and etc, kissing, grabbig waist, singing, etc and anything that romantic couple do, but the thing is, i just see her as my super bestie sis, i dont have sibling but if i could have i wish she could be my sis i feel like im not crushing on her,or if it is, its so mild. two day ago she asked me if its fine i date her for 2 day,, and since i really love her and i did not want break her heart i said okay but for 1 day only, the first day we could date only for 15-20 min , and it was a bit weird but fun at time the second day, mean today, we dated but for longer time and around 1-2 hour, first we played maze game and then we went play another game { we only talk and meet online } called bloxburg , and we wanted date , though we could not and we just little built for tomorrow, its like i think tomorrow is going the last day for date . i personally think dating is fun, knowing each other, doing romantic stuff, pet names, and restaurant! for me its all looks like date, but the date that meant to know each other and have fun, in other hand i see it for fun, dating for me its like playing and hanging out i feel like, i like to date her, but as besties, anyone know if there is name for it? cause i feel like Queer platonic it does not fit it, idk if soft romo relationship fit, though i feel like its not right , i mean it does not feel right to call her my {Romantic Partner/Girl Friend} its just, does nto feel right though i like word partner, but not mention to romantic one , like , Couple Besties? Bestie partner idk, my question is, what is best Name/label for this? anyone know? also i really enjoy doing date stuff even with my normal friend too, though if they be fake friend or grumpy one i would not even talk to them much. idk im so confused help pls T-T { note : Also I really enjoy People crush on me, i see it as chance to do romantic stuff with them, and i would do many thing so they dont lose crush on me, idk does it mean im crushing on them? i mean i have experienced crush { though they all expect one was mild and short }{ i mean i just think if people dont crush on me anymore, they may not enjoy doing cute stuff with me anymore or spend time with me anymore , this is my real fear }
  4. thx for help, i feel i may be alloromantic witsh short crushes :I but most time i have alterous then ig is it possible to identify as alterous and alloromantic both? { my strong crush all lasts for hours at maximum but when its mild it lasts more and then change into alterous or squish or something else } though i feel kinda relate to lith flux/ aro flux since i feel romantic attraction { sometimes i get repulsed } or idk what is it possible im lith flux? or im just as u said romantic ? this is link : https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Lithflux
  5. heh yes ur right and thx for that site it was helpful! indeed most time i prefer fantasies wich usually lasts for days or hours Xp sometimes that two hour is strong and suddenly fade sometimes its mild and slowly fade ,some times when it last more than week it changes into sensual/ alterous attraction , i think idk maybe im just some random alloromantic who know, but thx u it really helped :> though sometimes i even desired relationship but i never been serious about it it was more like i was open or in other hand i like people crush me { though if they keep on wanting relation ship { romantic one } with me i probably get repulsed a bit or much even if someone i have crush for example get crush on me back but no, beside that wanting relationship with me i get repulsed , my question is what i am....
  6. okay soo uh idk how many time i have posted and asked but ik many time i have done it, this time i came with this question even that im aware i may be alloromantic but its just onfusing soo... recently { about 1-2 week } i get crush on people and it last for maximum 2 day but the weird thing is for that maximum two day or even less its kinda strong [ not very strong but still desire strong } or when i dont see them i rarely think about them etc or sometimes the crush i get i desire so much but some next moments i get a bit repulsed, or indifferent , and i get tired from them, in past the longest crush i had { though it could not really fit romantic crush it looked like mix of tons of attraction though if i see her i probably still love her but just less }{ not in romantic way ig } like it lastet for two month while some people come and says, years, like, WHAT!? yearss? i cant imagine having crush more than 2 month once i got crush on someone { it was mix of queer platonic squish and alterous and idk anything and everything } the first week crush was good but after the sec week it changed to horrible obsession and teriffered me , im probably sound like just one alloromantic but even if im just one really alloromantic i cant relate much with other alloromantic tips : { i desire {open } romantic relationships but the most thing i like is cuddle nick and pet names and the thins i cal them cute stuff the other thing i like i like people crushing on me i enjoy and i open to it but at the top i like to have friend to act like couple thats one of the reasons im so confused everything about life is super confusing ;n; } any advice/opinion ?
  7. okay sooooo i noticed i really develop mild crush on people and sometimes alterous/queer platonic /squish or idk { even if im alloromantic its still so dang confusing } so i think there is my friend of mine suddnly out of sudden { there has been time i crushed on her but for 1 month and then its changed into alterous then squish then again alterous anddd something super confusing } and this new crush on her { it was mild } lasted for 2 and half of day .__. but in the most i just though { aww it would be cute ti kiss her and imagine it { also i love teasing her =n= } }but the thing i really cant find out bu desiring to kissing someone cause i kinda desire kiss all :I and the thing im totally jealous person { kinda about all of my friend } and like, for those 2.5 day i was okay to be called couple { girl friend girlfried } and i find it cute but now after those two day if i fantasies same to be called her girl friend i may fel a bit repulsed, any idea what i am ? ;n; srry for talking to much btw and i deeply deeply deeply super deeply apologize if i made anyone sad T-T bow* srry ;> i think till end of my life i stay questioning ToT 😫
  8. hi there! im questioning and not sure if im lithflux or just some random alloromantic, the thing i noticed most time i get mild crush and the strong crush i got one of them really looked like strong romantic crush but was more queer platonic i had sexual fantasies etc and i loved her so much BUT i did not felt any jealous feelings or did not care if she wanna be my girl or no i wanted something else i cant say for now and i was fantasies about living with her though it was more like queer platonic with benefits now i take look at it , and also for example i was thinking if she would get marry and get child and etc i would take care of her child so well or if she could give me gift i would care it so well does these description i said necessary romantic? and another one was with strong sensual desires also i really liked her but more think i had in my head was { wanna be her best best friend } and if i had jealous feelings it was like from 1-10 in my fantasies were 2 ar maximum, and other crush i have got were quite mild though when i get mild crush im okay to do romantic stuff but as bestie wich i call it { couple friend} but if they want me to be their girl i had to reject them :< any one know what label i migh be im so confused T-T
  9. @Jedi , @nonmerci thanks you both so much i feel better and thanks you guys million time idk how to thanks well so i just tried my best and also sorry i apologized cause i think i mean i thought i make people sad and mad wich i do also i apologized in case and i wanna deeply thanks again for being super super kind to me and letting me stay here :>and yes i visit psychologist and uhh though i still have not talked about this subject.... and yes i can definitely say im spending most of my day to find the most label that fits me or if im even on aro spectrum or faking it cause i really fear from people judges and reaction but anyway heh idk what to say but thx you guys i feel way better and i think i can more relax search for labels and i deeply deeply apologize im so srry if i said something wrong rude or etc but thx u guys so much :> for everything 😊
  10. Hi so i came again for short time the label lithflux fitted me but now its just , idk im probably just some random alloromantic thats try to fit in aro spectrum, aint am? so uh srry if i made anyone sad by any thing...im just so tired from all struggles and sadness and confusion and everything i cant handle anymore ... so there has been girl i think it was really similar to romantic relation ship, like sexual fantasies and desires, holding hand kiss and all the things But i had no jealous feeling , like not at all jealous , and i liked to have queer platonic fantasies or idk the other odd thing is there is my ff i love her so much and its kinda looks like mixed of romantic and platonic cause i like romantic stuff but more as friend and i like being her bff as well other thing i was trying to get girl friend and when we start all lovey dovey stuff i could only see her as FRIEND or Bestie i could not imagine Well as her girl i feel more comfortable to being her bestie, her girl? sounds just one word to me but bestie and friend mean more for me and also i like kissing all though some people more and for the person i said idk its crush or squish or its mixed i dont have or did not have sexual fantasies but i have jealous but its mild and i have never got real heart broken im so confused idk what to do i think im only alloromantic or idk pls help i wanna cry srry for all these none sense srry im srry im so srry ;n; also sometimes i get repulsed if someone get feelings back when i have romantic attraction to them { its usually mild though } sometimes i dont have or if i have its mild and i get neutral maybe just a little happy i would be try relationship but i prefer being someone friend but just romantic talks and stuff as friend idk what i am anymore idk idk pls i beg im srry im so srry i just really need help i wanna cry i cant handle anymore for times i was thinking im lithromantic then lithflux then aroflux then now im so confused or as i said maybe im just some random alloromantic trying fit myself in aro spectrum again since i have been aromantic in past, please share ur opinions im srry if i made anyone sad im srry im srry..... though sometimes i feel pressure in romantic relationship i tried enter sometimes i enjoy sometimes i neutral some sotimes mixed but rn im crying so hard i feel pressure being someone girl idk idk help
  11. Hi! so uh i need help or any advice is fine, i will be so grateful if anyone even read this! <3.. idk why but i develop crush and have romantic attraction But.... when i enter one... i feel mad i feel crazy i feel i wanna shout and i feel im pretending and not myself im okay with romantic norms etc like calling someone babe.. { kinda okay } honey etc or kiss, cuddle etc .... ig its sometimes just looks like its not right... i seek romantic relation ship { even with my crush i some times desire as well } so much but always it last stand for 1 hour ;n; any idea whats wrong with me? { also when i see people crushing on me i enjoy and i may develop crush but when the relation ship start serious..... } { also when i see someone call me babe etc i may get uncomfortable for moment but then i again develop crush and again whe it happend i again feel mad uncomfy etc }
  12. Hi! i personally wanted share my experience, i have been aromantic asexual till last year but now idk what i am but may be on gray or spectrum im not sure but after while it changed, but i can tell u this it was not about right person for me, my orientation changed but i still cant stay in romantic relationship i feel uncomfy lol. so uhhh i guess it depend on person, people are different and how they gonna change or no is different, some fluid some no some people more fluid some less = ] hope it dont get u or anyone else sad heh =,>
  13. ye exactly TnT when it becomes reality i just get , feel really like no not my thing or idk replused , anyway thx for help = > i just dont know , im searching for my labels
  14. hi! i did not know where to talk about it soo.... i think i gonna ask it here srry if this made anyone sad, etc, i deeply apologize, so here we go:.. i noticed i develop crush/ but when i see my friends have crush they are TOOOO jealous or get TOOO heart broken or etc, compare to them mine are, crush but lol okay i dont get really heart broken even if i gte jealous its mild. beside i noticed usually most of my crush online are who they confessed me first and i beside that desire relationship but when i try to enter it even with my crush its get mild, i feel neutral, or some times rarely disgusted, or into stress feel like someone chasing me and the maximum girl/boy i had { im bi and i usually choose girls } it stand for maximum half of day cause i felt kinda uncomfy or idk, never really ebtered relationship beside i really really enjoy people crushing on me i may get crush on them too but relationship { romantic one } not really really my thing i guess but after we stay friend i get again mild crush but sometimes idk if its crush or no cause i have OCD beside that, i can have romantic fantasies about anyone and everyone and my fictional crush are more strong, i like fantasies but when it comes to real, sometimes it is just, um okay aha like this , so the other thing i really okay and love queer platonic idea, and Bff and squish but the things i really blush omg even rn im blushing im blush person indeed and ehem, i like do romantic stuff with anyone i like kissing holding hand etc but mostly as friend etc not really as romantic pratner, and ik this gonna sound horrible and creepy about me but i can fantasies about old women and kissing them and enjoy it { i prefer dont go to more than kiss lol } also i may even feel like i like touch someone leap even if i hate that person, i dont really feel like i need romantic partner but i can enjoy romantic norms with my squish and yes i easily get obsessive over anything so im just... confused just other thing i have been aromantic asexual till last year i was 16.5 now im 17.. and idk if im fully what but ik im not asexual more but about my romantic orientation, i just.... i need really help cause everyday im crying and struggling and suffer ;-; anyway srry for bothering u ;>😭😭😭😭
  15. holy moly @Nyusik i 80 percent feel like urs! i have to say thx u so much for sharing your experience it has helped me to know a much more about my feelings and that im not alone too i just scared to ask it here the only difference i have from u is that i feel neutral and i enjoy people crushing on me but then this click in my mind { so we can be besties! and do romantic stuff as friends } this is how most time happened to me , i mean i had some question, can someone be Both Bellues Romantic and Lithoromantic? im super confused about my labels ngl i have been aro ace spectrum till last year i was 16 but after i turned 16.5 i changed till now im 17 anyway srry for my bad comment ;>
  16. hiii! i most time feel like ur experience ngl! and but the thing is i sometimes okay sometimes not heh anyway srry i wanted just say i sometimes feel like u! <3
  17. thx u so much!... i feel better thx u all and thx u for being kind..
  18. Hi! thats right im alloromantic but i had some question about my squish, or idk crush im not sure, i wanted is it normal u blush and feel like ur face/head burning when talking to them, thinking about them or its mean its crush? cause i heard there is some people who has crush on her and i surprised but did not felt sad jealous etc it was more like indifferent, okay with anway srry for my weird question!
  19. as a alloromantic and allosexual person, im okay to handle some child around, BUT NOT IN MY HOUSE TnT i mean im okay with my current life but if one day my parents die by any reason or i get alone, i think i would adopt some kid, i think its fun to see some kid and watch how its grows up .... but my own child? i dont think, im indifferent about it also i dont think its much my thing, also i dont think i gonna have partner for raising child, the reason i chose im not sure is cause i can handle a it or being indifferent about it and im 40 percent dislike, 20 percent 40 percent like it, looks fun indifferent and how ever i prefer those old baby doll they wont grow up they not alive so im more comfortable. also i guess i prefer animals, how ever, srry for my bad comments just wanted share my thoughts like other.....
  20. Hi! i wanted do the quiz but it did not came upp eeekk QnQ btw i hope this wont bother anyone, so falling in love or crush in other hands unfortunately out of hands the main reason people get crush, etc googles explains : { Bukky Kolawole told INSIDER. Crushes are rooted in fantasy and tend to happen when you don't know much about a person but idealize what they are like, Kolawole said. ... If you get closer to your crush and develop real-life experiences and a sense of reciprocity, the crush can develop into something more } in my opinion there are all faults of brain for example i have crush or im still not sure if its squish but i really hate when i get crush on someone its really annoy me and i get mad at person sometimes cause i hate myself having crush ;-; the fact thats i have anger issues and i have been aro ace spectrum till last year { im not aro spectrum anymore i can say this clearly, or idk probably } albeit it has been were i was to obsessive with my crush like i could see her everywhere and thats kinda were scare me Q-Q
  21. hi! im not aro or/and ace but if u dont mind i would try to explain my experience from my romantic attraction if u dont mind! beside its all mostly my attraction and i felt like so heh anyway srry if i made ayone sad hope this wont bother anyone ;-; so romantic attraction, is usually painful for me but i had one squish wich was painful too TnT so i usually really blush to much, i feel like my heart is gonna explode and its really feel sick idk why TnT i like to be around them, my sensual attraction increase also i may or may not get sexual attraction , i usually day dreams when it comes to crush { i daydream for everyone even my oc, or flower etc i can daydream about anyone and kinda enjoy it or no } and u get happy to see them, but the most important thing that can makes u or anyone else, { depend on urself in not sure TnT i mean, nvm } or the way i usually understand its i usually leads to jealous like { ohh she is dating that person how about meee -n- } this is how i feel like and or its leads to im open to have relationship with them { im not really much into it but im open to it and i like dating people in online games like going to restaurant and talk about our selves, i automatic blushes idk why } so uhhhh srry this one was one of my most messed up comments >w< i deeply apologize just ignore this Q-Q
  22. heh ngl im nto sure but i thing it really effect me when i get squishes, probably cause i usually avoid to be friend with boys etc and i feel usually closer to girls btw srry if i send this reply i just really like to write comments, srry if i made anyone sad Q-Q
  23. Hi! ngl im nto aromantic or and/asexual but i hope it does not bother anyone if it made anyone sad, etc i deeply apologizee! 😣😔😓😖😖😖 i personally very very sensula person toward everyone TnT albeit i dont like Hug people dierectly, or in other hand its depend on person , beside i love to hold my mom hands in street, hig my mom like teddy bear or my mom hug me like teddy bear when we sleep, i like my mom pat my hands, pat and touchs my leg { like patting pls dont take it wrong QnQ } also when i was watching some video form reddit that there was someone scratching and patting their cockatiel for moments i feel like they are scratching my head and i really liked it XD my mom always call me kitten XD cause im to sensitive toward touch and pat and etc XD also i used my old cockatiel messing with my hair and neck and when her feather were touching my neck i felt soo good like omg so soft! { pls dont take this wrong too eek ;-; srryy QnQ } also once there was something happened and i was to scared and my father was scratching and patting my head gentle and i really liked it, and once i saw my Best friend`s lips in some view and i felt like { oof i wanna touch that lip i wanna kiss { not sexual one} } so idk why but im basically super sensual XD a;beit i fel like i need to say it that i really dislike when people when meet me try to hug me i avoid it or try to kiss my cheeks i really dislike it not matter who is gonna do that i even dislike when my mom try to kiss my cheek , hand, head etc i dont much like it the sound of it make me kinda angry TnT so anyway i deeply apologize i talked so much and i said bad stuff ;-; i deeply apologize hope this dont make anyone sad/much sad etc i deeply apologizee eeekkk X0
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