Jot-Aro Kujo

Voidpunk!!

I have severe ADHD, ARFID, inappropriate sinus tachycardia, and anaphylaxis.

Aaaaaaaaanyway. Good post, Magni. I think this has some really good points and I do think we should try to work on these things.

I... You do understand what the purpose of politics is, yes..? Politics decide the policies and systems that structure our lives. Everything that has to do with the way we live within our society is a political issue. I can understand being tired of "republicans vs. democrats" or "Brexit vs. EU" type politics, but politics also includes things like "How much of our taxes should go towards education?" or "Should our town sell the town green to real estate developers?" Everything is politicized because when our lives are inherently built within a net of laws and policies and decisions, changes to those things don't just magically spring up overnight via wishful thinking. Everything is a political issue. If we want rights for ourselves, that's a political issue.

1. Ancient Egypt, so I can Know Things 2. Modern Egypt circa 1820, so I can kill Leonardo from 1820 3. Spain just prior to the colonization of Puerto Rico, so I can kill my own ancestors 4. Rococo period Versailles, so I can wear fancy dresses

I think you might be confused as to what this website is for.

"Asexual &/or Aromantic" sounds good to me tbh, or at least as good as you can really get in a situation like this- I'm sure people could nitpick for days, but finding something that gets the job done is the real point. Also, speaking as an allosexual aromantic, who heavily advocates for allo aro rights and for us to have spaces we're comfortable in... I, personally, do NOT like the idea of saying that there needs to be a specifically aro group, with a non-ace organizer. It just feels kind of... Exclusionary, but in reverse this time? Yes, it's important to have safe spaces for allo aros/aroaces who identify more with the aro side, where we're not just treated as an add-on to asexuality, but I really don't think we should go so far as to push out our ace siblings. And especially because there are so few allo aros with an offline presence, and because community organization takes work- It'd be nice in theory to have a group run by an allo aro, sure, but for practical purposes? Where are you going to conjure up an allo aro who's willing and able to run a group? I'd much rather have an aro group run by an aroace than no aro group at all. And ideally I think the best thing overall would be to have a group that's co-run by multiple aros, including both aroaces and allo aros.

Yeah, ya mama's soft. And what's with this whole weird aro seme/uke thing? The fuck?

I... I am aro-allo, and I literally invented voidpunk. Voidpunk is not just for aroaces, nor just for aros in general. Please don't perpetuate the problem of crediting all of aro culture to aroaces.

That's totally fair, but the way you phrased it made it sound like you were defining what voidpunk, as a whole, is, which would be incorrect and could give the wrong impression to people who have never heard of voidpunk before. As I said, if these things are part of your voidpunk experience, great! But they're not universal, so I just prefer that they not be presented as such.

Oh, that's a good idea, I never thought of that. I'll give that a shot, thanks for the suggestion!

Yeah, I did indeed create voidpunk as @Coyote said, and uh... I don't mean to be rude, but none of the things in your post are accurate. That's not to say that none of them could share overlap with voidpunk, of course. If you identify as voidpunk and those things help define you, that's great! I'm glad. But none of that is at all what voidpunk is about. Please don't spread misconceptions, as I've already seen a lot of people wildly misinterpreting what voidpunk is to such a degree that it begins to be harmful to those of us who first formed the voidpunk community. The posts Coyote mentioned ought to help give you a better understanding of what voidpunk actually is.

I feel like "more than friendship" isn't a good choice of words... "Different from friendship" or "More emotionally intense than friendship" would be fair, but I dislike the term "more than friendship" in general because it conveys the sense that friendship is inherently beneath other forms of relationships. That's not cool. I can't imagine anyone loving anything more than I love my friends! That being said, could what you're experiencing possibly be a squish? If so, you're definitely not the only person who experiences stuff like that

Really? Do you really have to bring this discourse here? Haven't we all seen it enough?

Voidpunk!!

The idea that "pretty much all aros" have squishes is blatantly untrue, and extremely harmful. You do not have to experience squishes to be aro. You do not have to want a QPR, a similar partnership, or even just friends in general to be aro. Literally all aromanticism is is the absence of romantic attraction. You don't "need" anything else to be aro, and if anyone tries to tell you otherwise, tell them to fuck off.

I was about 18 when I started identifying as aromantic, but I knew I was different from everyone else in regards to orientation by the time I was 10 or so. I just never knew being aromantic was an option. I thought something was just wrong with me.

I'm sorry you're in that situation, but I'm confused as to what this has to do with aromanticism..? You might be better off getting advice on sites specifically about sex work. Oh wait, this thread is super old huh... Hkjfghkhdfg f

Mm... As an ADHDer myself, I can't help but have the Oh Fuck, Euthanasia reaction, yknow?

Yugioh.

Oh shit that's me Honestly, I like the second option best.

Oh 蟲師! I've never actually watched that one, but I've heard it's very pretty. I gotta give it points for interesting character design, but somehow I get it mixed up with 刀語 a lot? Lmao idk what's up with that tbh...

Yeah. The idea that English is the most accessible language and that "English" culture (what do you even mean by that? American? English? Australian? They're all VERY different) is the most universally understood is ethnocentric at best, borderline racist at worst. Do you have any idea how many people in the world speak English? Well? Care to guess? Yeah, it's about 20% of the world population at best. If you really want to reach a "wide audience", try Spanish or Mandarin. English is not some magical universal language and culture, and it's absolutely not fair to aros from other cultures to place English on a pedestal like that. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go watch some nice romance-free 遊戯王. (It's also perhaps worth mentioning that the Bechdel test is not about plain old feminism- It was designed, specifically, to see if media pass the bare minimum in being accessible to lesbians. Lesbians, specifically. I wish people would stop forgetting that.)

I... don't think having to be in English is a very fair criteria. Sounds pretty ethnocentric to me.

DAMN FUCKING RIGHT, TELL IT LIKE IT IS DOCTOR