The Newest Fabled Creature Posted May 26, 2023 Share Posted May 26, 2023 (edited) For me to generally marry anyone, which I doubt would happen, I believe I would have to feel a very strong alterous attraction to them. Even then, I may still not marry them nor have a relationship, but that's kind of the only way I'd see myself marrying anyone. The reason why I would marry them, if I did, would be for convenience for the both of us! Edited May 26, 2023 by The Newest Fabled Creature Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted May 26, 2023 Share Posted May 26, 2023 17 minutes ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said: For me to generally marry anyone, which I doubt would happen, I believe I would have to feel a very strong alterous attraction to them. Even then, I may still not marry them nor have a relationship, but that's kind of the only way I'd see myself marrying anyone. The reason why I would marry them, if I did, would be for convenience for the both of us! Whenever the topic of marriage comes up it’s taken very lightly in my brain. I mean I know that’s a big deal but to me that’s just.. there. Like if I was forced to marry I’d just drift through a marriage and break up afterwards. XD 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Newest Fabled Creature Posted May 26, 2023 Share Posted May 26, 2023 1 minute ago, HelloThere said: Whenever the topic of marriage comes up it’s taken very lightly in my brain. I mean I know that’s a big deal but to me that’s just.. there. Like if I was forced to marry I’d just drift through a marriage and break up afterwards. XD I understand that! There's times where I take it lightly, and then there's times where I understand the whole entire "big heavy weight and dream" of it that alloromantics make a big deal of. I only understand that aspect of it when I get cold sweats because someone in my immediate family would bring it up and expect me to agree (especially my mom). 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted May 26, 2023 Share Posted May 26, 2023 Just now, The Newest Fabled Creature said: I understand that! There's times where I take it lightly, and then there's times where I understand the whole entire "big heavy weight and dream" of it that alloromantics make a big deal of. I only understand that aspect of it when I get cold sweats because someone in my immediate family would bring it up and expect me to agree (especially my mom). Yeah, probably the only reason I’m impartial about relationships is that the full weight of what you have to sacrifice and the emotional connection inside it is like. XD 1 minute ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said: I understand that! There's times where I take it lightly, and then there's times where I understand the whole entire "big heavy weight and dream" of it that alloromantics make a big deal of. I only understand that aspect of it when I get cold sweats because someone in my immediate family would bring it up and expect me to agree (especially my mom). It’s strange how one moment someone can be impartial on marriage and the moment that it’s brought up for themselves they panic. It’s strange because that’s literally me. XD 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Newest Fabled Creature Posted May 26, 2023 Share Posted May 26, 2023 9 minutes ago, HelloThere said: Yeah, probably the only reason I’m impartial about relationships is that the full weight of what you have to sacrifice and the emotional connection inside it is like. XD It’s strange how one moment someone can be impartial on marriage and the moment that it’s brought up for themselves they panic. It’s strange because that’s literally me. XD Literally me! I would be vibing and then the mood is dropped drastically lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted May 26, 2023 Share Posted May 26, 2023 7 minutes ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said: Literally me! I would be vibing and then the mood is dropped drastically lol Like every single time that I feel ok with the idea of romance (not really for me) I get reminded that I’m NOT ok with that for me at all, far less for myself than I think. XD 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cryptic295 Posted June 25, 2023 Share Posted June 25, 2023 I think I would get married but it would be queer platonic. I kinda like the idea of getting married to my best friend even if all it meant is that we'd get to hang out all the time 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwiftySpeedy Posted June 25, 2023 Share Posted June 25, 2023 On 5/27/2023 at 5:27 AM, cheezmance said: Oh hell no. Just the thought of being tied (in any form) to someone else is terrifying. agree, rather just be left alone without a care in the world. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Green Bean Posted August 20, 2023 Share Posted August 20, 2023 I'd be down to get married to a friend for all the legal benefits and get my family to stop asking questions. The sound of doing laundry and taxes with my best friend doesn't seem too awful. Tho I'll most likely still keep the relationship open so my partner can look elsewhere if they want romance or sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zariah Posted August 20, 2023 Share Posted August 20, 2023 Probably not. I don't experience romantic or sexual attraction, so getting married for that is off the table. I honestly can't see myself in a QPR, and even if I was, I think that getting married for that would just confuse all my friends and family who don't get the nuance of it. In addition, being married generally implies you're in some way attracted to them person you're married to, and having to correct everyone every time they assumed something incorrect would be really annoying. For a similar reason, I probably won't get married for all the legal benefits like healthcare and such. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Confused Opossum Posted October 2, 2023 Share Posted October 2, 2023 i highly doubt i’d ever get married. even before realizing i was aro, i didn’t like the idea of marriage. why get the government involved in your personal relationships?? i can understand from a legal protection and tax standpoint why you’d want to get married,, but i think it’s bs you have to get married in order to receive those things in the first place haha. no hate to those who do what marriage, these are just my personal thoughts on marriage for myself 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 3, 2023 Share Posted October 3, 2023 I do not understand the question but nope Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frutiger aro Posted October 3, 2023 Share Posted October 3, 2023 i might if i had a QPP i was especially close with but generally i'm leaning towards no. yeah i'd like the financial benefits and perhaps even throw a small party (aka an excuse to eat cake lol), but i wouldn't want anything more fancy or serious than that. i'd rather just have a friendly partnership than be bound together by law, plus if it didn't work out it would be easier to just break up than to go through the whole divorce process. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helion Posted October 6, 2023 Share Posted October 6, 2023 That's a very good question. I believe my most favoured option for my future would be to live with a close friend, platonically. Marriage COULD still be an option, I mean, you don't have to throw a big, expensive party with a fat cake, guests, priests and whatnot, you can just sign legal papers and boom, married, officially at least. Here in germany marriage has plenty of legal advantages (Mostly financial), though I'd have to fully trust my partner of choice because divorce is actually really hard here and if my partner would not play along make it an excrutiating financial expense. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodbyeRepublicServices Posted October 10, 2023 Share Posted October 10, 2023 No. Not even for legal benefits. It's bullshit that you have to be married to get such benefits. Yeah, I may be at a financial disadvantage, but who cares? Money is corrupt anyways, and I'll stand up for myself, even if it means sacrificing some societal "benefit". 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pony5005 Posted October 13, 2023 Share Posted October 13, 2023 Nahh bro too much work 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balfrog Posted October 14, 2023 Share Posted October 14, 2023 The idea of it doesn't bug me. I will if I am good friends with them and there is some benefit. Sharing healthcare is a big one, and if it helps me adopt and raise kids all the better. No wedding, though a wedding cake could be nice. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 20, 2023 Share Posted October 20, 2023 Yes, but privately, in a small chapel, nothing big, it’s expected in my area and religion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeFritz Posted November 16, 2023 Share Posted November 16, 2023 (edited) Your perspective on marriage is quite practical and sensible. It's true that marriage doesn't have to be a grand and expensive affair; it can be as simple as signing legal papers to formalize a commitment.In Germany, the legal advantages of marriage, especially financial ones, can be significant. However, as you mentioned, trust and compatibility with your partner are crucial factors to consider, given that divorce can be a challenging and costly process.If you ever decide to take that step and are in need of wedding videography services, you can explore wedding wideography Sunderland for more information and options. Capturing the moments of your special day can be a wonderful way to preserve memories. Edited November 20, 2023 by JoeFritz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalina1528 Posted November 16, 2023 Share Posted November 16, 2023 I would like to live with another person and have a relationship that is just between us, I would like to marry them as a symbol of our compromise to be together. It probably wouldnt be a traditional wedding but some kind of event between close friends Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Antioch Posted November 17, 2023 Share Posted November 17, 2023 Sure. Having a life partner seems practical and I'd want the legal protection of marriage if we were to combine finances or have a kid. And parties are fun. Wouldn't be as emotional for me as it is for alloros tho Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
victusinner Posted November 20, 2023 Share Posted November 20, 2023 I'd love to have a friend who I could dedicate my life to being there for, and them for me. It is a hard, lonely world, and people tend to come and go, so for sure I'd get married if it meant having a beloved companion in my life. I don't believe there needs to be romance or sex in a relationship for there to be love. I love any of my close friends well enough to want to spend the rest of my life with them. I probably wouldn't have a wedding though, unless they wanted one, but I'm not really big on big events. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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