frutiger aro

thankfully i don't have a lot of personal experience with this . i've only ever gotten asked out once a few years ago back in college and it still makes me cringe when i think back on it, like i mean no offense to this particular guy but just the thought that there are really people out there who would think about and pursue me in that way honestly gives me the creeps. even the occasional stranger checking me out while i'm out shopping or whatever makes me want to run and hide lmao (though thankfully even this is rare). i think what scares me the most about it is the fact that there are some real sickos out there who don't take no for an answer. thankfully i've yet to encounter anyone like that myself but it's a major fear of mine.

while i can't answer that question for sure, i can tell you that celebrity crushes don't necessarily indicate your orientation imo. i also get them to an extent sometimes, yet i know i'm aro because those kinds of feelings just don't translate to real people for me. if that resonates with you then it sounds like you're on the aro/aroace spectrum to me. just my two cents.

yeah i'm a lot more into ARPGs too, chiefly because the combat's a lot more immersive to me as opposed to that of turn-based games as a general rule, though perhaps i'm not being fair as i haven't played a lot of the latter myself (save for south park: stick of truth before i got stuck lol). also damn didn't know BG3 had save bugs, sorry you had to deal with those. glad to hear they're patched at least.

i've been obsessed with skyrim for the past few months and holy hell is it one of the greatest games i've ever played and i regret not getting into it sooner. i also wanna start BG3 soon but i'm daunted because i don't often play turn-based games and i feel like i'll suck at it lol.

for an aro who's never been in love irl, i do fall in love with fictional characters (especially from video games) embarrassingly easily and often, lmao. it's kinda hard to explain these feelings, but i guess the best way to describe it is that i feel like i actually get what romantic attraction is just because i feel like i've felt something similar toward these characters, like the typical crush "symptoms" (like my heart fluttering a little at the sight of them, the urge to grab and smooch them etc. lol). that and i like romancing these characters in RPGs and the occasional dating sim, read occasional fanfics, and so on. maybe it falls more under aesthetic and/or sensual attraction idk, all i know is that it's the closest thing to romantic love i've ever felt, as embarrassing as it may be to admit lmao. ain't my fault modern game graphics are so beautiful!

one thing i love about being aro is never having to worry about participating in romance/date culture, like worrying whether i'm "pretty" or "desirable" or whatever, having to go on awkward dates, having to perform cringy romantic acts for someone, the list goes on. i'd rather just be myself and enjoy platonic relationships, thank you very much. another thing i find really cool about being aro is that since i don't get crushes i feel like i can view everyone more objectively, whereas a lot of allos seem to get blinded by love and view their crushes with rose-tinted glasses. lastly, i think it's just plain rad to subvert societal expectations. in a world that puts romance on a pedestal and discriminates against those who don't, to defy the pressure and stay true to yourself is pretty badass.

i think i'd be fine with pecks but the thought of deeper, more romantic kisses (like with tongue) kinda grosses me out, though i'm not sure if that's an aro thing, a germophobe thing, or both lol.

i'm usually a bit saddened when anyone dies, but if i was really invested with or grew up with their work then it can hit me pretty hard, especially a sudden/unexpected death.

tough to narrow down since i'm a huge movie nerd, but a few of mine are black swan american psycho donnie darko kill bill (really anything by tarantino) team america: world police the room

aromanticism is a spectrum ranging from little to no or very infrequent attraction, so that does fall under the definition. though if you need a more specific term, i would say that sounds grayromantic. really either label works though.

damn somehow i almost forgot about aro week this year. i don't usually do much to celebrate but i guess chilling on here counts lol.

now i'm in the middle of "haunted". i've got a pretty tough stomach when it comes to shock content but "guts" is easily the most nauseating piece of literature i've read in god knows how long... 10/10.

mostly PS5 and PC these days. i'm also still big into wii and PS2 (though the latter i usually have to either run on USB or emulate these days since it sadly can't read discs well anymore). in other words i play a little bit of everything lol.