Raininspring Posted April 14 Share Posted April 14 Another thought came to mind for how I realized I was aroace - being asked multiple times throughout my life what type of person I look for in a partner and/or what type of person I'm into and me having no real answer. One time I made a crappy attempt and the only answer I gave was, "um, maybe not someone too tall." 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Newest Fabled Creature Posted April 19 Share Posted April 19 (edited) On 4/14/2024 at 4:55 PM, Raininspring said: Another thought came to mind for how I realized I was aroace - being asked multiple times throughout my life what type of person I look for in a partner and/or what type of person I'm into and me having no real answer. One time I made a crappy attempt and the only answer I gave was, "um, maybe not someone too tall." I legit have had more people ask me that now I've come to terms with being aro, where I swear - no one confessed to having crushes on me, or tried to ask me out, or asked about my romantic life, before I even thought about questioning myself on being aromantic. Now, if someone ever asks me in what I would find appealing in a future partner, I would say, "the capacity to walk away." Edited October 24 by The Newest Fabled Creature 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
batbath Posted May 15 Share Posted May 15 Oddly enough, I have a tendency to forget that people my age (in college) are actually interested in romantic relationships. Most of my friends aren't currently in romantic relationships, so it always catches me off guard when one of them has a new partner. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
organs and bone Posted May 19 Share Posted May 19 On 5/15/2024 at 5:49 PM, batbath said: Oddly enough, I have a tendency to forget that people my age (in college) are actually interested in romantic relationships. Most of my friends aren't currently in romantic relationships, so it always catches me off guard when one of them has a new partner. very relatable 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eddie Posted May 22 Share Posted May 22 You're truly aromantic when your friend asks you: "What would you do if your friend likes your ex?" And then you just say: "lmao why would they like someone?" Que everyone looking at you like you're weird XD 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allhailtheglowcloud Posted May 25 Share Posted May 25 Coming to you live: just came out as aro (not ace tho) to my childhood friend and she asked me if I meant "a romantic" 2 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armored frog Posted May 26 Share Posted May 26 i have a few funny ones: - Once for valentines day we had to write a comic about valentines day, my story centered around a kid my age (i was 11 maybe 12?) banding together with her friends to destroy romance forever because its too yucky lol. i was genuinely suprised when everyone else wrote cute love stories, i hadnt even realized that was an option... - another one is litteraly every single game of truth and dare ever! truely the time when i feel most surrounded by allos. - one time, i cant remember if this was for school or not, i wrote some prank love letters wich where folded hearts with the text "i love you" but when you flipped some of the paper it said "i dont love you" or "i hate you" instead. i thought it was genius. i was prop 11 here too in other words, i should have realized way earlier that i was aro... bonus: my least favorite moment was when i had to reject someone :D not fun 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheSpaceArrow Posted May 30 Share Posted May 30 I've got quite a few. Some of these are actual moments and some are stupid questions that I wouldn't need to ask if I weren't aro. Either way, they might give you a good laugh. --When I was just ace and didn't yet realize I was aro, I used to think I was just super confident because I've never blushed or stuttered around my "crush", until I realized I've just never had a crush. --I deadass googled "when do kids start getting crushes" (it's age ten btw) because I couldn't tell if kids actually got crushes in kindergarten or if people just push heteronormativity onto kids that young of an age. --I don't understand the concept of "friendzoning". Why would you be mad if someone sees you as their friend? Sure, it's not romantic, but shouldn't you be happy? Why would people date someone they wouldn't want to be friends with? Why are you so mad that someone wants to be friends with you? --In addition to the above, I'm actually more worried about getting "romancezoned" by which I mean when someone wants to date you but not actually want to be friends with you. I get so scared that people I know (*cough* guys *cough*) only want to be friends with me to date me, and if I reject them they won't wanna be friends anymore. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jexen Posted June 9 Share Posted June 9 On 3/12/2022 at 8:53 PM, Alaska Native Manitou said: I was showing the new She-ra to my bff. When we got to the episode with the underwater club I said "watch for Perfuma & Scorpia flirting in this one." She replied "haven't they been flirting all along?" I didn't notice until it was obvious. my experience with every official (and popular among fans) ship while watching that show. (yes, even the "main character x childhood best friend, now enemy" one. I know, I should have known better) the only ones I got were the really obvious ones (married or already dating) also: sorry about this being kinda 2 years later, I hope it's okay. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nix Posted June 15 Share Posted June 15 There was a ‘grand opening’ of a park and a bunch of new apartments nearby so I went with my friends and collegues to enjoy the festivities. I met the architect of the new apartments and briefly chatted with him because we worked together on a project in my own neighbourhood a few years back. I complimented him on a succesful project and the looks of the park and he replied ‘Thanks, but the park was designed by her’ and he pointed to a lady standing near us. I turned and complimented her on the design of the park and she responded by pointed at both of us and said ‘Is this your partner?’ I was a little confused by that so I said ‘Uhm no? We worked together on a project a few years back’ and then she just turned around and started talking to somebody else? I was shocked at how rude she was being but nobody else seemed to think it was weird? I guess to her I’m not worth talking to if I don’t ‘belong’ to anyone… 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ekaterina Posted June 15 Share Posted June 15 (edited) 5 hours ago, Nix said: There was a ‘grand opening’ of a park and a bunch of new apartments nearby so I went with my friends and collegues to enjoy the festivities. I met the architect of the new apartments and briefly chatted with him because we worked together on a project in my own neighbourhood a few years back. I complimented him on a succesful project and the looks of the park and he replied ‘Thanks, but the park was designed by her’ and he pointed to a lady standing near us. I turned and complimented her on the design of the park and she responded by pointed at both of us and said ‘Is this your partner?’ I was a little confused by that so I said ‘Uhm no? We worked together on a project a few years back’ and then she just turned around and started talking to somebody else? I was shocked at how rude she was being but nobody else seemed to think it was weird? I guess to her I’m not worth talking to if I don’t ‘belong’ to anyone… Sounds like she's a snob and to her you aren't worth talking to if you don't belong to her specific group. Even despite you are a designer too... But that attitude is very unpleasant either way. Edited June 15 by Ekaterina 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wombat Posted June 23 Share Posted June 23 Last week I was in drama class at school and we were in pairs practicing mime. We were doing this activity where we had to present each other with a 'box' and the one of us would 'open' it and act out what using the contents would look like, and the person who gave them the box would have to guess the contents. Long story short I gave my friend a smallish box and they basically did the classic proposing position on one knee and opened the 'box' like they do in films you know. Like it was *really* obvious. AND I THOUGHT IT WAS A CLAM SHELL 😆😂🤣 My whole class were laughing at me and I didn't even know they were watching 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ASailorStub Posted June 25 Share Posted June 25 Me: *has a great friend who I love dearly* “Yea I really love them, they really feel like a kindred spirit and I can tell them anything” The a-holes at school: “So when are you gonna ask them out?” Me: “Lmao, like date someone? Why would I want to do that? … Fuck that’s normal isn’t it?” Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Collie Posted June 30 Share Posted June 30 One part of being aromantic is forgetting that some people honestly are miserable being single. Then I read posts about it on forums and I'm like.... damn, son. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
P4R4D0X Posted July 2 Share Posted July 2 So shared diaries was a trend in my kindergarten class for whatever reason, and one of my friends wanted to do one with me, so I agreed. She wrote an entire section just simping over this one dude and I, confused as fuck, asked her "You like penguin guy?" There was this time in 4th grade when we were asked to draw one frame of a comic, and then pass it to the person next to you so they can draw the next. I started mine off as a little horror story, gave it to the next person, and received a sappy lil' love story. To top it all off, when mine came back to me, it was an enemies to lovers storyline. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
P4R4D0X Posted July 2 Share Posted July 2 Somehow when I meet another aro irl we just... click, for lack of a better word. Like, before we even come out to each other, we sorta have the type of friendship that lasts a lifetime. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nix Posted September 24 Share Posted September 24 Today I was eating my lunch in a school cantine with some of the teachers I do a project for and the topic came to ‘what is a good and serious dating app to use’ I was only half listening and spotted a pretty rare bird outside. When I pointed this out my temporary colleagues they found this a very weird change of topic. I know this because they told me so 😅 Well excuse me for drawing your attention to something unique I guess 3 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FroggyScraps Posted October 5 Share Posted October 5 In 5th grade I would hangout with this one guy who was in 6th grade and all of his friends quite a lot during recces. Once it was a day or two away from graduation he just wanted to hangout and chat with me a bit while I was waiting for one of my friends. When he noticed her coming he quickly kissed me on the cheek and ran. My friend freaked and kept saying I was blushing when really I wasn't. I didn't feel a single thing from that interaction more confusion than anything. Thinking about it now if I was the type of person I am today at that moment I probably would've punched him without much thought. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
organs and bone Posted October 8 Share Posted October 8 at cotillion one time. instructor was like “raise your hand if you would like to go on a date someday” me be like Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
punnygirl Posted October 18 Share Posted October 18 I had been wondering if I had "romantic" feelings for a friend for a while. I didn't need to date him or anything, but there was some kind of strong like feeling when I was around him. When I heard the term alterous attraction, it seemed attractive to me. Still didn't make complete sense though. I finally decided to tell my friend something. There was always the doubt that I could be recipromantic and just needed to hear someone else's feelings to decide my own. I knew alterous fit best, but rather than define that to an allo, I told him I wondered if I had romantic feelings for him. After he rejected me, I felt the strong urge to clarify my feelings as alterous because romantic felt so wrong. I ended up coming out to him and it was actually really nice. A week later, the difference between romantic, alterous, and platonic finally clicked for me. Super embarrassing that I only figured out after confessing that my feelings were just extra-strong friend feelings. I haven't bothered to tell the friend this revelation. I had known I was somewhere on the aro-spec since I heard about it, but this has pushed me to think I'm probably just plain aro. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Newest Fabled Creature Posted October 24 Share Posted October 24 (edited) On 5/15/2024 at 7:49 PM, batbath said: Oddly enough, I have a tendency to forget that people my age (in college) are actually interested in romantic relationships. Most of my friends aren't currently in romantic relationships, so it always catches me off guard when one of them has a new partner. Me too! I literally forget that people are not like me: as in, more interested in doing hobbies, finding something to obsess/hyperfixate over, or wanting to hang out with friends. I forget that nearly everyone else in my life wants a romantic relationship, wants to fall in love or already is in love, or wants to go do things with their partner(s) more often than not. I also tend to forget that people may feel attraction to me and it makes me feel whiplash when someone makes that attraction known; i.e., when people would ask me for my Snap, which I found out on here actually that that is not a platonic question, or when people asked me if I was single. I would just stand there internally shocked like, "Wait... No... This ain't actually happening, right? This is a joke." And I would feel it even more so when I would be at work, to which then I would feel kind of offended because they expect me to reciprocate in an environment (like the workplace) that restricts any kind of flirtatious/non-professional behavior from employees. I would mildly think, rather irrationally mind you, "You're trying to get me fired >:(" On 10/18/2024 at 11:37 AM, punnygirl said: I had been wondering if I had "romantic" feelings for a friend for a while. I didn't need to date him or anything, but there was some kind of strong like feeling when I was around him. When I heard the term alterous attraction, it seemed attractive to me. Still didn't make complete sense though. I finally decided to tell my friend something. There was always the doubt that I could be recipromantic and just needed to hear someone else's feelings to decide my own. I knew alterous fit best, but rather than define that to an allo, I told him I wondered if I had romantic feelings for him. After he rejected me, I felt the strong urge to clarify my feelings as alterous because romantic felt so wrong. I ended up coming out to him and it was actually really nice. A week later, the difference between romantic, alterous, and platonic finally clicked for me. Super embarrassing that I only figured out after confessing that my feelings were just extra-strong friend feelings. I haven't bothered to tell the friend this revelation. I had known I was somewhere on the aro-spec since I heard about it, but this has pushed me to think I'm probably just plain aro. I rarely experience alterous attraction anymore, but I experienced it all throughout my childhood and towards specific friends of mine as I got older. Like, I would think about forming a long-term companionship with a friend of mine, but I never thought of it as romantic, and truth be told, I felt excitement in the fact that I knew this person, that they were in my life, that they were so cool, and not really any excitement towards what I was feeling most of the time, nor about "taking the friendship a step further." I never really got excited over being excited, if you get what I mean. What I felt truly didn't matter to me, it was the friendship that did. But of course, when I started noticing these feelings I labeled them as crushes or past romantic attraction. I've since learned to distinguish between romantic, tertiary, and platonic feelings over time, and found that what I felt was never romantic lmao Edited October 24 by The Newest Fabled Creature 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiger_hoods12 Posted October 25 Share Posted October 25 Me being annoyed whenever I heard someone had a crush on me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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