elmas Posted December 1, 2020 Share Posted December 1, 2020 Hello! I just want to let you know a little bit about me since I am new here. A few weeks ago I figured out I was asexual and a little later I realized aromantic describes me as well. I read through one of those lists of things that can apply to aromantic people and a lot of those things applied to me and especially to my past relationship. I have only been in one “serious” romantic relationship and looking back at it, a lot more things make sense if you put on an aro lens. Like a lot of aro ace people I get the feeling that the aro part might be more relevant for me in the future. Although its sometimes also hard to keep them apart. Discovering my identity as aro ace explains so much about my life. I am sure you have all felt the same. I cant wait to meet you all and talk to like minded spirits:) Its so hard for me to explain this concept to my friends. Like its not a real thing or something. I am really looking forward to meeting people who I dont have to explain myself to I have been on the AVEN forum until now, but I want to join the fellow escapees here I have also noticed I am not the only lover of romantic fiction on this forum I must say I still find that confusing. For the biggest part of my life I thought me reading/watching romance meant I was secretly craving it myself. But now I am very certain about my aro identity, but I dont have an explanation for my love of romantic fiction anymore... Wow, that is not the question I wanted my Welcome post to be about A lot of people seem to start here still questioning, but I am pretty certain of my identity. Might be age related. I am 26 btw. I came up with another question I have wondered whether I should contact my ex and share my new found identity with him. I feel kinda bad about some stuff and a lot of our problems make so much more sense now. Which brings me considerable peace of mind (that he might also deserve?). Have you ever contacted exes after identifying as aro? My problem is that you cant just tell people you are aro ace and they will immediately understand. I would have to explain everything and what exactly it meant for our relationship and I dont see myself making that sort of effort for anyone but my friends and family at the moment. I hope this doesnt sound selfish. Maybe its because I am new to this but I find it really hard to make allo people understand. I still have to wrap my head around the fact that most people dont think like me at all. I always thought I was just a slightly cynical person with the “normal” degree of annoyance at all things cheesy. Well, I am glad to be freed of my ignorance about this wonderful world of people out there that think just like me Or you know, similarly. PS: Any tips on uploading a profile pic here? Or am I the only one failing at it miserably? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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